So my periods started becoming erratic when I was 43. However this coincided with the sudden death of my partner, when our child was 1.
At 44 / 45 the weight gain began in earnest, but this was in 2020 and lockdown on top of bereavement really didn’t help. As a single mum with a house full of beige food and kid snacks it was and is really hard to exercise / eat healthily. I’ve put on 3 stone. :(
46 - some hair thinning, boobs suddenly went south. Like, overnight.
47 and 48, some very mild flushes. Last period was a month after my 47th birthday, 14 months ago, so to my surprise I’m through the menopause, 5 years earlier than my mum did. Maybe bereavement / lockdown / Covid / vaccine played a part? I have had heart palpitations which I didn’t even know was my symptom. My GP arranged ECG etc and offered anti-depressants without even mentioning menopause.
I probably have anxiety now, but I think it’s circumstantial, not hormonal - WFH as a single parent just fosters huge isolation and therefore I’m far too much in my own head. My social life destroyed by all of the above. What I do have is REALLY achey joints - I feel like I’m 68 not 48 now. Also dryness, and low libido. And a very big dose of CBA.
Saw my GP recently and she hummed and hawed and says I have to have my smear test up to date before prescribing HRT … for various reasons I don’t want this (and fgs why not treat the vaginal dryness first?). I’m not sure about the whole thing so have just ordered myself a pack of Everol Conti so I can try it out myself. Maybe this is foolish, but hey. I do worry about some of the increased risks.