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Durham/Newcastle/in-between 2011: the Spiglet has arrived!

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StealthPolarBear · 01/06/2011 16:47

Waiting for Kara...

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juneybean · 23/07/2011 15:21

If I tell my womb 2013 it might be good to me and conceive on the first go

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StealthPolarBear · 23/07/2011 15:22

Give it a desk calendar

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Indith · 23/07/2011 15:29

Oooooooooooooh wow! Ace. How exciting! Tell it to talk to my womb, it conceives at the mere mention of sperm. After this one it needs some serious long term barrier. Do you think they'd just take it out? [only half joking emotion].

And yes, just to reassure SPB my children are at the park with their father. Next summer though, ds is probably going to want to go by himself .

KaraStarbuckThrace · 23/07/2011 19:43

Indith - DH and I have the same problem. We only have to talk about TTCIng and I conceive! Think DH is probably going to have a vasectomy but must confess still worry about it if fails Shock

Have noted what to avoid in Esquires! Your sister sounds delightful Indith, I bet she is a lovely aunty Grin

SPB - good luck with your interview, Envy at night out that is not going to happen for years since we are too tight to pay for a baby sitter!

Juney - woohoo baby bean! Good to set yourself a target!

Looking forward to Tuesday!

spiggy · 24/07/2011 09:27

babies! I have been contracepted up. Think DP bribed the gynae to suggest a coil when I was in to a have a cyst removed Grin It means any 4th baby will have to be properly thought about and not the result of a drunken "lets have a baby plan, followed 2 weeks later with eeek I'm pg!" like the last few times.

I did feel a bit sad when I was given the date for removal which is in 2016- past my self imposed baby deadline though.

SPB good luck for the interview. and another who is Envy at a night out Grin

Juney- not seen you for aaaaaages!

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StealthPolarBear · 24/07/2011 10:03

No night out, DH was "too tired" Angry
However we did watch a film all the way through with no children waking halfway through :o

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Indith · 24/07/2011 13:47

That sounds like a pretty good evening to me SPB!

Spiggy you can always have a coil out early Grin

I think dh is quite keen on getting snipped, I'm not so sure. It would be more reliable to have me done but then that is quite major surgery and both of those options seem so final! Don't want to keep relying on condoms (expensive, annoying and fairly high failure rate) but I am scared silly at hormonal methods due to turning into an absolutely mental, hormonal raging lunatic on the pill. I suppose just a bog standard copper coil is an option but then there is still that small risk of failure. Argh. Grr. Am I the only one who worries about the "what ifs" with thing like a tubal or vastectomy? What if we lose a child young? Of course they are irreplacable but would we then feel a desire to have another one? I know people who have. What if I die and dh meets someone else, will they want a child together in addition to ours? Do I just think too much? Confused.

juneybean · 24/07/2011 13:49

You are thinking a bit much, but I'd be the same.

But there's no harm trying the hormonal methods, such as the injection which is for 3 months, if you turn into a mental hormonal raging lunatic you can decide not to get it again!!

But hmm yeah you never know what's around the corner and sterilisation seems so final.

KaraStarbuckThrace · 24/07/2011 20:37

Indith I don't think you are over thinking, I feel the same.
At 36 and after hideous pregnancy with DD, I really feel another pregnancy would be a very bad idea.
Keep dwelling on the fact I might be in my 70's before I have any grandchildren, if the dcs follow mine and DH's leads!!

LeggyBlondeNE · 25/07/2011 13:18

Yep, I also worry this way Indith. I dream of the day I don't have to worry about contraception (Actually BFing seems to be working quite well, but then right now it's not too bad a risk to take!), but I wouldn't want to be left without an option if something happened to one child.

Three is a reasonably good insurance policy as these things go. Less likely to end up with a poor only child through sibling loss which must be particularly devastating to them.

spiggy · 25/07/2011 20:38

can I join overthinkers anonymous? I don't think I feel comfortable with a vasectomy for DP at the moment- it just feels too final. (and yes I know that is kind of the point but there isn't a better way to put it!) I always wanted siblings but after my brother was diagnosed with severe disabilities my mum got sterilised as the docs couldn't say for certain that it wasn't genetic. Mum has always said that she wanted more Sad So I ended up as a sort of only child but with a sibling as well. I think that is why I wanted lots of kids.

I'll report back on the copper coil as I also turn into a monster with any of the hormonal ones and have an unerring knack of breaking condoms. It has one thing in its favour- it doesn't rely on willpower to work Grin

Indith · 26/07/2011 20:14

Glad it isn't just me Grin

How was lunch?

