Hi everyone. Have been following this thread and have posted a couple of times. You all sound so lovely and upbeat about this dating thing. Pirate the waiting for texts is awful isn't it. Also MrsM waiting for neighbour to turn up.
I've got a bit of a strange situation that I really need some advice on as it is getting me down. I have met roofer man 3 times now but chatting for a fair while longer. He is absolutely drop dead gorgeous which sort of disturbs me a bit cos I am quite ordinary and a size 16 etc etc (prob get flamed for being insecure now!!). Anyway, he was quite full on to begin with and seemed very keen. We met twice and I went to his house and we had a lovely evening - bit of a kiss and cuddle. After that his texts tailed off and then stopped altogether. I did text him a few times but then gave up. Then I gave it one last try and got a reply. I asked him what had happened and he said that I had not replied to his messages which was not true. He said that he paid his phone bill late and that may have been the reason.
Anyway, he seemed keen to meet again and we exchanged a lot of texts with him telling me how special I was and how he wanted a long term relationship with me etc. I went to his on Sunday, and we ended up sleeping together. I shouldn't have but he's absolutely gorgeous and he seemed so keen. I know it's only Tuesday now but there has been a distinct cooling off since then. He won't commit to a definite date to see me again. The texts have changed and are much less frequent. I am not chasing him in any way but he did say he considered we were in a relationship so I guess Ihave certain expectations, like it would be good to arrange a definite date and maybe talking occasionally inbetween on the phone. Last night we texted for a bit and I told him that I was glad we were together and asked if he felt the same. He didn't reply.
Have heard from him today but only once which is unusual but I'm not contacting him again now.
I have a horrible feeling that he said all that stuff to get me into bed and if that is the case I am gutted. I am not so upset about him as a person but the fact that I have been rejected yet again. I have had some dating disasters including having my drink spiked and various other stuff.
Feel like giving up but know there must be someone out there for me as I really want to meet someone.
Basically what I want to ask is do you think he has used me and dumped me or am I expecting too much too soon. I would like to add that his texts have been very full on so it's not all been one way on my part.
Should I ask him outright what is going on or will that really put him off?
He tells me that he has women throwing themselves at him all the time and I think God do I want to go out with a man like that. It would do my head in!
Sorry, didn't mean this to go on as long as it did but I feel pretty shitty at the mo and don't seem to know the rules of this game.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you and I wish all of you success in your search. so good to see that Lou has found a decent bloke. Good on you Lou!