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what ever happened to the Brighton meet ups

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2shoesformyvalentine · 06/02/2009 23:26

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Rhubarb · 09/03/2009 08:07

Sorry to butt in. But I feel very angry at all of this happening.

As you all know, custy has been very involved in the Brighton meet-ups, they have been her social life ever since she moved down there. She has also organised many of the London meet-ups. If she has missed a meet-up it would not be because of ill-feeling or not wanting to talk to certain people, she simply isn't like that. Her gran died not 2 weeks ago, she was busy before then caring for her.

I find it disgusting that someone can be discussed and argued about in their absence. Accusations made and then intrusions into their personal life i.e. facebook, with yet more accusations.

I know that custy can well do without all of this. It smacks of cowardice that there are people who will not talk to her face to face but resort to these underhand methods. They don't even have the decency to come on this thread and defend themselves, even though they were on other threads yesterday.

It's bullying by insecure people who seem to want to have it both ways and resent that they can no longer do that. They want to take a long hard look at themselves before they start tearing apart other people. There is a life beyond Mumsnet you know and custy has lots of things to deal with in rl right now, the last thing she needs is this ugly, ugly thing following her. She is trying to be direct, open and honest. She is refusing to talk about people behind their backs. It's a shame they can't extend that same courtesy to her.

fattiemumma · 09/03/2009 08:15

well im oblivious to it all.
have no idea what on earth happened and no one seem's to be telling me.
when i left everyone was very happily coo'ing over a very very beautifull baby.

but i also realise that i managed to bugger off early without paying i realised at about 10am sunday morning at around the same time my hangover kicked in.
so please let me know who i need to give some money to.

and i absolutly will not allow there to be no further Brighton meets! I've only just managed to have childcare that allows me to attend

2shoes · 09/03/2009 09:03

Rhubarb I do think you might have got the wrong end of the stick.
I left about 6 and I can assure you no one was dissing custy..it just would not happen. Custy as far as I am concerned is one of the most popular meet up people and always missed when she is not there.
IMO what ever happened has been blown out of proportion. I wasn't happy to get a FB message from a mouldie having a pop at me yesterday tbh.
I hope the meet ups continue, otherwisw that is it for me, no more grown up girlie time.

noddyholder · 09/03/2009 09:19

what on earth happened?How do people get each others facebook info and then abuse it?Something wrong when that happens.I haven't been to a meet up in a long time and won't be tbh.I hope custy is ok all this mouldie/not mouldie stuff is bs The meet ups never used to be like this it was always FUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Rhubarb · 09/03/2009 09:20

Unfortunately, as custy was not able to be there, all she has to go off are fb messages telling her of things she is reported to have done and said. Things that were discussed at the meet-up.

But it appears that no-one wants to discuss it in the open as custy has suggested and they would rather continue with the chinese whispers.

I'm sorry to get involved. But custy is my best friend and I've seen her go through a lot in the past couple of years. I know how much this kind of thing affects her. I wouldn't be much of a best friend if I didn't try to stick up for her. Rumours are never nice and it's even worse when the rumours are about you and you cannot properly defend yourself because no-one is willing to tell you exactly what happened or what was said and why.

It will be awful if this left a bad atmosphere hanging over the whole Brighton group. I know how much you all meant to custy and indeed, to each other.

2shoes · 09/03/2009 09:21

the meet up was fine. there were no arguments at all. it was lovely(twigas baby stole the show though)

noddyholder · 09/03/2009 09:21

but what is she supposed to have done?I have never heard anyhting

noddyholder · 09/03/2009 09:22

do wish I had seen the baby though!

2shoes · 09/03/2009 09:23

I think it would be a good idea if whoever witnessed or heard what happened posted it tbh.
I hate the thought that anyone would think any of the lovely brighton ladies(and fm) would ever slag of custy.IT WOULD NOT HAPPEN)

ShinyPinkShoes · 09/03/2009 09:30

I really didn't want to have to post on here-I really wanted to sort this out with Custardo offboard.