I survived my sister. Just. They only stayed around for a couple of hours.

spiggy · 27/07/2011 08:25

Leggy and Kara obviously had a positive effect on T- he actually went to sleep at 5pm and although he didn't sleep all the way through til I went to bed he was quiet and trying to get to sleep. I got to eat my dinner with 2 hands!

Leggy- I was thinking last night- If you like the buckles of a baby bjorn, have you tried an ergo? you can wear it on your front or back, it does up with buckles but it supports better than a baby bjorn. I've got one if you want to borrow for a test run.

spiggy · 27/07/2011 08:31

damn, pressed post before I'd finished! We did think about you Indith and wondering if you would both survive. Grin

Apologies to Leggy and Kara for my big 2 running a bit wild at times. Blush

KaraStarbuckThrace · 27/07/2011 08:41

Spiggy - M&H were fine, they are lovely!
Next time we meet up shall bring DS and maybe we could go to the the park? Hopefully Indith will be able to join us and W & D could come along - hopefully the DCs will wear themselves out while we eat takeaway cake.
DS is off nursery Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays so if anyone wants to suggest a date?
I must admit I was really glad we weren't at Cafe Continental as the lack of proper changing facility would have made dealing with DD's explosive nappy a bit more difficult!
DD was awake all evening again arrrghh!

LeggyBlondeNE · 27/07/2011 10:24

Spiggy - if your definition of running wild is making faces with a baby and pinching errant sultanas from her bun then I think you can stop worrying! Wink

I have admired Ergos but I don't think it has massive advantages over the Close carrier for wee babies (it lacks a cradle carry positions but you'd still have to take your jacket off to remove child for instance,if you wore them under your coat, whereas with the BB I didn't have to) and I should probably hold off getting something to carry T in until my knees are better because I can't carry her upstairs now without pain and it'll only get worse as she gets heavier. :-(

Indith · 27/07/2011 11:16

Leggy what about one of these?, they are a MT design but with buckles. Also this lovely lady who is local and makes very pretty things indeed has started doing carriers with buckles. Both of those can be made suitable for all ages.

A park related meet up would be great. We've signed up to a big art project thing during August which will take up Mondays and Wednesdays (I think, or is it Tuesday and Thursday?) erm, this isn't very useful information is it? Grin

spiggy · 27/07/2011 11:36

oooh Indith they look lovely! Non-nursery days are mon and tues here, possibly thurs afternoons. lots of running about sounds like a plan.

think I am getting mastitis. T didn't feed a lot last night and i am a bit sore and feeling fluey. bluuuuueeegh.

KaraStarbuckThrace · 27/07/2011 13:35

We should do a Friday then, Indith, just to be on the safe side! Soonest I could do would be 2 weeks on this Friday, I have a HV appt just before lunch this Friday and we are probably going to Blackpool for a few days back end of next week.
That would be Friday 12th I think.
Indith - is there any nice parks near you? If everyone else is amenable, we could come to somewhere local to you if you aren't feeling 100%? Or anyone else have some good suggestions?

Indith · 27/07/2011 19:34

Ok next time I come on the computer I promise to bring my calendar with me! Can't be arsed to go down 2 floors to get it now though, for Fridays I need to check which weeks I'm on at breastfeeding.

There is a park about 30 seconds walk from my house but Wharton park in Durham is rather more exciting. It has its own carpark so you don't have to pay for street parking and it has go carts Grin

KaraStarbuckThrace · 27/07/2011 19:53

Indith - ooh that sounds like fun!!

spiggy · 29/07/2011 11:22

Remember that interview where I had to go to Leeds and miss out on cake? I got it! I can't tell anyone at work until they have given out the results to everyone but I had to tell someone or I think I would burst Grin

Hope your interview went well on Wed SPB. When do you find out?

LeggyBlondeNE · 29/07/2011 12:06

Woot!

So is this a course type thing?

KaraStarbuckThrace · 29/07/2011 12:27

Woohoo!! So well worth missing cake for ;)

Of corse, we will have to celebrate with more cake Grin

spiggy · 29/07/2011 12:43

It is a development programme designed to get me more experience of the organisation and skills that I can use to work towards promotion. The aim is to get you to a higher level (director/senior civil service) more quickly than if you were left to your own devices. Still have to compete for any promotions but hopefully this will give me a headstart with some experience.

Kara- you read my mind (although I am going to be buying a very nice bottle of wine as wellGrin)

am stupidly excited!