Anyone else started to not enjoy holidays?

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I'm on HRT and all my symptoms are under control apart from lack of motivation.

I've stopped getting any joy from holidays though. We got back a week ago and to be honest it was a total waste of money. It didn't help that the weather wasn't great, but I felt so stressed while I was there about leaving our cats, about leaving our business with someone else looking after. It it just doesn't seem worth it.

Last year I didn't enjoy it either, again the stress.and we had a very noisy family in the apartment next door which ruined it.

I used to adore holidays and my partner still does. Its something we have always prioritised over other things. He has already booked for next June at the same villa we just got back from. It's SO expensive and should be an amazing treat but I wish we weren't going. It's not fair on him though if we don't go.

I don't know what to do

Yes and I like to take a supply of Canesten too. Just in case.

I also am done with 'sight-seeing' ...it struck me when I was in a Cathedral in Palermo - and I thought why am I here chugging along with hoards of others.

I dont do sunbathing / sitting on the beach.

I cant cope with the heat.

But I love walking for miles on beaches/cliffs etc so would prefer to go somewhere cooler ie stay in UK.

Places like Norway / Iceland appeal to me for a road trip.

Cant imagine going on a sunny beach holiday.
Not sure I can be arsed to travel any further than Europe.
Done with long haul - have travelled loads.

Just want easy, quiet comfort.

Cant be doing with hotels - all the faff to get breakfast - other people etc.

My fav holiday was a detached little barn in the middle of nowhere in Suffolk (which was great because there was nothing to do or see!) - pottered about with brunch and reading in the mornings - went out for a very long dog walk in the afternoon across fields and woods - ending at lovely pub with open fires for early dinner - then back home for a sleep.

Very peaceful and restorative.

I don't enjoy holidays so much now. I'm on hrt since 2021.

I've done static caravan holiday in Yorkshire this year. Weather crap. Was June as well.

Week in Spain. Weather rubbish for 3 days which completely ruined the holiday and I had food poisoning.

Weather and food poisoning nothing to with menopause. But I just don't want the hassle of having to organise stuff and my family and packing stresses me terribly now. My digestive system has really suffered through peri and I worry about strange foods causing toilet issues.

I am in the foothills of peri and one of the things I'm struggling with is the extra organisation required for travel. I think this is exacerbated because I have two primary aged children. It's so much extra work and I'm finding my ability to think and plan, to do extra on top of every day life, much, much harder. I don't look forward to it in the same way. All I really want is to be left on my own. However, I'm also finding sunshine helps alleviate the symptoms! I think it doesn't help that we like to travel around so that makes trips more stressful than staying in one place

You probably just need to do something different & go to a place where you can't hear what other people are up to.

You need a villa. Not on a complex with other people being noisy/irritating/breathing but on it’s own. Ideally with discreet staff that come and make everything lovely when you’re not looking and then leave again.

I used to live for holidays but since covid I have no desire to go anywhere, the thought of packing, airport and squashed on to a plane, all the hold ups and queues.

I have a lovely home and spend my time pottering and keeping my garden beautiful.

I think it's just getting older. Not menopause.

I like my own bed, don't sleep as well anywhere else.

Still have UK holidays in remote areas but no desire to jump on a plane and go anywhere hot.

I am menopausal and I get what people are saying here! For me, I enjoy going on short city breaks to visit sites of historical interest but I would never go on a package/ beach holiday for 2 weeks, my idea of hell. I think I am just getting old and I will only go where I fancy. I would be annoyed if me husband booked an expensive trip to somewhere I didn't want to go.

.... although I would be delighted if he went by himself!

Henry Cole of World's Greatest Motorbike Rides fame (so not averse to worldwide adventure through his life) recently said that he didn't care if he never got on another plane again.

It's not a menopause thing, it's an age thing. He's 60 this year.

Totally agree that no bed is like your own.

I'm at an age now where I feel the same about my shower, mug and garden bench.

I don't enjoy holidays as much as I used to. I travelled a lot between 28 and 42 and just cba really now I'm mid 50s. Plus I really don't enjoy all the planning and prep anymore, I'm a single parent to a teen so do all the organising.

I also think I got out of the habit of flying in COVID, now a 2 hour drive to the airport, faffing about arranging parking, queuing and the whole flight/airport process at either end just seems like too much effort.

My breaks now consist of going to a really nice hotel for two or three nights these days (generally all I can justify in a 5* hotel) and doing nothing other than a gentle walk once a day, reading, relaxing, eating nice food and drinking nice wine).

Even then I sometimes think it was a waste of money and I would have been better off at home.

Looking back, I think my parents stopped going on holidays in their early 70s. They never went abroad owing to finances, but even by 70 they had stopped going to their beloved Lakes hotel. Preferred their own garden. TBH I think one reason might have been the sleeping patterns that change with age! My dad was the most terrible snorer and at home they had separate rooms for years. They weren't really into self catering where you can get round this with more bedrooms.

I had a villa ast week. That was why it was such a waste of money. It cost a fortune for a week and I didn't really enjoy it.

Just got back from a mini break in Europe. I feel more tired than I did before as the air con in the hotel room was rubbish so I spent every night drenched in sweat and getting hardly any sleep as the room’s temperature wouldn’t go below 22 degrees 🥵 Even though the weather/outside temperature was normal ie 12 degrees.

This is my main issue with holidays. I don’t ever sleep as well as I do in my own bed and house.

We haven't been abroad for years due to finances and the fact i can't believe the price of holidays now.

But its not bothering me. A nice few days now and again suits me perfectly.

We recently had a weekend around various lovely bits of Scotland, including sitting on a white sandy beach on Iona, in the sun. It was a fantastic weekend. I don't drink, we didn't dress up, one fancy meal out i was disappointed in, next night takeaway sitting near the sea.

It was perfect.

I bet thats what you want now op.

That sounds like my perfect holiday - serene, uncrowded with beautiful nature.

I first went away after Covid last summer to Siciliy - so quite a few years since being abroad. I was always one to explore but I just hated being a tourist.

Absolutely this!

Used to love shopping for clothes, now it just bores me. Prefer charity shops or Vinted these days purely for the randomness!
Have an ancient car too - just not bothered about a new one when the old one runs fine.
Oh and going out for meals too - I just think I could make better myself at home!

I'm capitalism's worst nightmare!

Or OP's husband could go on his own?

I really don't think it needs a trip to the GP - she just doesn't want to go any more and that is perfectly fine (and normal).

Yes, that's lovely. I actually live somewhere like that and what you describe is what I do often.

I still in theory want my beach holidays as that's what I like doing. Its just that when I'm there I feel anxious and so it's a waste of money.

The only 'beach holiday abroad' - that I have enjoyed has been in the depths of Jan or Feb in the Canaries - breaking the back of the British winter has its positives and is refreshing - and its not blistering there or mobbed with tourists.

I seem to be in the opposite position to most people on this thread . I hadn’t been abroad for years , I went to portrugal last year and Ibiza this year and I loved it ! I could happily never do another rainy uk holiday ever again . I’m 51

OP, do you mind telling me where you live? I’m looking to move to the coast and I need inspiration. I’d love a DM with a heads-up.

This was me at 51. At 60 I'm happiest when I haven't been outside my garden gate for three days.

I'm 42 and have always lived for holidays and have been fortunate enough to have experienced so many countries. But, for the last 12 months just don't seem to enjoy it as much. Lost my joy and passion for holidays completely. The idea of having to pack a suitcase to go anywhere seems horrific. I just can't be bothered and would much rather be at home. I have a long list of other symptoms but this one has really got to me. Went on HRT 4 days ago.