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where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 18)

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DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 24/02/2010 18:01

part 18.... jeeze 17 threads have past...17 threads worth of dating excitment/disasters.

wonder what number 18 will bring

any predictions anyone?

wedding/co-habitation for someone must be due by now.

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Betty79 · 01/03/2010 22:04

well things are not going well for me, 2nd bloke I've arranged to meet wed have now found out some not nice info about, a friend at work thought she might know him or her other half might. well turns out he used to go out with someone she knows and well without going into details wasnt very nice to her. So will not be meeting him! think u might want to take that crown back off me this week!!

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 01/03/2010 22:26

betty - never too late to get your date back on with the older chappy.

where is this other thread.

i have booked flights for next wkd as they were cheap cheap cheap.

just need to arrange childcare, and hope forces isn't rota'd for guard duty that wkd and it looks set i'll be off over there

still alot of if's and but's surrounding. but halfway there that flights are booked.

and dm and dsis had agreed previously when i'd asked about going away that they would watch dc so hopefully they are still willing

its late fri, back sun AM. so more than 24hrs, but not as much as 48hrs for them.

the idea of a lie in without having to study or do housework with my childfree time is bliss.

i find any time i get that here i dont use it. i end up getting up at crack of dawn as normal and getting on with things/visiting friends.

sm01 - heard from him yet? and... may i ask if your having a sexual relationship yet since 4th date? and are you playing things too cool. that you seem uninterested.

have you actually suggested any dates or initiated any contact/text/calls yourself? or all him?

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Remotew · 01/03/2010 23:02

Betty good thing you found out now. Keep trying.

Hatesponge, I've posted on your thread. It's an emotive issue.

Remotew · 01/03/2010 23:03

Juice, great hope it goes well.

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 01/03/2010 23:13

thanks eve - me too. i need the break tbh. feeling the pressure of 2 toddlers 24/7 for past 2 weeks

will be demented by next wkd with them.

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confidencecrisis · 02/03/2010 08:27

still not heard from him.
gggggrrrrrr.

am going to send a text this morning. just saying hi and asking how he is.

if he doesnt reply ill know wont i and i really cant be bothered to keep waiting for him to contact me.

there could be a reason why but i think thats doubtful. i know i shouldnt text him really but im going to anyway as i cant be bothered with silly games

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 02/03/2010 08:28

confidence - you never answered.... has he done all the running previous to this? or have you initiated any contact?

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confidencecrisis · 02/03/2010 08:47

oh sorry - i didnt realise that question was aimed at me.

i think ive called him once. Other than that i think ive waited for him to text me, or call me.

anyway, text sent and got a reply straight away. like seconds later.

he said he nearly called last night, but then realised it was half 11 and he knew i would have been asleep.

thats quite likely to be true as before he was calling me really late and i was always asleep and i know he said he would be working late all this week as hes got a very important deadline thing.

will see how it pans out. we had agreed to meet tomorrow.
im 50/50 as to if it will happen or not.

what do you think? or am i paranoid?

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 02/03/2010 09:36

confidence. there is a fine line between letting him do the chasing... and seeming uninterested.

there's nothing wrong with sending a text asking "how was ur day" at end off the day.

if you haven't heard from him all day.

but, i have to admit. i do like contact everyday of some sort in my relationships.

that can be anything from 1 simple text each, to anything more.

i like someone who's interested and a brief summary of my/their day, as lets face it... if you cant share your day early on.... not really boding too well for in future.

say the relationship did eventually get somewhere serious...... thats what you do isn't it, you already know all your daft stories and learned each others likes/dislikes. you chat about your day.perhaps the news,a programme you have an opinion on. generally day to day stuff. if you cant do the basic of conversational skills naturally then communication will be crap.

i also personally feel it says alot about a fella if it comes to their mind naturally to wonder how you are that day... and then follow up with a call or text asking.

but thats just me. because i cant be arsed with wonder if he is/isn't interested.

if i hear any sort of contact then i know for sure he is.

some people like less communication early on.

but really. how hard is it to send a text to say "hi, hows your day. mines been hectic busy. just going to bed"

but similarly.... you could just as easy send that text yourself. if he's busy he might not be able to call you that evening.

but he still relpy, as you have given him a nudge to remind him he has forgot to contact, and you have said your going to bed and not going to distract him from work with a long winded call or text marathon.

you would probably get a small reply back (and set your mind at ease).. or possible a quick goodnight call.

and he wouldn't feel like he's doing all chasing and your not interested.

sometimes a routine like this is required to keep a relationship bubbling along if you are too busy to meet often

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confidencecrisis · 02/03/2010 09:45

i dont really want contact EVERY day at this stage.
that would be a bit full on i think. and guaranteed to send me running for the hills.

im pleased ive text him and he replied so quickly.

maybe, if i do see him tomorrow i might text/call him more often. im just really wary of not bombarding him with texts as i know it pisses me off.

