Feel emotionally numb

[Bookist]

Anyone else finding that they feel just very meh thanks to menopause? I haven't had a period for 4 months now and seem to have 'lost that loving feeling' and can't seem to give a fuck about anything. All those fuzzy nurturing, loving emotions have disappeared. It feels so weird. Is this just the way it is now that I can't have any more babies to nurture? I'm not depressed, I can still have a laugh and look forward to stuff, but would ideally live like a hermit on a remote Scottish island for 9/10ths of the year.

You are not alone - can’t get excited about anything and not bothered about stuff I should be. I m probably not great to live with at the moment even though I have explained endless times. I’m on hrt but not sure it’s doing much for me.

Oh bless you, it's a bit rubbish isn't it? I don't feel sad, just meh. I used to miss my husband when he went away for work, but now if he had to go away for 6 months weeks I would just think meh, that's fine. I can't take HRT but sounds like it's not helping you anyway?

Just meh sums it up. I m used to my husband being away and it’s fine. I’m lucky in lots of ways but can’t quite embrace it. I feel quite detached Which I think it’s very common in menopausal women.

Very normal to feel like this. I find the vast majority of people get on my nerves now & id happily live without seeing 95% of them.

Yep me!
52, two teens, partner, health issues and find myself frequently going onto RightMove looking at apartments for 1 person! Moods are chaotic and libido either rocket high or dry and shrivelled.

No wonder this entirely shite time of life needs taking about!

Detached describes it perfectly. I can't be arsed to interact most of the time, just want to be left alone.

I wonder if the fuzzy, loving feelings come back once you're properly out the otherside of the menopause? I miss them.

@Bookist same.
I try really hard at work, but I can't muster the enthusiasm to interact unless I have to.

Not great.

I get you about the zero libido. Yet orgasms happen much faster and more intense, I just don't understand it. I keep getting really severe mood dips, like weapons grade PMS but not had a period in over 4 months.

Yeah it's really not great. I feel like a fizzy drink that's gone flat. Really hope it passes. Has anyone recovered their oldselves without HRT?

This will pass, Booklist, honestly. What's more, you will feel better than ever afterwards.

That's very encouraging, thank you. Have you come out on the other side?

I get you about the zero libido. Yet orgasms happen much faster and more intense, I just don't understand it. I keep getting really severe mood dips, like weapons grade PMS but not had a period in over 4 months.

Yep..that's me too.
It's all the fluctuating hormones I guess. Very very tricky to manage.

I'm post meno and haven't had a period in 5 years. On HRT which now doesn't work.

The libido thing is just plain odd.
How can you have an orgasm when the relevant " bits" don't appear visible??

I’m 45 and going through it. I have had 2 periods 6 months apart and my GP is stalling on giving me HRT which is extremely frustrating.
I feel meh and I can feel myself withdrawing from things.

I hope you feel more yourself soon xxx

I know! How can you suddenly have an orgasm when you're really not in the mood? My bits started to shrivel away but since using Ovestin regularly everything has reappeared.

Thank you for replying. I can't use HRT but hope your GP will let you try. I've heard that printing off the NICE guidelines on prescribing HRT and showing it to your GP is often very effective.

Me

This all describes me perfectly too and I haven’t had a period for 3 years. The thing is, I’ve just had HRT prescribed by the GP and I’m still dithering about whether to take it or not as I’m scared the side effects are going to be worse than my menopause symptoms.

totally get the meh feeling, I just cannot be arsed with much at the moment and feel like I’m operating on 30% battery power.

The weirdest thing is that I often feel that what would really help is having a good cry. I remember I’d do this in my 30s and 40s sometimes and I’d feel much better afterwards. However, even though I feel on the verge of tears sometimes, I just can’t actually have good cry, the tears just don’t come. It’s like I’ve become numb somehow.

I frequently google islands for sale in Scotland, so no you’re not alone.

Detached and meh sound about right. I've lost all enthusiasm. I posted on another thread that I just want to be left alone with a book.

I feel.ur pain. Got menopause on top of bereavement of partner. Oh to.feel.muself again. We'll get there.

I'm back in yet another horrible slump. That's three now in a row, all exactly two weeks apart. I don't know WTF is going on? Just back from a lovely anniversary lunch with my husband but had to force myself to smile and make conversation.

@Bookist I feel the same today.
My battery has literally died! Running on about 10%!

I can't think straight.
My brain is fuzzy.
I can't compute information.
I can't follow a conversation properly.
Today, i couldn't fathom out a simple train timetable.

Dementia? Hope not 🙈

Nope. Your oestrogen is gone forever.

But doesn't that mean all women end up feeling loveless? Seems very bleak.