Do you still have the urge for sex?

[northernlites]

Around the days I ovulate I get a burning urge to have sex, and I I enjoy this; as I am peri menopause...I wonder as I go beyond and one day onto the other side of menopause will this disappear?
Will my sex drive just vanish?
What's your story/experience?

Bump ...

I don't know how it will be for you,but I lost all desire for sex when I started the menopause and it's never come back (thankfully as I never really enjoyed it much in the first place)

Maybe for you,your sex drive might stay the same,no one can tell,I shouldn't think.

*Do you still have the urge for sex?
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Nope. Not in a long time.

Yep still do, but it is wishful thinking because OH no longer can.

Wish I did!! But the desire and the lubrications has gone. It's like a desert now!

A bit like you, when ovulating feel a bit horny. Any other time of the month nope. I'm 46. Shit isn't it?

I've not ovulated in over a year - had one period in that time. And - nothing.

Peri and sometimes yes but it’s sporadic. Right now I want to kill dh for breathing so it’s not likely

Three years on from the menopause and being as dry as the Gobi desert kind of ruins things a bit. A mega tube of lube is the only way to avoid friction burns. It kind of kills the mood a bit.
So no, I'm actually not bothered if I never do it again

Yes definitely got very active libido.
Far more than when I was younger.

I'm still perimenopausal I think at 50. Post widowhood I would shag practically anything that stays still long enough. Not always convenient. Lube is great, I go through pots of the stuff.

Am also peri, have a very high arc drive at the moment.

Hoping it doesn't fade...

I haven't really had the urge for a long time except for on the odd occasion. The menopause made no difference though, I always blew hot and cold (no pun intended).

I used to have that ovulation urge too. Am now menopausal and my libido never changed - just don't link it to time of the month anymore. Don't need lube (but have it on standby) and am really enjoying this phase of our lives.

@Tanfastic
A bit like you, when ovulating feel a bit horny. Any other time of the month nope. I'm 46. Shit isn't it?

I'm 45 and it really is just at ovulation, for several days.

I hope it doesn't go 😭
It seems more intense than when I was younger but less frequent just when I ovulate

Quite a variety of experiences, I wonder how many of you are affected by HRT or not?

Don’t panic, OP, there is still libido on the other side of menopause!
I still chuckle to myself when I remember (some years ago), MIL and FIL, then in their 80’s, consulting me in great distress about FIL’s blood pressure tablets and their depressing effect on his erectile function! They had 5 DC and 10 GC and obviously still hadn’t lost interest...

I've always had a high sex drive and the menopause hasn't changed that so far. I'm nearly 53

@girlandboy Get yourself off to the GP for vaginal estrogen.

Loads of women put up with dryness when there is a very easy solution!

Lube just gives a bit of wetness for a while. It doesn't treat the underlying cause. For that you need to use vaginal estrogen ( cream or a small tablet in the vagina) twice a week, for life. Anyone with vaginal dryness ought to use this because it's a pelvic heath issue and not just related to having sex. It affects the bladder (making it easier to get infections), prolapse and of course sex.

Yes. Used to have really high sex drive. Now dead as a doornail.

Yes to Ovestin cream (vaginal oestrogen or similar types). Works wonders and is really important for preventing thrush and utis as well as keeping things comfortable. But does zero for my sex drive. I think everyone is different.

I'm 60 - had an early menopause due to removal of my ovaries, but I take HRT. Still have a very good libido.

Mine has never changed, but no partner now so :::::::::::

I'm 45 and my last period was 3 years ago - earlyish menopause. I have lost all interest in sex and have to force myself. It's ruining my relationship. Its miserable TBH.

Such varied experiences and reasons, so who the heck knows the forecast! No predicting anything

So many things can impact your sex life in your middle years! Caring responsibilities, work issues, marital issues .....Meno’ is a trip in itself of course. For me: long phase in peri’ where I really struggled to hold onto my sense of myself as a sexual being - the bodily changes were not in themselves so distressing it was what they represented (old age, lack of appeal and ‘visibility’). Now I feel my sex drive is located firmly in my brain and capacity to want ‘it’. My ovaries have left the conversation. It’s both liberating and scary: used to be ovulation predicted randiness and what I as a thinking person wanted was less of an issue because my body would respond anyway. Nowadays: no likee? No playee!