Any advice welcome

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I hav recently split frm my 1 yr olds dad and need some advice on what to do with regards to him having access to our lil boy. whenever i offer it he turns it dwn bt if i say no he gets huffy and i cant seem to win. i dont want to hav to go down the road of getting lawyers involved bt dont see any other way to have him be a regular part of his life.

he says that he loves our son and wants to be there for him however this doesnt show with the way he is acting. he has missed both visitation days this wk and i hav grown sick of our son becoming upset due to this so he has been warned if he misses the third day then it will stop till he can prove he does actually want to b there for our son

Of course he does love his son and of course he wants to be there for him.......he just has more important things to do like go out with his mates.

I am ashamed to say a long time ago when my DD was a toddler, ex & I split up for 6 months. During that time, I was a bit like my ex. Its not that I didn't love my DD. I'd have died for her in a heartbeat. It's just when you are not the day to day carer, your immediate "issues" are elsewhere. You are worrying about work, social life etc. You are not thinking about your child because he's with you and he's got other things on his plate. Does that make sense? In his world he really could believe he loves his son.

I don't know how old your ex is but I was in my mid twenties at the time. Luckily I grew up since then!

my ex is 22 however he does act about 12 sometimes. i guess he just hasnt matured enough yet....

Didn't realise you are both so young.

At 22, its a minor miracle he's even interested in being a dad. Most of his age group are too busy getting pissed every weekend.

i no we are both young however when we found out i was expecting i matured he has just stayed the same through out. i just wish he would grow up a lil