Firstly, you lot are lovely. I wasn't in great shape on Saturday and was feeling very fragile- thank you for being so kind, thoughtful and supportive to me. I appreciate that and will never forget it.

Nobody was saying anything negative about Custy on Saturday- on the contrary all present were saying how lovely she was.

To cut a very long story short somebody had a go at me at the very end of the night (literally at the bus-stop fgs) saying that they were 'doing what Custy would do for them if she were there and they weren't' I made the point that Custy did not need defending against anything- I have never met her, nor crossed online paths with her. This cut no ice unfortunately. From what I have heard of Custardo, she would not have wanted this happening in her name.

This person was somewhat pissed and I felt a bit intimidated, not least because I am having a very bad time at the moment. As Pollyanna put it I am 'not in a good place' right now. As a result I left sobbing.

There was another comment made that I am happy to discuss off board, but as that concerned other people- my friends- I will not be discussing it here.

I am sorry that a few people felt the need to send FB messages- they are dear friends who saw how distressed I was and I think they were merely trying to do something to help calm things down.

There you have it. I don't like any kind of conflict and this has left me feeling lower than ever and at rock bottom.

This will be my first and last post on the matter-I went to that meet-up because I thought it would cheer me up. How wrong I was. How very wrong

If anyone wants to discuss this further please email me: [email protected]

ShinyPinkShoes · 09/03/2009 09:33

Oh- and I have not had an email from Custardo yet.

noddyholder · 09/03/2009 09:36

Anyone who gets so pissed that they are intimidating is not a good thing at a meet of mums out for a bit of a break and a good time.I loved it but this is pathetic but then i am old

mehgalegs · 09/03/2009 09:59

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Oh no.

Tortington · 09/03/2009 10:12

creamy custardo at hotmail dot co dot uk

PestoMonster · 09/03/2009 10:14

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noddyholder · 09/03/2009 10:18

pesto send me your email aand i will contact you next time o am in your neck of the woods for a coffee if you have time.My parents are planning a mega house viewing session in the next couple of weeks aND I think i will be going crazy!!!!!

noddyholder · 09/03/2009 10:18

well done for speaking up.

PestoMonster · 09/03/2009 10:20

Ok, is there a way of me giving you my email address without having to post it up here?

PestoMonster · 09/03/2009 10:21

Or MABS has my mobile number, get her to give you it and I will be able to text you my email... Or just text/ring you

noddyholder · 09/03/2009 10:23

I'll get your number from mabs and ring Why didn't I think of that?

PestoMonster · 09/03/2009 10:30

Am just off to Asda now, so will squeak to you later!

Tortington · 09/03/2009 10:56

creamy custardo at hotmail dot com

if you feel the need to mail me - which i dont thing anyone should - just out with it here.

i won't let SaS take the fall ladies. she's a forthright brash bird who says it like it is, this might leave someone 'in a bad place' feeling intimidated, but i am certain that wasn't her intent - whether she's your favourite person or not i think this is a fair statement.

i heard that shiny brought up mouldies throughout the night and was defensive of it.

then i get a fb from ladytophamhat who also (like me) wasn't there on the night. asserting that i had said that she (lth) had voted/vetoed me. she got this false information from her friend shiny. i am sure it was a communication misunderstanding and lth did apologise for invading my fb space in her defense. to be fair LTH isn't a big name in the moldie scheme of things and her involvement didn't mean anything to me tbh as we don't communicate off board and haven't talked much at the meet ups.

so lets cut the shit, no more facebook, no more e-mails. out with it here, so that those people whose names ( thats most of you btw) that have been flying out my inbox and fb get the chance to defend themselves

i've been friends with and meeting some of the same brighton Mnetters for 6 years. it probably wasn't the best strategy to employ from a girl who is reletively new.

Tortington · 09/03/2009 10:57

cheers pesto. makes more sense now.

2shoes · 09/03/2009 10:59

custy is LTH ok, she disapeard from Fb(I was concerned )

Tortington · 09/03/2009 11:07

i dunno, i didn't ask how she was.

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