I have no clue about curry. Am waiting on seeing how things go before making decisions about a social life!
Soooooooo
Night weaning.
I don't think I can face the wider MN because someone is bound to tell me to leave him to scream and someone will tell me that no matter how gentle I am I will be damaging him and setting him up for a lifetime of depression and trust issues.
The rattle went away, the baby slept quite well for 2 nights then went back to his usual disaster area so we assumed he was better 
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So no teeth, no new skills, no illness, not on dairy so nothing potentially giving him an upset tummy, nothing we can tell that may be disturbing him so we went for it and started with the night weaning. I've fed him at bedtime and then not again until 5.30am ish.
Last night was night 3. I have slept elsewhere for all 3 nights and dh has settled him. First 2 nights were OK. Not much screaming but very unsettled. BUT dh managed quite a few times to settle him in his cot rather than constantly walking him around. Last night though was hideous, screaming and screaming, he walked and rocked and sang all flipping night.
Tomorrow dh has to be up early to go to Leeds.
Do you think it was just the hideous 3rd night you get?
Where do I go from here?
I think dh is going to have to sleep in the loft to catch up after the past few nights. If I pick ds2 up though he will want milk. Plus I have NEVER been able to walk him round to sleep like dh can. Do I just bite the bullet and sit by him and pat him with him in his cot? is 3 nights of no millk enough to be able to do that?
I just don't know. I hate the screaming. But then we get screaming anyway as his usual sleep pattern is wake, demand milk, feed a few mins, toss and turn and get cross at not being able to go back to sleep, scream. Dh pick him up, he screams at dh for a bit then allows him to rock and walk him back to sleep. Not a great sleep pattern for anyone. Generally dh tries to settle him evening and early morning so I get sleep then and I try to keep him latched on and quiet in the core of the night for dh to sleep. But we can't keep doing that. I need sleep. Dh needs sleep. Plus if I get allocated Sunderland then in a few weeks I will be expected to do night shifts. And I WANT to do it and throw myself into it, I dont' want to start asking for dispensation due to feeding because the cild is a year old not 6 months old.