Do you still have the urge for sex?

[northernlites]

Around the days I ovulate I get a burning urge to have sex, and I I enjoy this; as I am peri menopause...I wonder as I go beyond and one day onto the other side of menopause will this disappear?
Will my sex drive just vanish?
What's your story/experience?

Heading for 54 and no period for 18 months now, and along with that suddenly came the 'DON'T TOUCH ME!' Up until I was 51 I really enjoyed regular sex. But the menopause has changed EVERYTHING. I've been to the Dr for the 2nd time, asked to see a female this time. No joy, just passed on to the gyne department at the hospital with a 26 week wait! My other half will have moved out by then 😕 forget about sex drive.... I don't even feel human any more. Yes, it's total shite!

Nope not for a ling time. Not sure if it is hormone or circumstance related though. I am single though so perfectly fine.

No since the menopause absolutely nothing whatsoever it's like I've died from the neck down.
I went to see three of my GPS who seemed to think it was not important despite this being one of the reasons for my marriage break up and a huge unwelcome change in my life that affects everything.
Apparently in the USA they prescribe a low dose of testosterone to maintain sex drive but it seems not over here. I have no idea why. Given the misery that this causes to so many people and the amount of marriage break ups I think this should be taken very seriously.

It's terrible that women's health issues aren't given the time of day for so many
Brushed to the side
It's like being in the Victorian era where hysterectomies come from the word hysteria as the medical profession think women are batshit crazy
'let's just brush the symptoms under the rug ....or put a mirena coil in'
I hope those of you who are expressing problems get support/treatment you need

I'm 45 and have lost all desire for sex. DH and I used to have sex most days but now it's once a week at the most. I have also lost the ability to orgasm so I've resorted to faking it to get it over quicker. GP recommended sylk but I find it doesn't make much difference.

So sad when sex drive does not match up in middle age. The government should think that marriages breaking up means more housing needed, benefits have to be given. It would be much cheaper for them if they addressed this problem as urgent.

Tibilone, that is what brings sex drive back

Yes I have a good libido and I think that it is more because of my better psychological and mental state and not because of hormones.

I'm 60. My libido isn't where it was in my 20s, thank goodness (I'd be exhausted!) but still active and no physical problems for me. I had to realise that the triggers of attraction have changed ... it's all about the twinkle in the eye now.

Would anyone on this thread mind if I ask you ladies a question about peri menopause? I'm not sure if going through it or not but atm I'm tearful,have sore nipples,period like pain and I feel ultra hormonal constantly.im def not pregnant.Im 39.

Hi, it's my only regret that I didn't get help with my libido.I like you was very Horny during ovulation, my husband used to call it happy time.After 45 it became a chore apart from ovulation, then at 52 periods stopped and so did the libido.62 now and husband still has a high sex drive , I put up with sex once a week, only occasionally enjoying it.If this happens to you knock on every door pay privately, if you have to but get some help.Good luck.

Its possible chihuahua. But unless you are celibate, have you peed on a stick just in case?

@starfishmummy I've peed on 2! 😁

Yes, that's right, swept aside by male GP. Told me I wasn't going to die from it and there are more serious things to worry about. 🤯

@Blobfish1 Your best route to be honest is to go to a private menopause specialist. The 'treatment' for low libido post menopause is HRT PLUS testosterone. Very few GPs will prescribe the latter as it's not licensed for women- women use a man's version but a smaller dose.
Latest guidelines from menopause specialists do recommend testosterone for women- there are various articles online about this including (I think) one in the Daily Mail with quotes from menopause consultants.

You are unlikely to get much joy from your average GP on this although a menopause clinic might be better - but no guarantees.

For the sake of £200 or so, you could probably see an expert within 2 weeks and be sorted.

Yes, you are right. Was contemplating going private. Feel like life is passing me by. So pleased I came on here. Feel much more encouraged now. Thanks ladies🤗

Do it @Blobfish1
I'm sure it would be worth it for you
And you can report back and help and enlighten us all