where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 18)

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part 18.... jeeze 17 threads have past...17 threads worth of dating excitment/disasters.

wonder what number 18 will bring

any predictions anyone?

wedding/co-habitation for someone must be due by now.

hi everyone...have to go and pack again in a minute ready for my 5 hour journey ...am getting a bit fed up with all this travel, thankfully only a few more weeks to go!

met up with some other single friends last night, they are doing the whole internet thing as well but much more successfully than me, have been on 3 or so dates in the last month and turned others down as well. told them that I havent had any interest on match in ages (example this weekend, since thursday my profile has only been viewed twice let alone anything else) friends reckon there's obviously something 'off-putting' in my profile/description

anyway....

singlemum - agree, am not sure I would be keen to take kids to meet anyone early on, and vice versa (ie wouldnt want them to bring kids to meet me). if you dont hear anything from the other one, could you arrange to see the fit one when you are both child free?

lou - glad to hear things are going well cant imagine the novelty of someone pitching in with housework, ex never lifted a finger in the 8 years i was with him!

belle - agree with juice, i think you should watch this guy, checking up on you online is a bit odd.
ps - your hair looks fab

eve - am re bike!..ex (not Ex ex, but the other one who broke my heart ) was always talking about buying a harley, and us going for country rides on it. sadly like lots of stuff he used to talk about, it never happened!

betty - fixed a 2nd date yet with trucker?

hi everyone else...juice are you counting down the days til your trip yet?!

sponge-which sites are your friends on?

yes have sorted second date with trucker for tues, going for something to eat this time not sure where yet tho.

Just got back from second kids bday party this weekend, only one more to go to this month!

@ betty - my kids are at stage when they've got a better social life than me - for example, my son is currently at his second party of the DAY ... so I've spent the day ferrying him backwards and forwards and trying to amuse his twin sister when I should be writing another 2000 words on language systems and approaches to learning - okay you can stop yawning now ...

Betty, hope you enjoy the second date.

Been on my 5 mile walk today. I know it's not far but its is for me. Went for a coffee at a place I used to work, was nice to see a few old faces again, even enjoyed a chat with my ex boss.

Roast dinner on now, feel like I deserve it, also the chocolate pud for afters.

I told Salesman that I wanted a trip out on the bike so contact me when the weather gets warmer. He said we should get together before that but knows its just as friends only. Don't want to go there again.

Yes Ikwym re the housework thing. Its great that he just does it without making a big deal of it, the smile on my face when I find it done is enough
Now can someone tell me how to get out me watching ds1 trying to do a yoyo trick for the millionth time? He has been promised a bag of haribo by the mechanic if he can do it by this evening

hi everyone just back from final taxi journey of the weekend. Will have a good read of thread.

Belle hair is lovely.

Lou don't know how you can break the yoyo trick watching. Mine always say I am not listening/watching. And good on the mechanic
doing the housework.

Your news of how things are going with mechanic is heartwarming.

What do you think of my RL friends dilemma -she got back with old bf about year ago its a LDR. However things have already gone flat in the bedroom already which she's not happy about. He won't address it and tells her that she won't find anyone who will treat her as well as he does . I said that's bs and she shouldn't put up with it!

I know she's upset but puts a brave face on it!

er waht kind of flat, blue pill flat, or just routine flat? anyone telling you they are your best option is WELL a red flag imo

juicy don't worry i have NO intention of meeting him. he's been sending more this avo, to which ive said I have a 4 year old running about i'm busy!! still trying for next w.e but the minute i log into msn he pings up - keen much?!

anyhow off to catch up with todays news.

oh belle I just checked your hair
you are really pretty and it so suits you

sin - tell her this..... 'any man who is so far up his own arse doesn't deserve or need her attention' better indeed - undermining her self confidence/esteem already - knobber.

Lou - glad you're getting on well at the mo.

eve - 5 miles - wow you're better than me - my training has well - is yet to start lol.

hate why are you travelling so much?

thanks girls for the hair compliments. I wasn't sure but think the fringe so far tot he side actually works?!?

well I don't know what it looked like before, but it looks great now! made me wonder actually (I know looks aren't everything) but why you were selling yourself short with you know who - there must be many better options for you belle! and this extra keen text one does sound too keen to me, in the wrong kind of way
can you try diff sites, maybe a paying one? I know the London ladies aren't finding match taht great but it did seem to me out here in the sticks to have some men on genuinely looking for friendship/relationship rather than sex
or, or as well as sex lol
THAT kind of speed in teh Dales might turn out a bit Withnail & I eve

Belle, your new hair do looks fab. You look so different.

Hi ladies, guess who!

I have been away for ages but thought of this thread the other day so thought I would stop by. Hope you are all well? Mind if I squeeze in?

hi Doll.

eve - thanks, coupled with loosing about 3 stone in weight lol.

