Can we talk about loneliness please?

[AboardtheAxiom]

As much as I do not regret my decision to leave ex, once DS is in bed I am so fricking lonely.
I was fairly isolated and a little lonely beforehand to be honest, but could kid myself as I lived with someone and house always had people coming and going.

I am finding it hard to adjust, and just feel so . I am kind of embarassed but haven't namechanged as plan to for the new year!

My RL people (sis and friend) have their own probs/ families going on.

Any tips on what I can do to ease this a bit please? I am thinking of starting a course/evening class in the new year but am having an operation in a few weeks which will need a significant recovery/ laying around bored time afterward so feel like that is kind of putting me on hold too if that makes sense.

Anyone else feel like this?

Good evening all!

Yup ATA - Platform 9 and 3/4 an all that! Wish they'd f-ing cop it knock themselves out hitting the wrong pillar...

Had to go and add to my statement today which has made me a bit wobbly, but knowing why kinda helps (just not that much). I think I will feel a bit better next week when I will be busier.

Hope you are all enjoying yourselves and your dcs.

xox

happy new year ATA and anyone else suffering at the hands/words of an idiot. this WILL be a better year xxx

It certainly will be a better year - I just know it!

Let's toast the end of the last one and the good times we'll have moving forward .

cheers to that

I am name changing tomorrow, new year new start - if you have looked at my pics on my profile you may recognise my new name in 2010

I feel lonely but to be honest, I felt lonely in my marriage. What I find strange is being a single woman in a world of couples. I miss being married though I don't miss the man I was married to.

Yes I get that feeling too alwaysindoubt, I think most of us do, and this time of year makes it seem worse I think.

My ex, his eldest, BIL, niece, and all our 'camping in the field' friends are at a party tonight. I am at home alone. Because ex made sure our social family activities revolved around his family and friends I have pretty much been set adrift and feel very .

BIL is still there for me though, and an old friend has come closer again after drifiting away over last few years (ex hated her and feeling was mutual). I am going to work very hard this year on building up a network of people I can spend nice time with and build up some hobbies and pastimes.

Everyone does seem all coupled up but that doesn't mean they are happy does it?!, I think most of us know that from personal experience! Try to think positively {ATA tries to take own advice, fails, and heads to fridge for more alcohol...}

A-T-A, good decade just starting , you can be sure of that

i think I should change my name to something positive.

Yes you should namechange alwaysindoubt, go for something more positive definately.

Where are you - UsedToBeInDoubtButReallyPostiveNowIts2010?

hi i have been there. i am with someone now but there is still times when i feel alone even with him living with me, i suffer from postnatal depression and he dont always understand me, i spend a fair bit of time also on face book i have just joined this site as a way to find some other mums to chat to who are feeling the same sort of things as i do.

I like my own company, but sometimes loneliness just hits me out of the blue. Mainly on the weekend and holidays it hits me.

No tips really, but luckily I am really busy which helps. Even though it is work, kids appointments and hobbies study and housework.

Yes I am very inedependant and like my own comapany too, but still feel lonely from time to time. Like I said I think it is just a case of making a huge effort to branch out and make positive of the situation. And chat to each other on MN too!

Hiya Serena, welcome hun

I am on facebook too (most of the day on and off) so you are welcome to add me- mukkapukkamoo at live dot com - and I have had pnd with both dc. I am always ready to offer support and virtual hugs x

ASL i do like my own company too, and i am beginning to realise i was somewhat more lonely a lot of the time before, when i was with x. I think being single now and having the freedom to develop friendships, as well as some good friends offering buckets of support, i am in a position where i have more genuine support now. the facade of the support the x's were offering (eg, to make us feel like we couldn't be without them) combined with the number of friends who didn't realise i needed support when i was in couple, made being in that relationship a very lonely place. if that makes any sense whatsoever?!? lol

i am keeping myself company with my music, fb and of course my amazing friends here on mn. love to you all xox

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