Mid forties fatigue

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I’m now mid forties and I think peri menopausal.Ive been putting my symptoms down to other things but I do think everything is pointing to a hormonal cause.

Is anyone else experiencing extreme fatigue? I muddle along for a while but then hit a wall of fatigue that leaves me crabby and just wanting a rest (I have a 7 year old ds so not an option!).

Interesting. I’m finding myself very exhausted this term. I know it’s only been a week, but don’t remember it this bad last Autumn. I’m a full time teacher and have 2 DC under 10. I can’t really see how I’m supposed to get through. Yes, the ‘wall of fatigue’ sounds very familiar!
I hadn’t thought about hormonal causes. But my mum has finished the menopause by the age of 50 and I’m 44 now.

Yes me too. I am mid 40s. I am 6 years older than my DM when she started. I am not sure if it is peri menopause as I still have regular periods. But am googling like mad at the mo. And am absolutely exhausted all of the time

I’m on my second mirena coil so 7 years of no periods after the last DC. So really no idea of what might be going on hormonally.

I find my lack of knowledge about this mortifying. When was I supposed to learn about menopause?

Me too!

I was actually thinking about this today- I often do! I'm 47 and my youngest is 5, my eldest is 17. And I just find the fatigue so all-consuming and relentless. My words are disappearing too. I struggle to recall vocabulary. I was at an Open Day with DS17 today and had lunch and did a museum afterwards, all very, very low key and easily paced, no rushing about. But I hit a wall when I came home. It's almost indescribable, the fatigue you experience at this age. You don't get this second wind. And I find it harder to be sociable.
Fun and games! Apparently, after menopause, we get our bounce back and a new and improved energy. I really hope this is the case.

Another one here. 48 and weary. And aching. And permanently cross.

A full blood test might be useful. My B12 was ridiculously low - I'm starting to feel better on supplements and patches.

Fatigue
Grumpiness
Loss of memory
Desire to stop 'caring' for everyone and want my own life

Not sure all of these things are peri menopause

Christ, yes. I am 48.

I come home from work knackered and think, when can I retire, when, WHEN? I am in no mood to listen to my DH, who works from home, complaining that his colleagues understand his genius, etc. I just want to sit in silence for half an hour.

I sometimes think, if I can’t sit down on the train home, I will cry, I’m so tired! (I sit behind a desk, BTW. I don’t work down a coal mine, but it feels like it!)

Nasty menstrual migraines, started when I was 46. Curse those hormones.

Forgetfulness. I have always had a great memory but now I’m scrabbling around to remember basic stuff like our MP’s surname!

I too have heard that it gets better and our energy returns. I hope so!

Sorry, that his colleagues DON’T understand his genius. Told ya my memory has gone to pot!

Yes, the migraines! Ugh! Mine kicked in around two years ago.

Same here. I’m 44 and permanently exhausted. Starting with aches and pains, trouble sleeping, hormonal headaches.
OP I also have a seven year old and while I obviously adore him I would love a few days in peace every couple of months to recharge.
Still, it’s only 23 years until I can retire

Oh, the disappearing words!! I'm really struggling with that, I feel so foggy and ....stupid a lot of the time. I used to be intelligent and reasonably sharp! Add that to the crashing exhaustion and weight gain, and it's a bit grim. I'm actually thinking about HRT, just to see if it makes a difference (if it does, I guess it IS menopause )

I'm nearly 47 and have been incredibly tired for the last year. I've recently started having a soluble vitamin C with zinc and a soluble multivitamin and also a couple of sachets of Spatone every day. I've really started to feel better. It's made a big difference. I was quite surprised as I eat a very good, healthy diet (am vegetarian) but the supplements have helped massively. I also have a daily B12 tablet which dissolves under my tongue.

I'm the same regarding fatigue. Especially just after my period as it's quite heavy so I just feel completely drained. I get headaches, moods are getting lower, feel moments of rage, memory loss, sleep is all over the place, bloating etc - all the damn symptoms of perimenopause. I've tried supplements but find the tablet form really upsets my stomach. Might try a soluble version.

It seems it is hormonal with so many of us feeling this way, I might try upping the vitamins and seeing if that helps. I think the added pressures of caring for others is exhausting,mentally I feel like I don’t get a break at all.

If I find a vitamin/ solution that helps I will post it on here if anyone else finds something that helps please share!

I feel like I should look forward to spending time with but I end up grumpy and knackered after a few hours. Then I feel guilty for being so tired all the time! Things have to get better.

The fatigue is horrid. I stand in the bathroom some mornings and cry, wondering how I’ll get through the day.

I’ve started taking these www.boots.com/kira-hormonal-balance-vitamin-b-complex-one-a-day-40-film-coated-tablets-10141877

And yes to everything else, mood swings, head aches, not very tolerant of people. Happy days!

Fatigue
Grumpiness
Loss of memory
Desire to stop 'caring' for everyone and want my own life
not very tolerant of people
aches and pains
I have some tests this week and I'm sure some of it is down to hormonal shifts (IBS related).
The problem is I cant stop caring for everyone else - I have a toddler and two other school aged children (although the eldest is pretty much self sufficient). But I am definitely getting the feeling that it is time to kick back - that's not going to happen for a long, long time!
Consultant said I was headed for an early menopause - mid forties now, so it would fit with her predictions.

I’m 47 soon, I’m putting it down to severe depression. But the more I’m reading this I think it’s the start of the menopause. I ache all the time, depressed, shout and anxious. Cry for no reason. Eg driving along then I start bubbling. Can the doctor do a blood test? I’m going to the doctors anyway. So will have a word.

I say blood test. Could be B12, iron, all sorts - could also be the menopause. There are lots of medical conditions that are more common from middle age onwards, some or the variety where early intervention is key, others where life style changes are all that's needed. Go get a blood test, see where you're at.

@Shopkinsdoll definitely discuss the possibility of it being peri menopause with your doctor.

Oh yes!!! The exhaustion.......

And the insomnia followed by waking up with night sweats.

I can't quite believe its only wk 2 of term time and I'm so dog tired. My skin hurts I just want to crawl in a comfy bed... not an option. And the family just don't get why im tired all the time! Whilst dh is full of energy running marathons. I hope I feel different next week...

Same . 48, knackered permanently, want own life and space, just started new job in a busy school and am struggling. Finding it hard to be sociable and get to know the staff! Even thinking I’m not actually fit for work any longer and want to stop working ! Can’t seen to find any motivation for life. What is this about?

Aching and yes often want my own space - it just isn't going to happen with two youngish children any time soon. I saw a male family member yesterday similar age to me with much older children and he seems to be faring much worse than me. Maybe there is something in having young children - you've just got to keep ploughing on. But yes, definitely feeling it!