Premature menopause-feel so alone

[Chuffinghormones]

I had the mirena coil removed last August because I was having extremely bad pain in lower tummy. As soon as it was removed I started to feel different.

I had very bad mood swings, tirdness, nausea, a couple of dizzy spells, aching joints, so emotional and depressed and many more. I thought it was my body adjusting to not having the hormones from mirena.

Late November I still hadn't had a period but felt like I was going through the menopause. I went to drs who said it could be but its highly unlikely or it could be thyroid. She tested me for both.

Throid came back normal but needed to be retested for menopause. Dr called back two days later and confirmed my suspicion. I have been tested in march and dr said its higher indication but got another test in June.

I just feel so alone im 30 and no one around me understands how I feel. I feel anxious and nervous like something bad is going to happen. Is this normal? ? Any help would be greatly appreciated. I feel so alone xx

Have a friend to whom this happened around your age. She went on to have 3 lovely DCs. I sympathise with feeling awful as I think I am going through it albeit much older than you.

I am very lucky that I have 3 beautiful DC.

Just fed up with feeling lonely and tearful. no-one seems to understand. I have friends older than me and they are supportive but have not entered this phase of life.

I seem to be arguing a lot with my partner because he doesn't understand, he tries his best. The bedroom department isn't good either. I feel like a dried up old hag. I have no sex drive anymore and when I do it hurts so bad.

Sorry for moaning just need to talk about it with people that understand. Thanks xx

It's not fun and I feel awful about how horrible I am to my DC and DH.

I am not an expert but could you talk to your GP at least about the physical side?

Try using lubricant for sex it makes a huge difference for many.

I've been to Dr's but she ain't said much about physical side. Ive got to wait until June for another blood test and if that has the same results as before she is talking about giving me hrt. So hopefully that will help with my symptoms.

Thank you for your help and advice.

Has anybody mentioned The Daisy Network to you? It's a charity that deals with premature ovarian failure of all causes.

You are most certainly not alone.
If you are only 30 you should certainly have a form of hormone replacement until you are about 50 - unless you'd be happy to have another child it should be a combined pill in young women like yourself to ensure no unwanted pregnancies. I am glad that you already have DCs .

Giving you some hormones back will make you feel an awful lot better.
Have you had any bleeds since the Mirena was removed? Do you know what your FHS levels were?
If you blood levels were consistently >30 and you have not bled then I don't see why you need to wait for a further blood test if you are feeling miserable.

Thank you PacificDogwood I'll look at the website.

I don't know why this is happening to me I thought it might be the mirena that has caused it. Ive had no period or bleed at all since August. My blood test fsh was 26 and 28 but my estradiol was very low.

Gp said she wanted me to have a test march (just gone), june then December before giving me anything. I went back to see her because I said I can't go on that long so hopefully gonna get something in June after that blood test. The only thing she said was that I need calcium supplements.

Late reply but I thought I would post anyway. I am new to Mumsnet but I read your post and wanted to say something. I am 38 but was diagnosed with premature menopause at 37, after being sent home telling me I was too young to be going through the menopause I managed to convince my GP to do some blood tests. These came back with high FSH and low estradiol. they were repeated and they were the same. I have terrible hot flashes and night sweats, loss of libido, mood swing and irritablility. I have been started on HRT (day 3) and I am desperatly waiting for it to start giving me some relief.

Long story but I wanted you to know that you are not the only one.

This premature menopause support/chat thread might help you too - particularly for 'not being alone'.

Thank you charbus its good to know that im not alone, I had a really low time last month and had my other blood test early (planned for 1st June). The results were showing that im now post menopausal fsh of 32 but my estradiol was that low it was off the bottom of the scale. Dr gave my hrt im on my 9th day so hopefully feeling better soon.

Thanks meditrina I will have a look x

Just checking in to see how you are feeling now. I am 21days into my HRT and although my hot flushes are not as bad as they were, I am still having them with that heady feeling. My joints are still aching and I have not had a breakthrough bleed.

