Going out of my mind!!

[BooseysMom]

Hi, i'm 47 and have regular periods but 2 weeks of every month i feel deliriously up and down, my mood changes every few minutes even! I'm due to bleed in 5 days and my face, esp my nose, has come out in red blotchy scabs! Not a good look! It itches and i feel utterly miserable. DH being a total dick..just shrugs off all my comments..doesn't give a shit basically as long as i look after DS who is 6. I really feel like i don't want to be here. The only place i feel ok is at work, home is crap. I dread coming home, dread Xmas cos it will be the whole "oh aren't we all jolly" family thing again. I have raging palpitations, insomnia, stress symptoms and on and off cramps most of the month now.
Is anyone else feeling this way?
And can anyone recommend a face cream for this skin prob i've got? It has to be around the fiver or under mark. I've always used Avon 35+ cream but this might be making it worse.
Thanks for reading x

Hi I can't recommend a face cream, but I'm 46 and have pmt all month long now. My gp suggested an anti depressant called sertraline to help with this and it's been very positive so far. Have a chat with your GP, you don't need to suffer with this. Take care

@KellyMarieTunstall2.. that's very kind, thank you for taking the time to post a reply. Sorry to hear you have pmt all month. It sounds the same as mine. I have heard of Sertraline. Have you had many side-effects? I was advised to stop the periods by having a coil fitted and that would stop the pmt. I've had this before and a multitude of contraceptive pills but they all have bad side effects, esp mood swings which can be dangerous. Thanks again x

Is anyone else feeling this way?

God yeah. I'm 48 and for the last couple of months have terrible palpitations every bloody day and my anxiety has gone through the roof. I've started taking a menopause supplement which has helped a little bit but I envisage it getting worse before it gets better.

My DSis (4years older) suffered with depression around the same age and she got prescribed an antidepressant. 5 years on and she is fine now and no longer has any medication. She said she's only just getting her old self back now.

See your GP I'm sure there must be something for your face too. Don't suffer in silence.

Bloody marvellous what we women have to go through isn't it?

HRT !

Hrt.

@FurnitureAndBackgammon.. thanks for your reply. Re. palpitations the gp did an ecg and they didn't find anything. They said it wasn't hormonal and refused to test them! I need to see a different gp. It's more of a thudding heart beat which feels really fast.

Thanks to other posters who said hrt! I'm scared of taking that as DM died of breast cancer at 60. Mind you she never took hrt so it can't have been that anyway. Maybe it was because she suffered so badly with menopause that the stress caused the cancer. She refused to take any pills.

Bloody marvellous what we women have to go through isn't it?

Yep. I really feel i've got no one to talk to. I have no mum any more. She must have felt the same as she lived in a household of ignorant selfish men, ie. My dad and brothers!

How do we do it, us women? I don't know what i'd do if i couldn't vent here so a huge THANK YOU everyone xx

Also get your thyroid tested if it hasn’t already been done.

@SirVixofVixHall.. thanks. I had it tested about 6 months ago i think and it was ok.

I've looked up skin itchiness and blotchiness in menopause but it just has stuff about hot flushes which this isn't. I might try and take a photo without giving away my id!

No it won't let me!

I got itchy skin in menopause. It’s one of the symptoms of falling oestrogen.

@CatUnderTheStairs.. thanks for your msg. Well the gp wouldn't test my hormone levels as she said they fluctuate too much. But that was about 4 months ago and i feel things are getting worse esp my moods which hit rock bottom most of the month

Hello take menopace plus, it will really help. I have not gone on hrt either, also up your exercises even if it’s longer walks in the fresh air. Passion flower from Holland and Barrett will help with anxiety

Check out the thread 'don't be shy list your meno symptoms' you will get an idea about what you are in for (sorry can't link).

Soo many symptoms aren't mentioned in articles or by gps.

Best of luck.

It's peri-menopause, op. Get HRT. There is no need to suffer like this. It is an absolute lifesaver.

i.stuff.co.nz/life-style/well-good/teach-me/113666670/perimenopause-lead-up-to-menopause-very-uncomfortable-and-poorly-understood

@fikel
@Madambee
@Aquamarine1029

Thank you all v.much for your advice. I have seen that thread. I can def put a tick against most of the symptoms.
I was trying to avoid taking HRT but so many have said it's been a life saver i'm v.tempted. Not so sure about the Menopace Plus as some have said it hasn't worked for them. But then lots of said hrt has caused nasty side effects. So it's really confusing. I do know that alot of the evil things that provide a form of comfort, ie. Caffeine, chocolate, alcohol, i'm going to have to stop. I've already cut right down and the thought of completely cutting out tea, for example, fills me with sadness. And i only have half a glass of wine when i drink so how is that bad?! So does anyone think that the only solution is to completely cut out all these things? If i spend loads on Menopace will it be counter productive if i carry on with caffeine, etc.??

I am feeling lie this also. Like I just want to run away from it all. I read we are more intolerant of stuff at this time in life. I resent Christmas, anything 'false' even meeting family for days after and seeing DH's family for it too, and even on my birthday people coming to see me! I feel like such a miserable selfish cow but I just want to be left alone.

I guess you could try Menopause, I am not sure. I find swimming and yoga quite helpful, just struggle with the motivation to get there at times.

I don’t think menopace plus will be affected, I still eat my chocolate!!

Cutting out every enjoyment in life may work better for your hormones, but not necessarily for your mental wellbeing .

I am finding having some time out for myself helps a bit. Just did some pilates which was quite relaxing.

@Orangeblossom78.. thanks for posting. It's kind of good to know others feel the same. I feel like a miserable cow too and my poor DH gets the brunt of it! But things my in-laws have said to me have stayed with me and they bully me and are quite tactless and i have to go and be all jolly at Xmas and i think omg why am i being so untrue to myself!?! What is wrong with me!? But we do it to keep the peace at Xmas i suppose.
Def helps to find time for yourself. I need to re-start my pilates.

@fikel.. Thank you. Good to know it doesn't chocolate consumption doesn't affect it!

@Madambee.. so very true.. If i cut out everything i will truly go mad!!

I am also more sensitive to any perceived criticism and judgement, partly why I avoid some family members as well. Going to try some CBT techniques perhaps to try and deal with this / ignoring them, thinking of a few wee phrases to deal with it (we're all different, for example)

@Orangeblossom78...That's a good idea. I think i'm going to have to try some techniques too. It's just a shame i don't have it in me to try the direct technique of telling them where to go!! It's always the same..i think of what to say long after the incident!
Good luck x

Well I am also using the technique of avoiding people quite a lot who make me feel like that. Not sure if this is positive or not but possibly for the best!