Perimenopause symptoms please list!

[mandmsmummy]

Hi
I've posted on here about possibly being perimenopausall. Could you list what your very early symptoms were please?
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[Gatekeeper]

constipation
insomnia
hot flushes during day and night
no libido
ratty.as.bloody.hell
can't be arsed
foggy brain and fuzzy thought process
clumsy
urge incontinence
dry eyes
aching joints
being overcome by rage
feeling old and crap
anxiety and feeling of doom

awful ; reading through this I think I may go and see doc sometime soon

[Gatekeeper]

my vagina is dry as well and sex uncomfortable and the skin round my vulva and perineum feels thin and almost like I have papercuts on it!

I feel all sweaty and smelly , like boiled dishcloths


urghhhhhhhh

[fidelma]

Yes I am also sweat more nice !

[meglet]

gate I can relate to feeling 'old and crap'. I'm struggling with this at the moment. It's different to the older and wiser train of though. Am feeling vulnerable and worthless these days .

[DayLillie]

Also feeling old and crap.

My self-belief has dropped through the floor over the last 2 years, and it had only just got there.......

I feel like my life is dissolving round me, and i can't decide whether to be bothered or not

[amigababy]

Feeling a bit better knowing it's not just me. I'm 47, and feeling pointless. And knackered. And then pointless again. Reading another thread about how people fit in exercise, and now feeling guilty that the last thing I want to do is exercise.

I wish I knew how to be interesting again and have fun, like a real person. I feel(totally unjustifiably) that dh might leave me cos I'm boring (we're probably both boring at our age!!)
Is it worth a doctor's visit? - if I go and get fobbed off it'll depress/annoy me.

[Meglet]

I'm trialing using a double higher does of evening primrose oil at the moment. Basically I couldn't swallow the giant capsules so I've been piercing them and squirting them over my cereal / sandwiches / pasta.

I felt weirdly calm for a couple of days last week, not sure if that was a fluke / placebo effect or it has made a difference. I'll try and remember to stick at them for a bit and see if it helps.

Obviously actually remembering to take them is half the battle .

[DontstepontheMomeRaths]

Can I just bookmark my place. Having a lot of symptoms and far too young really. Have a blood test in a few weeks.

[Gatekeeper]

I've bitten the bullet and made an appointment to see the doc this Friday; she is in her mid fifties so trust she has first hand experience

[mandmsmummy]

Does anyone get that 'kicked in the fanny' kind of feeling? Also soreness where your pubic hair in but on the inside if that makes sense? When your period is at it's heaviest x

[Meglet]

I forgot to add the evening primrose oil to my supper today. FFS.

mandms I don't get those sensations because I had a hysterectomy and 2 sections. I suspect all the nerve ending are buggered. Although now you've mentioned it I'll bear it in mind.

[mandmsmummy]

It's rotten meglet daren't go for a poo as it's all so tender down there!

[Gatekeeper]

yes mandmsmummyI get those kicked feelings and also the skin inside gets sore and 'thin' feeling, almost like I have papercuts in it. My clitoris also gets painful when on my period

Dh was not particularly sympathetic until recently esp as he is 6 yrs younger than me. However he now says he is starting to feel creaky about the knee and his eyes are playing up! I now aslo remind him about age related impotency and prostate widdlings in the night and saggy balls

[mandmsmummy]

I only get it early on in the period. I also sometimes find it hard to poo as it's really quite painful where my pubic hair is inside and also shooting pains up my bottom. Sorry for tmi! This isn't every month but has happened recently since my periods are changing. X

[DayLillie]

I get sore, itchy at front (not thrush), itchy pubes, dry (no smegma), swelling of inside tissues, swelling of labia, wet discharge, thrush, BV? urge megaincontinence I get these before a period, after a period, from sex, condoms, lube, cervical mucus (if I get it). Vagifem has been some help, in that I have not got to the point where I can't sit down since I have used it.

[DayLillie]

mandmsmummy - pooing is much improved by keeping poos at a type 4 on the Bristol Stool chart (with help of movicol, porridge, prunes, figs, kiwifruit etc)

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bristol_stool_scale

At this stage, they are self-propelling and you hardly feel anything. I speak as veteran of rectocele surgery . Any harder/drier, and they find nooks and crannies, places to catch and hurt or come out sideways or too slowly etc etc and generally make life dismal.

[mandmsmummy]

But is this related to my periods changing?
Do others get the pain that shoots up the bottom and down below? X

[DayLillie]

Bowel function may be related to changes in hormones.

Another thing worth looking at is pelvic floor dysfunction, where you have got used to tightening pelvic floor muscles and do not release them correctly on the loo - easy when you are in a rush. Also, put feet on a stool to straighten out the rectum.

www.pelvicphysiotherapy.com/Exercise_Overview.html
www.pelvicexercises.com.au/bowel-movement/

If you do this and keep to a type 4 stool and still have pain, it might be worth seeing if you can get referred to a gynae physio who specialises in women's issues.

[fidelma]

Mandmsmummy
Yes and my friend also gets these pains.

[mom45]

OMG..AM I PERIMENPAUSAL??
I am 45 and had eight pregnancies..7 kids and one m/c. with my last I had abnormal pap and was treated /scraping for pre cancerous cells on cervix but cleared up after I gave birth. Al my kids are healthy. I am at a point where I do not have insurance until November when it takes effect, I have brown vaginal spotting with turn the normal red color bur never enough to fill a pad for 2 weeks no period and slight burning sensation on outer pee hole, been married for 14 years and he has been fixed. Last pregnancy was 2007.
I did start mod to heavy period type for two and half days which filled a pad but looked normal with a strawberry jam type red. Now I am peeing clear but when I wipe I see tinge of blood on toilet paper..period residueI guess. Sept 14,2015 I feel all hot,sweaty,tired,like puking,weak..flu bug?…UTI….do I have cancer.. peri menopausal…,what?? Sept. 15 2015, I feel fine .. first wipe was tinge a bit when wipe and when I went to bathroom again no tinge when wiping..al clear urine is clear and noblood tinged wipe..all clear. The way pee hole is kinds stingy on the outside leaning towards UTI or yeast and possibly peri menopause. Sept. 16..been drinking alot of tea bag tea and pee is clear and no sting outer pee hole.so idk..Set 1,2015.hubby and I had sex and entrance was a bit sore.no raw? vaginal dryness.I gotto face it,I'm old sad Sept. 18,2015 tummy feels weird.

[dementedma]

Hot flushes
Vaginal dryness and shrivelling
Tiredness
Erratic periods with long gaps in between
Recurring cystitis

[Danielle2017]

Im 46
Had period on Oct 18th, end of period led to continual staining till yesterday being day 17 and ended up with period again however never got a break of staining or bleeding
So in other words period from Oct 18th, then followed by continual staining which as of yesterday Nov 3rd led do a period again. Any one have that ever?

[puddingisgood]

Wouldn''t it be nice if someone came on this thread and said things do get better at some point.

[alsteff]

All of the above common signs but I guess the weirdest symptom for me (& what got me to the GP) was dizziness - literally having to sit down, not drive etc... GP didn't really want to acknowledge it as menopausal but there's plenty of info out there! I've been on Estogel for about 12 mths now & feel great. Have the odd anxiety moment or hot sleepless night but feel 99% back to normal!

[marioncole]

Having gone from fortnightly periods, I've now gone weeks without one. Which I could cope with but the black cloud over my head is really getting to me. I'm self-employed but I can't bring myself to do any work. I just want to go back to bed and cry. I've never felt like this in all my life and I'm struggling with it.