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 02/03/2010 09:59

but what he's giving you obviously isn't enough contact or you wouldn't have mentionned it.

i've got my wires crossed i thought you had said before he called most nights and you liked that.i should really go back and see what was posted.

have you said anything to make him think you dont really want to hear from him all that much.
even something aloof along lines of "constant text/callin irritates me".

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DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 02/03/2010 10:03

see it now. phone calls every other day. so you do enjoy regular contact then??

hmm.. also i missed the part where you hid from work colleagues... what do you mean..

tell us how you "hid"?

my vision is you yanked him out of sight from your workmates

probably no where near as bad as that. just avoiding walking past their table perhaps??

tell us?

and why did you hide? are you embarased by him?

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 02/03/2010 10:41

morning all
juicy how exciting for you!
is he sorting out the hotel?
read your other thread btw
didn't post as was just too by it all
lol @ eve with her young man at the weekend..what would dd say?

much sympathy to everyone with phone issues it is a pita and if it's becoming an issue i'd say walk away/move on

confidencecrisis · 02/03/2010 14:49

i hid from work collegues? eh? im confused? Do you mean me?

yes, regular contact, and thinking about it, i might have said when i gave him my number to please dont call/text all the time and no cock pics

Monty100 · 02/03/2010 14:57

Hi all, just having a nosy in while the boss isn't looking it's quiet at work.

CC I think Juice has confused you with Mumof1.

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 02/03/2010 16:08

yes. poster confusion. sorry. head up my arse due to thread asbm mentionned.

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Remotew · 02/03/2010 16:11

CC and Mumof1 are both in a similar situation waiting for guys to call.

ninah · 02/03/2010 17:16

Hello everyone
spend last night with nm/ex and he has to go back to nm status
somehow since sorting things out he is so different .. like he's finally got his head round moving on - plus he still does things like scraping the ice off my car, giving the dc breakfast when I am in a rush without being asked, you know?
I will keep NF nev on the back burner for now south!
juicy glad you got flights sorted.
cc I think your bloke is fine, it's just an awkward balance at first between keeping in touch and he prob doesn't want you to think he is overdoing, esp as you don't contact him a lot

Betty79 · 02/03/2010 19:33

Hey all,

ninah-glad seems to be going the right way with nm, u sound happy about it anyway

Juice-whoohoo for booking flights!

cc-glad u heard back from him and maybe u can say something next time about it being nice when u get a message off him, and see if it happens more?

well bloke 1 i cancelled on is still texting me, has text 3 times today even tho i havent relpied and last one was saying can i not meet for a quick hour tommorow so he's bugging me a bit now! bloke 2 I havent cancelled on yet but havent heard from either, gonna say dd is ill, and well have arranaged to meet bloke 3 who ive been chatting too for 2 weeks but i didnt think he was that interested in meeting, turns out he is we're off bowling tommorow lol so shud be fun!

ninah · 02/03/2010 19:41

betty you're making my head spin with these dates! you'll have to name them, you know
bloke 3 is the one you are keenest on?
whereas bloke 1 is the 37yo with funny hair and bloke 2 the one you found out wasn't all that pleasant to friend of friend
Date you have def seems promising and I'd keep bloke 2 on the back burner perhaps tho it sounds like you are beating them off with sticks and may have 4,5 and 6 to audition soon
you are def Queen
and yes I am happy about nm tho in a perfect world he would have oh how can I say this it is so shallow - hair

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 02/03/2010 19:48

betty - 2nd vote for names. i'm

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Betty79 · 02/03/2010 20:04

ha ha sorry girlserm let me think of names for them....no.1 will call karateguy, no.2 will call fireman, and no.3 the trucker

and yes the trucker seems nice, is my age and has an 8yr old dd and from his texts seems pretty normal, and has more than one pic on dating site so hopefully no shocks about looks.

will let u know how it goes tommorow

thesouthsbelle · 02/03/2010 20:08

go you betty!

hi everyone. how are we all getting on today?

nothing new to report here- oh manchester is turning into a toe fetish sort of a man but hey it's a giggle lol, and at least it's not wanting fingers up his ass!

Monty100 · 02/03/2010 20:10

Juice - great about flights, is Forces off duty for trip??

Ninah - good news on nm.

Betty - have a good time with Trucker. lol

Hello everyone else.

SingleMum01 · 02/03/2010 20:28

Hi, I'm the one who hid from work colleagues!!!

Still not heard from my bloke since Friday lunch date which I thought went very well

I've only ever text him first once, usually wait for him to text. As its early stages we don't text that often, he knows I'm a busy working mum. Am wondering if he's waiting for me to text him now. He's always suggested dates so far.

Not got to sexual relationship stage - only met for lunch so far.

Think I should text him??

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