Hi Fontella. Out of interest, which self help remedies worked for you? I've decided to come off HRT and I have ordered some supplements (they may not work for me but I've got to try). Thanks.
To be honest, most of the things I tried didn't make any difference and were a waste of time and money, apart from one - and that was flaxseed oil for hot flushes. I was getting them day and night - horrendous - and that was the point I very nearly went on HRT, but after trying various self help remedies to no avail, I read on a forum somewhere that flaxseed oil might help, so I thought I'd try it as a last ditch attempt.
I started taking it - a tablespoon first thing every morning before I ate or drank anything else - you have to keep it in the fridge and it is absolutely foul tasting. In the first few days it gave me an awful headache and I just thought - this is another waste of time - but then I read that headache was a common early symptom and it would pass and to stick with it. So I did - and after a couple of weeks there was a noticeable decline in the intensity and frequency of my hot flushes and it was more than placebo effect.
I was so impressed with it I recommended it to a friend ... but it did absolutely nothing for her!! Which only goes to show that what works for one will not necessarily work for another, and it really is trial and error.
Now I'm through menopause - I still have a couple of spoonfuls of ground flaxseed every day now - usually in natural yogurt with a sliced banana as it's a good source of lignens - a type of plant oestrogen. Whether it does any good or not I have no idea, but I doubt it does any harm either.
Apart from that I just take a really good multi-vitamin every day, drink a lot of green tea, watch my diet and do yoga.
I won't lie - going through those peri-menopause years was hell, but one thing I did notice is that I would get a symptom - it would be awful - but then my body would sort it out. So it would be intense and unpleasant for a while but then it would go, usually to be replaced by something else. But the symptoms came and then they went ... until eventually I was through it and out the other side.