pc - i think one of the vital things of a good relationship is that there's a natural belance of communication and you are both able to understand each others expressions of affection and attention for what they are.
if your not compatible in this way... you may never be. you may always be slightly insecure in this relationship. unless you wish to address the situation and put your cards on the table.
for example... is there a lot of game playing involving who calls who first, who arranges dates etc.
in a good relationship... the contact and communication is open and evenly matched that it isn't too much (or too little) between the pair.
everyone who has had a relationship that they felt secure.. if you ask them how the contact/comms were during the early day and if they played games... the general response will be that it never even registered if they were ... it "just happened"
i could be completely off goal with this.
but this is a very common factor in creating insecurity.
some people like to get something a text/call every day. others can happily go a few days with nothing and it doesn't bother them.
if you are an everyday sort of gal.. and he's an every 2nd day type of fella... that leaves you watching your phone in the middle day where he doesn't contact.
i certainly know for me. if i dont get this straight off the bat and natural matching. i give it up. all that does he/doesn't he takes up head space i dont have.
some of the others may be able to back me up on this. or telling me i'm talking shite.
but they def have more experience with introducing kids. i've only done this once. by accident due to being snowed in . and now trying to figger out how i go about it with my current situation