Hope u are feeling better:)

Hi, ive just finished my first month HRT. Im feeling much better. Still have flushes but not many, joints ache now and again but a lot less than they used to. I feel like a normal woman again (most of the time). Hopefully we will feel even better as the months go on.

Chuffinghormones, I am glad your feeling better with the HRT. Can't wait for it to start working for me.

Charbus give it time im sure you will start to feel better soon. Give it a good go say 3-6 months and if its not working go back to Gp amd see if they cam change prescription for you. Hope your feeling better soon.

I will

I'm going through a premature menopause too, i'm 39 and was diagnosed at 37. I'm now into my 4th month of HRT, Prempak c

Hi esther, how come it took you so long to start hrt? How do you feel now you're taking it?

Ive nearly finished my second month. I feel more 'normal' now, but had joint pains the last couple of days. Also anxiety has come back, I have the feeling that something really bad is going to happen :-(
I assume that this feeling will always come and go.

Could you have had an ovarian cyst?
Quite normal with the Mirena and might explain the other symptoms and the lack of period?

Hi Chuffinghormones.
I had been trying for a baby for a few months before i was diagnosed. Had my coil taken out in the July and the period after that was really light and short and i noticed that i was feeling dry and was painful when i had sex. My next period was the same, again really light. In the November i went to the doctor and they did blood tests, routine ones. The doctor suspected i had a thyroid problem. She didn't think it was menopause, saying i was way too young. Anyway, my thyroid function was found to be fine so that was ruled out. So doctor ordered hormone bloods to be done. My FSH came back at 20.5, which she said was a borderline menopausal level.
Anyway, i guess i was in denial, i wanted a baby so badly, and just carried on trying, hoping to get pregnant.
A few months ago my symptoms began to get quite severe, awful night sweats and palpitations, dry skin and hair and awful anxiety and mood swings. I decided i could stand it no longer, went to the doctor and asked for HRT.
I'm in 4th month. Night sweats have calmed down, vaginal dryness improved but i do still feel very tired and moody though. Anxiety is bad too so think i am going to start antidepressants.
Which HRT are you taking ? Mine is Prempak C.

Doctor has given me Citalopram antidepressants. I have been putting off taking them the last couple of weeks but think i'm going to have to start soon as my anxiety is bad and when i have the withdrawl 'bleed' each month i get really depressed. I spend about 4 days in a real state and crying at anything.

Hi coffeeinbed,
Dr did four lots of blood tests all indicating menopause, high fsh and really low estradiol. Had mirena out last Aug and not had period since. plus all the symptoms of meno :-(

Hi esther

That sounds pretty much like me. Dr said exactly the same as yours 'your too young' but my thyroid came back normal but hormones estradiol was low and fsh was high. Im on elleste duet conti which is the one you don't have a withdrawal bleed. Dr said I was post menopausal so I said there is no point in having a period if I can't have anymore children.

My joints are absolutely killing me, I hope they get better soon. Don't know how much more I can take :-(
Sorry for moaning x

Sorry Chuffing!
Grasping at straws and always happy to blame the bloody mirena for anything.

Thankfully i don't have any joint aches and pains as yet. Iv'e read this is one of the many meno symptoms. My best friend who is also 39, same age as me, suspects she might be having an early menopause as she has terrible joint pain and has to take strong painkillers every day. I should think the HRT will sort that out for you in another month or so.
You feel free to moan my lovely! I'm glad i have this board to let off steam, as my poor husband would be getting the brunt of all my menopausal moans!! Iv'e put him through hell this last couple of years with all my whinging, bless him xx

No need to be sorry coffeeinbed. I know what you mean about mirena though. I really thought it was that that brought on the early menopause x

Awww thanks hun,
My other half has had his head bitten off quite a few times.
Its good to be able to message people who are in the same boat as me.
Has your friend been to Dr? X