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candylady · 01/05/2010 14:50

I have told my partner that I am pregnent, and he allready has two children, he dose not want me to have mine but i dont think it is fair im so anoyed anyone help?

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Hodie · 08/05/2010 10:46

Ditto GardenPath.

Mumof2, I have been left to 'get on with it' too, by the little cockroach.

When the time comes, a baby/draft maintenance agreement will be waved under his horrible little nose for his perusal.

mumtotwoboys · 08/05/2010 17:26

It was a hard pregnancy, very depressing at times when I thought of my unborn baby not being wanted by his father, especially when I had such a good father myself.
I'm very tempted to tell him that he's the biggest prick I've ever met in my life sometimes.
However, me being hostile doesn't help anyone.
I forgive him, because I know he's pathetic and I feel sorry for him.

  1. He's missing out.
  2. I'm a better mother when I'm not angered by him.
  3. I'm actually a better mother than 2 parents or more put together anyway.
  4. Doing it alone means I don't have to put up with the prick, so he did me a favour.
  5. He's such a prick that I don't need to try to hurt him, he will hurt himself.
  6. His girlfriend is giving him enough shit right now which I'm liking.
  7. Keep your friends close and your enemies closer, I will fuck him up when/if an occasion arrives that I feel the need to. In the meantime I'll play the understanding mature party. He really is quite pathetic and young mentally. I forgive him. Forgiveness is done for one's OWN sense of wellbeing.
Lulumaam · 08/05/2010 17:29

I am not judging a contraceptive failure, i am takimg issue with unprotected sex, which is what the OP referred to, knowing her partner did not want more children.. i stand by that, thinking it is naive to have unprotected sex under teh circs and then be surprised the 'father' is not going to step up

Lulumaam · 08/05/2010 17:31

'we had unprotected sex he knew it i knew it'says the OP..

totally different to contraceptive failure..

mumtotwoboys · 08/05/2010 17:33

DS1 father was a bloody Christian from a 'good' family with 2 happily married parents.
I married him, and we planned the pregnancy.
He STILL didn't step up to his role!!

You can't trust bloody anyone!
Doesn't matter how you fell pregnant, there's always the risk that you'll be stuck with it alone, every woman should take that into consideration sadly

Hodie · 08/05/2010 18:43

mumtotwoboys, I salute you for forgiving him.

In respect of the cockroach, forgiveness is beyond me. I will, however, take a leaf out of your book. I shall relish being on my best behaviour, whilst he continues his fucked up Peter Pan lifestyle at the tender age of 46.

Keep up the good work.

mumtotwoboys · 08/05/2010 18:57

LOL :D

GardenPath · 10/05/2010 01:08

Mumof2 - You wanted your baby - that's what counts - it's the only thing that needs to count. I, too, salute you.

Who needs 'em?

You can't rely on 'em -

Fuck 'em all, I say!

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candylady · 13/05/2010 01:26

2 be honist im not asking him 4 nothing if he's there great if not then i can make it on my own. im happy 2 be having a baby

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GardenPath · 13/05/2010 02:05

If he's likely to be unreliable, both you, and especially baby, are best off without. It's not good for babies to have them flitting in and out of their lives when they feel like it. Babies/children need stability and security. A deadbeat dad/parent makes them unstable, insecure, clingy and unhappy with an underlying anger and it affects their whole lives and their own future relationships. It also affects their feeling of self-worth and confidence and makes them feel rejected and abandoned. They also feel the unhappiness of their primary carer (usually mum) when she has to deal with it. Apply all the above to mum, too.
"..if he's there, great..." isn't good enough - and it sure as hell ain't great.

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candylady · 13/05/2010 21:25

True,

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candylady · 13/05/2010 21:33

I have 2 live my life Im not about to kill my baby because he say's he dont want it so if he is there great and if not life goes on with out him. get real, look a Madona, Jordan, brad pits mrs, look at all the thousand women over the world who not only grow there children without a dad some give birth and cut the cord themself, we got the easy life in this contry every one owes us something, i created the baby im responsible 4 it so i repeat great if he is there to support me and if not life goes on.... Ive been blessed my baby might save lives god has blessed me Praise God!

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FabIsGoingToGetFit · 13/05/2010 21:35

How might your baby save lives?

want2sleep · 15/05/2010 12:06

mum2boys...I take my hat off to you mama

I was told by exdp 'oh wouldnt mind if we had baby' etc etc...

soon as I was he moved to another country...he has another dd he has left too since (he will never change his spots).

I forgive the sperm doner also (cant call him the father no visits/birthday/xmas cards/no support what so ever from him or the family)...I dont even know if the sperm knows when ds birthday is and ds is 5 yrs old!

I forgive the sperm doner too (by the way we was in relationship and living together so wasnt one night stand). It is hard though as ds is autistic and could have done with the help

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candylady · 17/05/2010 12:09

YES MY BABY COULD GROW UP 2 BE PRIME MINISTER, A SERGON, WHO KNOWS YOU DONT KILL A BABY BECAUSE THE MAN SAYS NO, NOT VERY POSITIVE ARE YOU FABISGOING2GETFIT. AND ACTUALLY THE DADDY IS COMMING ROUND TO THE IDEA, BUT I STILL DONT CARE, IM HAPPY AND GOD WILLING I WILL HAV A HEALTHY HAPPY BOUNCY BABY... SUBJECT CLOSED IM BOARD AND I MADE UP MY MIND NO NEGATIVE COMMENTS WELCOME ON THIS THREAD... THANKYOU VERY MUCH

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