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Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (pt 17)

993 replies

Remotew · 18/01/2010 18:03

Has no-one beaten me to it yet?

Juicy sounding good.

WG old friend is worth seeing again.

Second not to arrange a meet up without me. Maybe down south in May.

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lou33 · 20/01/2010 12:55

6 weeks asbm, its just not practical, i would rather suffer a day or so of bleeding out every month than be out of action that long

at least for now anyway

eve, we had sausages a couple of days ago with a potato cheese and onion bake

its chicken goujons salad and new potatoes with mini pavlovas for pudding

lou33 · 20/01/2010 12:55

and have a good time eve

xkymx27 · 20/01/2010 13:05

They are a myth lol X

Remotew · 20/01/2010 13:05

Thanks, looking forward to seeing him.

Dinner sounds nice, can I come?

Wish I had more time to cook, we just get something really quick when I'm too knackered most nights to bother.

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Remotew · 20/01/2010 13:07

xkymx27. Care to share.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 20/01/2010 13:13

ohh another disillusioned poster joins the thread

lou33 · 20/01/2010 13:46

of course you can

i dont always feel like cooking but its cheaper for me to do so than get takeaways , considering i have a gazillion kids that can eat for england

and i just fancied the min pavlovas after seeing ones for sale dipped in belgian chocolate......

whethergirl · 20/01/2010 13:55

See what the gyno says lou, and get a 2nd opinion if need be. I think your own health comes before your kids...they need you healthy.

Fit Friend just emailed to say he'll call later to arrange meeting on Sunday! Haven't spoken to him in about 10 years! He also said he still has teeth marks from when I used to bite him (I was an awful child) and I was very close to telling him I wouldn't mind another bite now!

piratecat · 20/01/2010 14:32

arghhhh, he's sent me an email!! i can't open the fookin thing. ou est hatesponge???!!!

lou33 · 20/01/2010 14:34

my option is hormonal or surgical to fix it, and the gp is not sure the gynae man will say its ok for me to have a mirena

i hope there are less drastic alternatives other than a hysterectomy, it would be a last resort i think

anyway my period just started so maybe it wont be as bad this month?

everyone cross every available flexible body part please

piratecat · 20/01/2010 14:37

when i had a scan trying ttc dd, yrs back i had loads of fibroids lou. Does something happen to make them bleed?

DONTtouchMUMSfestiveJUICE · 20/01/2010 14:55

wooo hooo piratecat. are you waiting while biting nails on hatesponge.

sincitylover · 20/01/2010 15:06

Hi god this thread moves like lightning speed. Have already lost out on this morning - had to go back to bed after taking ds2 to school due to back playing up yesterday and then not sleeping till 4.

Missed a course this morning at work now.

Juicy - funnily yorke's last communication was a message on fb last week saying 'i'm wondering if we will ever talk again' and this coincided in me reporting the situation although he hasn't been spoken to. We are also having portable wireless panic alarms fitted here as for years have been saying we are too vulnerable. Building open to public but we are tucked away.

So I am feeling a bit happier - funny thing told exbf about it and he said I'm sure you can deal with it and it made me realise how he must view me - ie really able to handle myself etc and may partially explain things - ie I am not needy with him

Lou - I have fibroids as you know and did have heavy bleeding and at one point was offered a hysterectomy - however I have never wanted one (I know it would psychologically mess with my mind) but also as you say on a practical level having six weeks out with dcs is not really an option. I would have no-one to look after me or help out.

It really has to be the last resort for chronic gynae probs or for an emergency IMO.

My periods became better (combination of iron and homeopathy) and would now say they are manageable though still heavy (I sort of go low key for three to four days per month)- I do wonder though whether the bulk affects me and generally think they may drain you physically.

Will catch up with you later - work hubby is coming up for a drink today - haven't seen him for about six weeks and have got a late pass from exh till 7.30pm big woop (he'll be texting me from about 7.15 asking 'are you near' etc etc)

FairyLightsForever · 20/01/2010 15:47

Wow, have just caught up with the last 30 pages of the last thread, so apologies for not having caught up with this one yet...

Belle, well done for finally getting rid of GB!

lou, so pleased that you are still all loved up.

Hello to everyone, especially WG- nice to 'meet' you!

