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Where have all the fit and intersting men gone part 10 (part 10...already?!)

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Janos · 15/06/2009 19:08

Yay, I get to start this one!

Anyways hey to Dee and mousie, the more the merrier I say

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ridingjoker · 12/07/2009 20:21

suppose.

where is everyone today?

lou - did you go to festival?

i went rock climbing today. think i defo have a new hobby. was great fun.

and yet another day of catching ferrets. bigT asked to meet up. still not managed to arrange anything.lol.

sincitylover · 12/07/2009 23:06

hello all. Haven't got much to report really and also work is nightmare so haven't really relaxed much this weekend tho have had two loverly afternoon naps cos got up early on Sat and Sun for football training.

Seriously thinking about dumping samename as in between our meetings we don't communicate much - it's partially me (cos I think why should I phone/text him) but mainly him.

Nice guy have a great time when I see him, feel very easy in his company but I am thinking more and more that if there is some mileage in our relationship then we would be in touch more whilst we were apart to keep the momentum going and feel more connected otherwise what's the point. It feels too ad hoc IYKWIM. So watch this space.

I also wonder how long he will leave it before he does get in touch - don't like game playing but it's usually me who rings (not to fix next date as we have usually done that).

We also can't do much as I never have any spare money and don't like to assume he will be paying.

I have abt ten days to myself soon as dcs going on holiday - said he could come round for a few days but am not sure now - the money issue, combined with preparing for a big event at work at end of the month plus perhaps TMI want to be alone when I'm on !!!! is that weird - just want to be able to slob out for those three days.

Perhaps Im getting too used to being on my own and too independent.

Also, one last thing - rather trivial but an alarm bell rang - I asked him buy a can of drink the other week but he insisted I have a bottle so it didn't spill in my car. I told him I prefer the taste from can (and it doesn't always spill). I could be being over sensitive but having been in controlling marriage this set alarm bells ringing.

Ooh er that was really long sorry - how was guilfest lou - who was on?

Our local event was stopped mid evening because of a stabbing - a big group of us usually go but we didn't this year, thank god, mainly because of the weather but also because we had reports of bad atmosphere - which was obviously right.

ridingjoker · 13/07/2009 07:57

scl - the drinks thing is a bit of alarm thing? but can i ask? did you get a bottle or can in end? who backed down?

inthemistsoftime · 13/07/2009 08:29

morning all,

things are quiet on here, the ladies have been out enjoying their weekends, will be expecting up dates through the da.

scl unless it was in jest about the bottle I would be a bit but if it is only once incident let it pass, but be on your guard.

rj, how is the studying going?

I had a fab weekend, things are going well with marathon man I just have to keep him from going too fast!!!

Am supposed to have a meeting with Solicitors this afternoon but think I'll have to cancel as I forgot about picking up the dcs! And I cant keep asking my friends as I feel like I am taking the piss a bit.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 13/07/2009 10:42

morning all!
hope everybody had a good weekend?
mine was fab
and my dcs are all v happy too
exh knows and has voiced his concerns
app.i should have informed him first
ds1 has told me that my life is none of his dad's business any more lol
wise words indeed eh?!

sincitylover · 13/07/2009 11:47

hi all

no it wasn't in jest - he nipped in the shop whilst I stayed in the car and came back with two bottles!!

ASBM - good for you.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 13/07/2009 12:10

thanks scl
so what now with samename?

sincitylover · 13/07/2009 12:27

I am going to wait for him to contact me (as I often seem to be the first to ring him) tho we've already made an arrangement - he's always delighted I've called/txted but I am getting a bit fed up of it tbh. I expect him to make more of an effort. he seems t o like me taking the lead but I am not goig to do it all the time.

Just makes me think it isn't quite right for both of us!

Got alot else on my plate (will start sep thread abotu exh)

LouLovesAeroplaneJelly · 13/07/2009 12:39

Morning all

Well I have not read the thread since Friday but I hope that everyone had a nice weekend.
Well all the little darlings are now on school holidays but have managed to offload 3 to play at other peoples houses .
As for me, well didn't hear from the Pe Teacher about Sunday but had a very grovelling email from him last night so will think about it over today.

ridingjoker · 13/07/2009 13:33

asbm - glad it has went so well. not as bad as expecting.

scl - hmmmmmm.... think your right to see if he calls. if he doesn't at all then suppose you have your answer what he thinks of relationship

llaj - think you might see pe teacher then?

and...... drum roll please...... date with bigT tomorrow evening. as long as he doesn't get a call for silage. and ds chicken pox dont get worse.

ridingjoker · 13/07/2009 13:35

oh and study is going well except haven't really bothered this wkd.did alot last week and taking well deserved break.

