Do any of you get really pssied that you have to pay for everything for your child and the maintenance you get hardly scratches the surface?

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Clothes, shoes, toys, food, trips etc. I'm feeling really resentful at the moment that I've been doing everything for ds forever and his dad does so very little. I know ds appreciates it, a little help would be nice.

Hmmm yes they say he should pay more, as i said...the last of our "spare money" . I wouldnt mind if she was struggling etc and we were helping but she has at least 50,000 in the bank, brings home a good wage of at least 2000. Hubby was there yest to see his daughter and he said the house is perfect, nothing needed at all. She has had at least 2 holidays abroad each yr tht i have known her...she doesnt take daughter with her! She is an insult to all good mothers out there. She is ALWAYS away at wkds, leaving D on her own. She had her prom at the wkd and we were being taken away for the wkd by our friends to their camp site so we tried our best to arrange pics with her etc. D rang as we were about to leave saying could we go to the hotel where prom was to take pics....i said ohhhh bums honey thts real difficult for us as wouldnt make it etc (she knew all this already) i said cant ur mum take pics of you...errr well err shes busy....HELLLLLO this is her only daughter and shes busy!! She was off with yet another internet bf! At 10.00pm ish poor girl slices her foot open and has to go hospital via ambulance....we had no signal wer we wer and when i got the missed call the next day felt terrible! Her mother had gone off for the wkd...

Family have said it will boil down to the jealousy of us getting married...had a beautiful wedding, all on a terribly tight budget...but lovely and the most gorgeous bridesmaids...lol....my 2 daughters and step daughter.....she will have seen the pics and hated it...so this is her stir up things for us. Doesnt need any more but think it will cause more of a struggle...we will argue etc....shes hoping we will split quicker than she did!

She pulled me to one side once....said he wil always go back to her.....that upset me, made me more insecure than i already am.....till i now know this wont happen.....maybe she finally does too.

They got divorced because she went off with another woman....seems she wants everyone to pay for her unhappiness.

my XP's X g/f also said he would always go back to her too. He didn't, but after everything that has happened, I wished he had.

I found she said this because she thought of the whole situation as some sort of war, and she couldn't bear to have 'lost' in her eyes, so convinced herself it was only a matter of time before he returned to her. She was actually an extremely insecure woman herself, although she'd never admit it.

i used to get annoyed, but not anymore. He has been a crap father. I am quite happy to provide all I can to her.

I am also seeing this issue from both sides these days - never got a penny from ds father and got on with it so totally get the whole "tired of doing it myself" thing - it does feel like that at times, but my dp now and i have dss just over the half the time. He is a student so I pay for his ds food, haircuts, clothes when here, days out when here, make sure he sees a dentist, petrol to get him to school etc and now his mother is looking into the csa to try and get MY income as dp doesnt have one. This despite her living in a house owned by a family member that she fraudulently claims benefit for and getting all child and working tax bens. There is good and bad on both sides and the system seems to fail all - having sat on both sides of the fence the whole thing needs scrapping and starting again.

p.s should have made that clearer - illegally getting lone parent tax bens - the dp of her first son lives with her and hes working ft.