to explain more, the place i live in is tiny and very expensive, and if we want to move in together there is a lot of stuff to be talked over wrt finances etc
the plan is to deal with some more pressing issues first then find a place that suits us all better, and with a cheaper rent, i will be checking out about council places, as ds2 needs a home adapted for disabled living
it should also mean my rent will be a lot lot less as well, so any benefits i have to give up in return for having a partner living with me, wont affect our outgoings too radically
it may also enable me to get a part time job too
but this isnt going to happen overnight, i am looking for a new car for ds2 as the lease on the one i have is expiring, i have to sort my health issues out, and dd2's (she hasnt been v well recently and is being referred to a specialist), a new blue badge needs to eb applied for, and various other things
moving in together is not something that HAS to be done right now, and i would rather work out the complications of doing so when i am not dealing with the things that have to be sorted asap, iyswim
still in shock at how it came about and how he didnt even have to think about it
and if you are wondering what my kids think about it, they are the ones who put it to me in the first place, which set us both off talking about it