LouLovesAeroplaneJelly · 13/07/2009 13:37

rj - where are you off to on your date?

ridingjoker · 13/07/2009 13:43

llaj - a coffee. strictly a coffee in edinburgh.

actually its kinda weird. he insists coffee for initial meeting? wondering if he's had an experience of meeting with someone and it turned out awful and he was stuck in their company?

or someone looking nothing like their photo and at least he just has to have coffee and can leave if i dont look like nmy photo. lol

ridingjoker · 13/07/2009 13:58

oh and remember goldust who's on holidays.

he's emailed to say he's at his aunt in london before cyprus... and he's been horse riding after hearing me go on about it.

so told him about my rock climbing(which he does)

and he's saying we'll meet up and go do some once he's back if i want.

i really will need to meet bigT and decide whats gonna happen there first. thank goodness goldust is on holiday.

LouLovesAeroplaneJelly · 13/07/2009 14:03

Maybe he wants to meet you sober? Can you talk comfortably in real life without the benefit of some dutch courage?
Either way, have a good time!

LouLovesAeroplaneJelly · 13/07/2009 14:04

Just re read that. Not saying that you are a drunk or anything . Ohh you know what I mean.

ridingjoker · 13/07/2009 14:06

he's not a big drinker. only drinks socially. think there is a background there.

think its kinda a test for him if i can have convo sober?

plus he admits he likes the idea of a short meeting the length of a coffee incase we dont get n.lol. which i agree with.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 13/07/2009 14:38

rofl that's a good point there
the dodgy pics and being stuck with some ugly boring fecker for hours sounds horribly familiar to me lol

ninah · 13/07/2009 14:50

Coffee sounds OK rj, hope you enjoy it.
Asbm that's brilliant! not nearly as bad as you thought then, and ds is obv sussed about it! glad you are all so happy
hello to everyone else
how was guilfest lou?
agree with itm about samnename scl, may be nothing. On the other hand you don't sound really as passionate about each other as you might be. I'd certainly keep looking
well had a nice weekend here, got a bit pssed on homemade wine and had drunken argument which was horrible but the rest was really really nice and I'm hoping the weird homebrew vibes will pass!

lou33 · 13/07/2009 15:05

blimey loads to read up on here

guilfest was great

i went with my friend and her son, and his friend, and met up with my mew young man

he was feeling a bit delicate after already being there 2 days , but we all hung out together, met a few of his mates too

he ended up coming back to mine after it ended and i dropped him home today ( i was driving yesterday )

we get on v well but i said to my friend today he seems to have got way too comfortable with em too quickly, as in he is behaving like we have been together for ages wrt making effort

he says himself it feels like we have been seeing each other much longer than we have

i am putting his lethargy/overcomfiness down to his overindulgence the last few days this time, and will see if he continues to be like it or not

if he does he may not last which will be a shame

because although in one way its a compliment he feels so relaxed i would still like him to keep making effort to keep me iyswim, and not just assume i will stick about

my mate says if he were anymore laid back he would be horizontal

sincitylover · 13/07/2009 16:05

yes lou agree they shouldn't get to comfortable!!

Make an effort you feckers!!

sincitylover · 13/07/2009 19:29

he he !! He must have guessed he just rang to see how I was and what I am doing this week. Was in supermarket so didn't answer.

Txt him to say would ring him later.

ridingjoker · 13/07/2009 19:58

SCL - thats more like it.

ridingjoker · 13/07/2009 20:02

had chat with bigT on phone. first phone convo. not what i was expecting at all. not in bad way.... just really different. totally thrown what i was expecting now.

tomorrow will be interesting,

LouLovesAeroplaneJelly · 13/07/2009 20:39

Can he not hold a conversation or does he grunt a lot?
Either way have a good time tomorrow.

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