Do daughter's follow there mothers MP timeline?

[Mum23boys1987]

Can us ladies pre menopause assume we will go into menopause around the time our mother's did?
I am just 38 and had hoped to have another child but am conversation with my mum who said she was 46 and went into menopause has me thinking my time is pretty much up I could be peri already.

God I hope not. DM had her last period at 57. I’m 50 and periods are very erratic with gaps of up to 4 months so fingers crossed the end is nigh!

My doctor once told me your mother’s menopause pattern is the best indicator of your own. And it was. No idea if there’s any evidence for it.

I think it's quite likely,my DM was 58 and her Mum was 60.
I'm 54 and still as regular as clockwork, so I've probably got a few more years to wait.

its A good guide and one of the things doctask you when being treated for peri

My understanding is that it's a guide but only very broadly. I had the same concern as you (I met my partner late, had DC1 age 39 & really wanted another but worried it was too late) and asked my mum when she went through menopause. She said at 48 she had her last period. I ended up naturally conceiving at 44, DC2 born healthy when I was 45. I had (& still do) have regular periods but looking back at other symptoms I think I've been in peri for a few years/well before DC2 arrived, so don't write yourself off x

In my case, yes. But I also inherited her periods and pregnancies. We both have long cycles, long pregnancies, horrific period pains, and a dreadful menopause.

Pretty much for me, couple of years difference.

Not always. I've two friends whose mums had early menopause (late 30s) but my friends went to late 40s and early 50s.
@Mum23boys1987 There are 8 years between 38 and 46. Lots of time! If you're concerned, why not have your egg reserve checked? You'd have to do that privately because the age of your Mum's menopause was classed as early, (just on the early side) so NHS won't help you.

Yes, my mother went through menopause at 40. I was ttc in my mid 30s and told my mother I was going to a fertility clinic because I couldn't conceive. At no point did she share the fact of her early menopause. At the fertility clinic one of the first questions they asked was about my mother's age of menopause. I then asked my mother and after being appalled at my highly intrusive question she said she had been 40. I was done and dusted by 37.

Do get your ovarian reserve checked and crack on. Your body seems to fire out loads of eggs as you are approaching menopause so even if you are peri it may be easy to conceive.

46 is young but not excessively so. Please don't despair but use that knowledge and act accordingly.

I have made sure to tell my daughter there is a family history of early menopause so she can plan accordingly. Wish someone had told me!

I think it could be a contributing factor but I doubt it is the main one.
All the women in my family began their periods later, at 15 and 16, most had babies well into their forties and hit the menopause in their late 50s, so there is definitely a pattern in my family, though I'm very aware that the plural of anecdote is not data!

Sadly not here. Still going in my 50s. Mum was done by mid 40s. And had zero problems, whereas I have been the peri bitch from hell for about a decade.

I did, we were both pretty much done and dusted by 52/3.

This was the case for me. Almost identical age to my own mum by the time I was out the other side.

I started my periods when I was 17. My younger sister started hers at 11, many years before I did!

I was post menopause at 54. My sister at 48. We have both had very different experiences of menopause.

When we asked mum when she started or went through menopause couldn’t really remember.

I didn’t

My MIL finished finished menopause by 45, so did SIL, there's definitely something in it, obviously not everyone will follow but I think generally yes you do...

Yes, my DM's menopause was mid/late 40s, mine was the same. I'm the eldest daughter. My Dsis ( youngest) is a bit later, early to mid 50s.

I think it’s a good measure. My Grandma and Mum had there last period at 49. I’m 48 in April and have followed my mums symptoms. I am really hoping I only have just over a year max it’s been a nightmare! Interestingly my mum put all her symptoms down to work stress it wasn’t until I started with it all she realised it was ‘the change’.

No -my maternal grandmother was early 50s, my mum had her last period at 50 neither with many symptoms and here I am, nearly 57 and still getting bloody sodding periods albeit much lighter than ever before!! However I haven't had any symptoms that I can't manage, but do still have a mirena which has been in for 8 years and I'm on the list for removal. Maybe that's why? Who knows!!

I don’t know when my DM’s last period menopause was as she had a suspected ectopic pregnancy in her mid 40s where her fallopian tubes or ovaries were removed resulting in end of periods. She can’t recall being in menopause. Her mother had a hysterectomy in her mid to late 40s too as did her sister. My DM and nana also had zero PMT and small breasts whereas I had severe PMT and significantly bigger breasts. I don’t know much about my father’s side of the family. I had menopause in late 40s/50s after dire perimenopause.

No idea about my mums menopause. She has never once mentioned it.

Either way, if you want another baby you should crack on!

More anecdata but my mum was 44 and I was 45, with peri sympoms starting around 38ish. I didn't want kids, so didn't have the time pressure, but my sister did and it was one of the conversations around that - that it's not an exact science but it is a useful indicator.
That aside peri really doesn't rule out pregnancy. Part of the hormonal chaos is your body chucking everything it's got into the mix - the everything must go sale of the reproductive system! Lots of women are more fertile around that time of life, hence the 'surprise babies' to 40 something mums who thought they were shutting up shop but with bodies who weren't quite in agreement yet.

I’m currently still having regular periods 8 years later than my mom’s stopped.

I'm going through it quite a bit earlier and quicker than my mum did. But I always had very short cycles so wonder if that used up my egg reserves? I always conceived extremely easily, my mum had fertility troubles. I think we just had v different systems!