So I met this man on a dating website, and he told me that he is a Phd, but I have just googled him

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and he's not, in fact he doesn't seem to have a degree at all.
Actually, he is interesting, but the lie kind of puts me off. Doesnt he realise that any genuine phd is traceable on t'internet??

heyho, just an everyday story of internet dating.

that would be too cruel.

I think he has also told me another lie, about not liking to type french on a german keyboard (which has accents), when the truth is that his french completely not what one would expect from an educated person from a francophone country.

Given that you like him and he "seems" a decent bloke why don't you tell him that you googled his name and what you found and see what he says. It must be hard working in that sort of place and being a nobody.

I am considering that. 2 things are stopping me
a. Im not his mum and
b. lying by a grown man is not evidence of being terribly bright.

That's true he's not terribly bright, but you could phrase it more like he should proud of who he is.

I'm sure their is a wonderful fish out there somewhere for you

The lie is the issue. I would definitely google a person if I was dating againg and any other easy access register. If the information is there and you can validate its accuracy it would be ridiculous not to.

would never have occurred to me to google...

ILT ......

don't start that one.......

OP - if you're in a researchie/academicie type field it's the first thing you do is perve google someone. I do it myself.

There might be a reason. Ask him. Simples.

I have a PhD and work as an academic. But our departmental website 'staff' page - shamefully - hasn't been updated for a whole year so if you googled me I wouldn't appear as Dr. In fact you just get non work-related things like my Facebook etc. So you would find no trace of my qualifications or job history (all in university, which you'd think would be easily 'traceable'). Get a grip!

I think you should at least speak to him face to face.
I don't think it's a good idea to base a new relationshop on what your read on the 'net

Are you sure he is not a fake profile? I was emotionally duped by a Nigerian dating scammer a while back, He had copied and pasted another man's photo, was a widower, educated (Masters)and in engineering. He supposedly lived in the same city as me, with his 5 year old daughter.

Then.... he got a contract which would involve three weeks in West Africa. Lo and behold whilst there he encountered problems with customs and hadn't budgeted for the additional expense...

I wasn't surprised by that time, when he asked me to help him with "only £900" via Western Union!

Of course he didn't get a penny, and I reported him to the dating site.

Googling is a very helpful tool if you have any doubts about someone on a dating site!

He had quite an unusual written profile, very distinct. I copied and pasted the first sentence, googled it and lo and behold the same "man" same picture, same name, just slightly changed details, was on an Australian dating site too! Only this time he lived in Sydney!

I know there are genuine men on these sites but sadly there are lyers, losers and also criminals who are based in Nigeria using fake profiles. So I say you should google away!

Good luck.