Juice, I'm in Edinburgh too- I should probably get myself on PoF then?

I have finished with the Canadian, as nice as he is, he made me feel bad for not being able to see him as often as he wanted. He also had issues with his mother, which rings huge alarm bells for me, at 45 surely he should have dealt with them by now

Anyway, off to try and catch up with this thread now!

DONTtouchMUMSfestiveJUICE · 20/01/2010 15:55

hey fairy - yeah edi is good fishing ... i'm halfway between edi and glasgow... so pretty lucky that i have 2 big cities of fish to play with , i'm also only 20 min drive from fife so got that lot aswell ...

sincitylover · 20/01/2010 16:16

I meant exh will be texting me from about 7 asking when I will be back - have already had him on the phone saying how tired he is etc etc - he always manages to spoil things guilt trip.

I feel like saying you should have thought of that before having dts at nearly retirement age. Even ds1 said to me (he should have worn a condom) - wise before his years that one!!

lou33 · 20/01/2010 17:39

scl maybe you under estimate your capabilities and coping skills?

it isnt fibroids causing the problem btw, but an overly bulky uterus

not quite sure how to feel about that lol

piratecat · 20/01/2010 17:45

lou, thats a strange term, but prob the only over bulky thing on you , i have seen pics in the past!

yes, am now wondering wether i should in fact join to reply to the 'match' person, as i am soooo curious to know what's in that email. Yet it would cost £29.99 to find out!!! Yet he must have joined to send it iyswim? (not specifically)

so basically Juice, yes, i hope hatesponge comes on today!!

kdk · 20/01/2010 18:46

I need sponge too - I want one of my mrmatch's email addies!

lou33 · 20/01/2010 19:01

bulky was their term not mine

i tell you what though i dont feel so slender as normal, not since before xmas anyway, i think i have gained a few pounds

the goujons were a success btw

Remotew · 20/01/2010 19:21

I had a gynea (sp) appointment today at the hospital. Doctor thinks everything looks OK, will get results of this smear and hopefully it will be negative. Told him my mirena was long overdue to come out so said whilst you are up there. Ouch! now its out. He told me to still use contraception until I'm 50.

Mind you the way DD is that won't be necessary. Met Salesmen for a coffee and guess what DD constantly ringing about trivia. He asked if she knew he was around and said that figures she is trying to mess this relationship up before it begins. I am actually so sick of it now. She comes first but needs a good talking to. We haven't made any more plans to see each other. Although I cannot blame that on DD.

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piratecat · 20/01/2010 19:40

eve, hope you are ok, not sure on the history with your dd, but hi, i am new to the thread. Oldishy on here but new to this thread.

sponge sponge sponge sponge (claps)

!!

I need to contact him!

Remotew · 20/01/2010 19:48

Yeah I know you as an established mumsnetter Pirate. Was just having a rant. DD is nearly 16, she's a homebird and doesn't like me going out much let alone having boyfriends. Takes her a while to get used to it by which stage they have usually disappeared.

Guess if someone really liked me they wouldn't be put off. Just feeling sorry for myself really. I like the latest but get the impression he's not that into me. Will SOH and see if he makes an effort.

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meltedchocolate · 20/01/2010 20:09

Sorry it didn't go as well as you had hoped eve. Though like you said, hold on, wait and see. I feel for your daughter but she needs to realise your happiness is important too. What does she do? How does she act with them or do you try to keep her and men .................................................................................................... ............................................................................. as far apart as possible??
Glad the appointment went OK.

Urgh, I was at a parent toddler group today. All the women there were talking about their men and weddings coming up. Am I allowed to still be in the 'I dont wanna hear everyone else's happy stories' stage? Or do I have to get over myself it and move on with a graceful smile?

whethergirl · 20/01/2010 20:13

abouteve, don't get too despondent. It's more likely that your dd was more of an issue for you than it was for him, and maybe in that frame of mind you misread signals that he was losing interest? It shouldn't put anyone off, esp as DD is 16 - she will be an adult soon, it's not as if she's 12 which might (but still shouldn't) be off putting. I would say for future dates, the rule is strictly only call in emergencies. Maybe when you talk to her ask her what she's afraid of...maybe after you alleviate her fears she won't feel the need to interfere.