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[BriansMum]

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Ooh, the suspense Deb! Any news today?

Just marking thread and popping in for deb or lag update

I have news... Our buyers have accepted a new offer and still want to buy, but, their new offer is at a lower level. We have had an email from them saying that they can still proceed at the original price but can we split this reduction across the chain? Seems like an odd thing to put in writing to admit they can still pay full amount if they want to negotiate. I haven't responded yet. Any thoughts?

I also managed to wrong foot the agent who had me tidy up for the buyer's phantom viewing a few weeks back. He was genuinely flustered to have his bluff called about his lies.

That's great LaG but yes odd about the price. Maybe they're just too honest and lovely to try and do any tough negotiations? Not sure how I'd respond though.

Isn't point here you don't want to drop price,they still want to buy house (I assume that their offer hasnt been revoked - I know it's not legally binding ) ?

If they still want to do a price drop then how much are you and dh prepared to do this. And I would absolutely only do it on condition that you exchange in a short time so at least you get sale timing in your favour.

HAve got dds cold and my the muscle in my hip/bum (sorry if tmi ) and is all swollen up so i feel about 200 years old.

If you and dh can live with it I would say that price will be reduced if can exchange by Xmas , if not is original price. That is not unreasonable if they put effort In and given how reasonable you have been.

for gig -sounds painful

for lg, agree with gig - accept lower offer with v big strings attached!

apologies for typing, have ds2 on my lap!

It is quite uncomfy - ice packs help but sitting on one or waddling round with one strapped to your bum not the best look.

Thanks all. I have said "yes we will sell you house at the original price" but not said "no we won't drop" so that hopefully we look strong but there is the opportunity for her to come back with an actual lower amount if she chooses rather than walk away. I think the xchange pre Xmas condition is a good idea especially given school applications on 15 Jan. I had pretty much written off getting exchanged before 15 Jan anyway and so I had thought that once that schools deadline is gone we are in much less of a hurry to sell and can wait for the Spring Market.

The agent has not called me today with an update. I assume he is pissing me about for putting him on the spot last night about the lies! BTW I didn't outright accuse him. Just asked him if she would turn up this Saturday for another viewing.

In other news DH and I off to Scotland tomorrow for a wedding. It's in the north, the weather looks terrible. Who in their right mind has a wedding at the end of November in the north of Scotland in a (wait for it...) heated marquee?? we might be blown away!

no news other than we had a site meeting today on new build and we are getting more tempted by the practicalities of a new build. We're also trying to make sense of legal clawback the other agent has sent through re the rectory and future developments. Anyone any good at translating legal talk into English?

I can give It a go deb if you want

yes please, you still on FB for me to send it through or e-mail me your e-mail fletfam at gmail dot com

Emailed you but fb works too

Thanks

Put response via email. Not an expert but looks like you pay them a certain amount of development value if you do certain enhancements. May not matter as may not be planning anything that major but I would check what your plans are and see if they are likely to be the kind of thing that would be caught (email has more). Pain is that have to do this payment quite quickly so may not have cash to do it , you pick up costs and you need to disclose to mortgage co.

I suggest If need more info ask on legal as some good property types over there .

You buy the property, improve it, and then they take money off you????

Mad! If I'm reading that right I would run for the hills straight into the new build !

I think it's a protection thing as most my for profit or charities are duty bound to get best price for assets . Therefore it's to protect them for selling say an old
Hall to a builder who converts to flats or housing and makes a profit. The trouble is that it could catch someone like deb who is making home improvements but needs to get planning consent for them.

It would make me think twice as at best you have it hanging over you for 20 odd years .

Not not my.

Any ideas on elf costumes apart from hat and beard? Ebay'ed for inspiration - its a whole new world. Who knew there was such a market for sexy Santa outfits ?

Gig - stripey tights, shoes that turn up at the toe, red/green clothes, with belt round, rosy face painted cheeks

Stitching, lol at running straight into the new build

heard from agent today, to summarise, if we don't increase our offer then they will accept the other offer as they are worried about the whole offer subject to survey business. Surely you'd be mad to make an offer on a grade II listed house that wasn't subject to survey. We cannot afford any more so that's it, looks like the new build!!

Thanks deb- Good tips. So it is t
Definitely new build?
Cold better but hip/bum not good - its definite Muscular and quite local (so not sciatica or spd). Looking at net It looks like it might be pirifomis caused by dodgy hip. Trouble is treatment limited while pregnant so hope physio and stretching helps .

Quiet weekend here but can I ask you something. Dh went to rugby today - I didnt go due to my pain but he took e after some discussions about whether she wanted to go or stay (she has been a lot and used to enjoy noise, colour , eating snacks ). She is not 100% after cold and having no nap and has been a bit ratty all weekend so possibly not at her best,
Upshot is that she was so unsettled (asking to go to loo, home, etc etc ) ghat they came home at half time.

Dh annoyed and said at her age should know about consequences and be able to stick it out. I do sort of agree but am not sure this is best example of it (ie she can't necessarily think I am tired and still Sick and a long cold rugby match isn't for me- it's not like if you don't eat tea you don't get pudding, dont hit etc in terms of her understanding boundaries or appropriate behaviour).

I am not saying she should get away with it or it's ideal - just that I am not completely convinced that it's a lot to expect of child that age to sit it out in circs. Or am I too soft ?

Quick post as I'm knackered but I think you're dh is being a bit unreasonable in terms of expectations of a 3 yr old - she wouldn't remember what it felt like and how well she would have to feel to cope with a rugby match. Can understand he was annoyed but think just chalk it up to experience.

Knackered as have been selling raffle tickets all day at the Winter Festival - great fun !

On train back from airport after the Highland wedding. It was excellent and just so stunning there.

Any ideas on a soldier's costume for a nativity? Tomorrow I am going to clarify whether they want Roman centurion, Grenadier Guard, or desert combats just back from Afganistan .

Sorry hip sore Gig and that DD and DH had a bad time at rugby. We did a 20 min jaunt on Thurs evening with DS1 to see Xmas lights switch on and DS said he wanted to go but within 100 yards had forgotten this and was moaning because it was bathtime and he was too tired. They don't always know what they want or are committing to. They are only 3 after all.

Morning all. Glad you had a good time at the wedding LaG - how was the weather on Sat? It was wild here!

Gig, sorry you're in a bit of pain and discomfort. How much longer do you have to go? I agree that your DH being a bit unreasonable. I can understand why he's annoyed but they are only three. Teaching to understand immediate consequences of behaviour is one thing, but the situation you described is different. Especially as she's been a bit under the weather.

Mind you, I spent the weekend with DB and SIL who have ridiculously high expectations of DN and behaviour and seem to spend a lot of time trying to drum it in by shouting. Oh the irony. V .

Stitching, I'm glad the Winter Festival went well - I saw you raised a fair bit on fb.

On elf costumes btw I was checking out Santa's elves at a Christmas fair yesterday and they were exactly as Deb described. They'd fashioned and outfit out of red and green felt.

Gig, hope you're a bit more comfy, and yes your dh was being unreasonable, she's 3 not 13.(sorry, bit blunt there)

hi everyone else

lag -think yu definitely need to find out what sort of soldier, easy costumes here thank goodness, white or black for Ethan as he's a sheep. As "b" is one of his good sounds then I am relieved!!!Tristan has a quite big part in his play with a duet to sing, so we've been doing lines, stage directions and songs all weekend. Can't wait to see him in it, also got mum coming up for a flying visit to see Tristan and then Ethan in their plays following on from one another.