(no not lots of offers - ones which hld my attention (as the span is short lol) don't come around often so ho hum. Green's been kicked to the kerb, and tbh, paying sites - can't be asses with, think i'll stop single till I start college in sept - just have a few people to chat to.

Have had about 10 emails thou on smooch, and the same on friendsonline thingy so guess I need to see who's actually within my age range & not emailing saying 'stockings or suspenders?!?'

speed dating then - what's that all about - a 2 minute ding thing?

belle - am doing secondment thing for work, have been since Jan...since then have been doing 250 miles a week each way, coming up on Sun & going home Thurs. I miss my boys lots (especially as dropped phone getting off train and broke it so couldnt call and wish them goodnight ) but theres a lot of long term gain work wise, so am hoping the short term pain is worth it!

was talking to my single mates (the ones who reckon theres something about me/my profile that men dont like!) last night & we are thinking of doing speed dating once I'm back home if we can find a local one. Isn't Betty going speed dating soon as well?

just to add my friends are on match same as me. not sure why they are more successful!

scl - re your friend. I think if he wont try and sort out the issues, she would be well rid of him. I misread it at first and thought it was her saying no-one would treat her as well, am that it was him...I hate guys who come out with that crap, its so controlling. When I ended it with Ex/moved out he kept on for weeks how I would be alone, only he could put up with me, and so on...got to the stage where I said that actually being on my own was a lot less bad than being with him so I didnt care

hate - do you actively send message to men, or just wait on them? maybe find out if your friends are more active in contacting the men department.

belle - glad you've sacked green. hairs lovely . sorry missed you last night i was skyping.

forces is away this week from 5am till friday. he literally comes back friday in time to get changed and come try make it to airport.

if he's late i'll be bumming around to find hotel on my own.

and... he says if he gets caught using his phone this week he'll be "punished"... as there's a "no phone policy"

so... you will need to old my hand this week ladies. will get absolutely no contact from him till i land at aiport, as by time he gets back to base to charge his phone i'll already have left uk. i'm going to be a nervous wreck by friday.

doll parts whats with you? any interesting dates

eve - 5 mile walk is good start.. is this for a charity thing or something? how long is the full thing if you are?

lou ... a duster weilding mechanic... sounds the perfect combination.

oh and scl friends bf sound lovely

Ds1 managed to do the yoyo trick and is now waiting with bated breath for his reward lol. Today is a rather poignant one as it is the anniversary of my mum dying(11 yrs) so I will probably spend it quietly with dd2 and the puppy. We have been making plans to decorate the house as well it certainly needs it, and we are taking the kids to meet his mum next sunday

just looking in
hi dp long time no hear etc...how's you?are you still with that rather lovely man you met in the coffee shop?
juicy counting down time eh?phone ban sounds a bit draconian must be some major exercise that they're doing..but will make fri even more specialhave you sorted out your wardrobe issues as yet?
lol @ belle and her resolution to be man free...yeah,yeah right
eve would also def be up for a spin on the bike,in fact i can't think of anything nicer at this time of the year esp.in your part of the world
sm01 any news?agree with the others that this bloke needs to keep his dates child free esp.for first meet
fingers crossed for betty!!

have all you london lot got your jolly sorted then?
lou hope you get thru today ok,think your mum would be chuffed to see how good life is going for you atm

Thank you. I think she would have liked him esp seeing how great he is to me and the kids. He was playing football in the road with ds1 yesterday evening, and came with us to my nephews 21st birthday party on saturday and it was really lovely how he occupied the boys for the duration. I wish she could have met him

Lou, I'm sure your mum would be pleased for you.

I'm not training, DD is, for a 40 mile walk, just wanted to give her some support. I got the bus back! Aching today, I'm so unfit. The weather is great atm which always makes it feel worthwhile living around here, outweighs the downside, mainly limited pool of decent men.

Dollparts are you still seeing the same guy?

hi lou am thinking of you today, it will be 11 yrs for mymom in june so i understand how you feel sweetheart .

sm, def [shocked] about taking kids on first date, maybe he thinks he already 'knows' you through your chats?

Thank you everyone. I have decided to take things easy today so am watching dog borstal all afternoon and having endless cups of tea.

lou - enjoy your tea and rest on this day

eve - 40 mile. thats brave. dont blame you for getting the bus back

asbm - yes... 4 sleeps to go. woo hoo.. and yes.. it is a particularly rough exercise they are doing. think 40kg backpacks. 2 hrs sleep a night. no tents. so he's praying weather is good. but its been snowing past few weeks. and there's new lads in their unit. and they tend to be uber strict to terrify the new blokes he says, hence if he gets caught using his phone he'll be made an example of iykwim