where have all the fit,interesting and available men gone?[part 8]

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

oh jesus lou
it's turn your phone off time
but then why the hell should you have to?

morning all!
i have the dc this weekend(again!)
so there's my excuse reason for being date free lol
nutty why not give pof a try if you can't afford a paying site atm?

Hi all, still recovering prob functioning at about 80% now still off alcohol and social smoking so definitely not yet fully better.

Sorry nutty for your bad experience, hope you can move on from it.

Lou -sorry about court appearance will be thinking of you.

Do have the once weekly meeting with samename tomorrow - that's all I can manage at the moment due to childcare - need to spend more time with him to get to know him more in a more relaxed fashion.

But dcs did not go to exhs on sun/mon because he has just come back from mexico. He was told to stay away from work so I played safe and kept boys away.

Ironically and as you know I am always trying to make him see them more and because for once (first time) I have not taken them he has been making snidey remarks.

And has treated me like a loon for keeping them away due to swine flu possibility. Bet they were laughing into their sauvignon at the weekend.

Just goes to prove he does not like the control taken away from him. But if I were to get it (and my immune system must be low atm), he won't be knocking at my door offering to help out I know that much.

Interestingly if you look on the stepparenting thread all the exwives re painted as slightly mad!! Draw your own conclusions!!

aww scl
this has really knocked you
and the old chestnut which is childcare too
true you both need to spend more time getting to know each other really
and exh?
hmm.to be expected really
incidentally mine is working out there too atm
but there's no danger of him catching it
as he's had that illness for years

so how long is your exh working there ASBM?

It's a bummer when they go away - mine has his next trip in half term week - he 'just didn't think'. Gawd knows what I am going to do for childcare that week. And we have a major event going on at work towards the end of it.

I do plan to spend the weekend after next with samename.

Exh has also told me he cannnot 'babysit' on his night during the week (as he has done in the past on odd occasions)or have a sleepover in the week in termtime (has never done that).

This makes any time I can devote to a new relationship or even a social life minimal!!

Yet I bet he will criticise if I do introduce samename to DCs too soon - in his opinion.

I also think it's a tall order to expect someone to only see you once every two weeks.

oh he's not back til next week i think
and no they don't think end of
we just have to lump it
tis our payback for having the temerity to divorce them
well as far as samename is concerned that's v.much your business isn't it?
is he understanding about your childcare issues btw as i know he doesn't have any dc himself?

I'm not sure really. How could he fully understand, I know I didn't understand before I had dcs. DK if he has been out with women with DCs before.

That's why we need a longer time - to talk generally - not specifically about these things but they would come up in the conversation.

And the once per week thing will not be able to continue as I can't keep paying out for a babysitter.

Exbf (sorry to harp on about him I am beginngin to bore myself) did understand because he had dcs.

yes exh doesn't really realise I don't think that the reason he was able to meet someone so quickly (not saying that in itself is a good thing) is because he had the freedom to do so.

and was able to home in on an even younger guillible model who would have been fooledcharmed by him just like I was!!

yeah it's truly crap isn't it?
i'm not surprised you can't afford a babysitter once a week as i expect they don't come cheap
i've never used one for that reason
didn't realise that exbf had dc btw,not wishing to bring him into the convo here as such
am sure that samename app.your situ,he doesn't really have the choice as such does he
and it doesn't seem to be deterring him so far

yes exbf has grown up children. Hasn't seen them for several years.

Don't think its putting samename off either.
He's from a big family himself.

well that bodes well then
am hoping he supports the right team here too
if he's to prove a hit with your boys

He does support same team as DS1!!

Yes football reigns in our household I am afraid and we all support different teams.

wella 2 hour appotinment with my solicitor and i am told that although i qualify for legal aid for friday i am slightly too well off to get it free so i have to find £85 a month while this goes on

she does think it will be put on hold after fri until he deals with the divorce though, but who knows til then eh?

oh it's genetic in my household lol
lou-the legal aid thing is a joke tbh

its ridiculous, especially as he had 3 yrs to avoid doing this

bummer lou, what are you going to do? the legal system is not always fair is it!

if i dont pay i have to represent myself, so i dont really have a choice but to find the money

jesus that's awful,thought mine was bad taking over a year
it's his last attempt at control as you well know
good job you're not a walkover

obviously i dont want to say too much as i am pretty sure he reads this place to see what i am up to, but fingers crossed for me on fri eh?

I can't believe you have to pay anything Lou, that is outrageous

Well I have rejoined POF, god knows why as I never have any luck on there but we'll see. Had the usual flurry of messages within the first 5 min. 1 was ok so replied to him and have sent a couple of messages back and forth.

Oh and i picked one out that I liked and sent him a message.

clearly i have money to burn nutty, didnt you know?

( rolls up a 50 and smokes it)

ooh get you making the first move

yes lou we're all right behind you on this
feel free to rant we've all been there
nutty you brazen harlot you

Well what can I say, I was bored lol.

Still chatting to the first one that messaged me.

Ok why is it that as soon as they ask if I wanna chat on msn, I feel like I wanna run away lol.

go on nutty be daring

and ty all for the support