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Ok so I have had to sneak back because I need a bit of help/advice

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NervousNutty · 19/04/2009 09:36

So, it seems that I have a date in the very near future (not sure when yet) and the possibility of my freaking out about it is quite big, so hints and tips appreciated.

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NervousNutty · 19/04/2009 22:55

Well that didn't go well. Has to have been one of the most boring and stilted convos i have ever had and it wasn't me.

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lou33 · 19/04/2009 23:37

what happened?

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NervousNutty · 20/04/2009 09:08

It was just really really really hard work, boring and just crap. He came across as being very immature and kept going on and on and on about people from school, did I know this person or that person, and then telling me supposidly funny things about them.

Oh and he hadn't thought of anywhere we could go on Friday either, although tbh i don't see the point of going anyway now.

I know I said I haven't realy dated but I do know when something clicks and it doesn't and that really didn't.

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lou33 · 20/04/2009 10:18

did you consider maybe he was nervous and just trying to find things in common to talk about?

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NervousNutty · 20/04/2009 10:58

I did, and even taking that into consideration it was still bad lol.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 20/04/2009 11:08

oh jeeze
was it that bad?
well come over and join me
as i had a crap date too
worst ever tbh

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NervousNutty · 20/04/2009 11:16

Oh no, there must be something in the water.

I've not told this bloke that i'm not going on the date yet but i will do it today.

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NervousNutty · 20/04/2009 11:21

Right, have told him, via fb but i think thats ok as that seems to be his main method of convo anyway.

I just said that tbh i felt like we didn't click at all during the convo and that it was hard work for both of us, and so I didn't feel like going on a date was a good idea.

Was that ok ?

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 20/04/2009 11:28

lol
tbh i wasn't excited to go and meet him
you have to listen to your gut instinct here imo
yes tell him or you'll be sat there desp. wanting to scarper looking for the nearest exit
my friends realised just how awful mine was as i was home by 11 on a precious child free sat nite

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NervousNutty · 20/04/2009 11:29

Oh god thats bad seriouslyb lol.

I started sweeping up whilst i was talking to this bloke last night, then moved onto sorting washing it was that boring.

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compo · 20/04/2009 11:32

oh no!
some people can be very bad on the phone but fine face to face
are you sure you don't want to give him a chance?

ForeverOptimistic · 20/04/2009 11:33

Well done you were very honest. I think I would have made excuses about a cat being ill and dragged it out over the next couple of months, honesty is always the best policy!

aseriouslyblondemoment · 20/04/2009 11:34

compo can only say to nutty
to listen to her gut instinct here

aseriouslyblondemoment · 20/04/2009 11:36

ooh missed those previous posts
cool
job done then
phew

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NervousNutty · 20/04/2009 11:39

Honestly compo, i'd rather poke myself in the eye with a sharp stick than go on a date with him now, it was that bad.

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NervousNutty · 20/04/2009 11:42

Hmm he replied and is pissed off. Said it was my loss.

I think not but nevermind. I'm not replying to his message.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 20/04/2009 11:42

oh pmsl
ohhhh yes
know that feeling

CountessDracula · 20/04/2009 11:45

hi nutty!
You sound well shot of him

How's things?

CountessDracula · 20/04/2009 11:46

(ps if you date someone who only communicates via fb they are bound to be dull dull dull)

Aimsmum · 20/04/2009 11:47

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NervousNutty · 20/04/2009 11:52

Good point CD lol.

I am good thanks, just taking each day as it comes at the moment and trying to sort my head out lol, the sun is helping though

Half term was a bit of a washout because ds had chicken pox but all is well again now.

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NervousNutty · 20/04/2009 12:30

Hmm he just messaged me saying he doesn't hold grudges so i can still message him if i like, but he wil delete my number from his phone incase he txts me when drunk.

I replied 'yeah ok'

He has now sent 'so you going to tell me the real reason then ?'

I have just said that I already told him the real reason

However if he persists I may have to tell him how boring he was.

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NervousNutty · 20/04/2009 12:40

And now he is getting shitty

Said i must do this alot then, speak to blokes and then fuck them off.

I have replied that on i don't but if it makes him feel better then he can carry on thinking that.

FGS we chatted on FB and had a very flimsy date planned, not marriage.

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Tortoise · 20/04/2009 13:13

Sounds like a right tosser!
Block him on FB and avoid all messages!

Sorry it didn't work out this time.

QuantitativeMeasure · 20/04/2009 13:32

Is this the one you asked me about the other day?? (its me TE)

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