What if I never ever ever meet anyone else.........

[CrackerNut]

and am stuck talking to myself for the rest of my life ?

Aaah yes but if they don't like the fact you have children they are not the right guy for you. As my friend so eloquently put it-dd helps you to weed out the bad men before you get too involved. Children are actually a dating blessing!

I just don't get it.

Mind you I have never really dated before anyway, ever.

JS: If you are a bit hung up on a man who is unobtainable, then that can send 'keep away' vibes to nice men, too. What do you do, generally, for adult company (not dates, just socialising)? Do you have enough people around who can look after your DC for a night so you can go out - or are your DC old enough to be left alone? Because setting out to make new friends is always a good thing and the best way is usually to choose something you are interested in and look for a club or group that's associated with it (whether that's line dancing, pub quizzes, hiking or the Torchwood fan club) you will get to meet new people and sometimes that can include new available attractive potential dates, but if it doesn;t you will still have new friends and adult company and conversation.

Thanks SGB. I don't have many friends, and nobody to babysit in the evening - I don't really like going out at night anyway.

But a club is a good idea or a class maybe.

Just not sure what I am interested in!

Hi CrackerNut sorry i cant offer any helpful advice i just wanted to say i know how you feel.

I never thought i would get bored of being single but just lately its all the little things i miss from a relationship like a little text in the day or sharing the events of my day with someone in the evening.

I dont know where i think im going to find a man though as i never go out as there isnt really anyone to have the ds's.

That is exactly what I miss BNM.

I do go out occasionally now but only for a meal with a mate or similar. Not into bars and clubs, it's just not me and I don't like blokes that are into clubbing either really.

Most people I know that have recently met someone met them online but I have zero luck there too.

Have you tried the guardian Cracker? The site is a bit nicer than most
I have not met anyone yet but haven't tried too hard as I am distrustful and jaded

I don't think I am upmarket enough for the Guardian unfortunatly. Non working single mum of 3 living on a council estate Lol.

I have heard lots of good things about Guardian Soulmates - a former single mum I know met her now-DH through that site, and DS dad has made a few good friends and had a few dates via it as well.

I go to sainsburys everyday just to get me and the boys out of the house and im having no luck there either

Hopefully i will meet someone on one of my college courses in september if they run that is.

Which course is that ??

This time rather than doing cache in childcare im going to do nvq in childcare as its only a couple of hours a week.Also enroled on an admin course as want to cover myself this time hope to do both.

Are you going to do any study this year as i know you were last year.It is a good way to socialise and even if you dont meet men you may make new female friends and meet men through them.Thats what im telling myself anyway.

Im looking forward to getting into a new career as obviously being a beauty therapist for the past ten years has meant i have always worked with women and the majority of my clients were female and what male ones i did have were gorgeous but gay.

Well I have applied for the cache course again but I was also wondering wether i'd be better to do the nvq because of it being part time.

Got a whle to decide though I supose.

Yes its a pain that all the courses start in september.I am looking for a voluntary place in a nursey at the moment as to do the nvq here i have to have six months employed or voluntary experience.

Oh thats a pain. If you don't get any joy with nurseries then try playgroups as they are usually grateful of volunteers.

To do the nvq here, you just have to have a placement you can do for 12 hours a week, starting at the beginiing of the course.

Feeling so shitty about this again today, I just cannot get it out of my head lately.

Sorry ignore me, I know it is stupid.

Just having a bad time I think, can't seem to snap out of it.

I met my DH through Dateline. Yes I know what most people think but

I was on my own with DS for 6 years,joined this, and went out 2-3 times a week to the Cinema/Drink?Meal/Bowling etc.

I "interviewed" all the men I met in a subtle way,about their feelings about kids,families etc.
If they didn't like Kids,I didn't arrange to see them again,or anything else I didn't like,and that was done also by them,if they didn't want to meet someone with kids etc.

Best thing I did IMO. Stopped sitting at home feeling like I'd never meet the right person again,but went and did something about it.

Now been Married for 6 years and have 2 DD as well.

aww.sawyer that's a truly nice story
there's hope for us all then
Cracker sorry to hear you're feeling shitty again

Thanks Sawyer but have tried internet dating and I get nowhere with it.

I don't know why I am sudenely so bothered by it again tbh, I thought I was over giving a toss about it.

It just keeps catching my unawares at the most stupid times lately.

Don't know about "Internet dating",but with dateline,you filled in a questionaire,so usually all the contacts had to be qualities you liked etc. so that narrows down the odds,if you like,of "clicking" with someone.

I didn't want to meet a Smoker for instances (as previous H was a Smoker)

I got sent 6 names as often as I wanted them,and made contact by phonecall,so I got some idea of what they were like.

I joined when my DS was a year old (split up from H when I was 3 mths pg)met loads of people,but no-one that I could have a relationship with.Was a member for 18 mths then gave up.Rejoined when DS was 5yrs old.

Just think of all the males you come across in your life,work,friends DP's,Ex's etc. very few of them would make suitable partners,so thats why this can take time IMO.

You gotta "kiss" alot of frogs etc.but at least with this you aren't "waiting" but "narrowing down the odds" and the waiting time !!!

Is it expensive though ??

It used to be £180 in 2001,but each renewal it went down to £65.No idea what it is now,but that was for a year's membership.

Looks like it is On-line now though....

See here?

A few words of encouragement:

I met my husband through a dating agency. He was my fifth date, I was his first. It's our tenth anniversary this July.

My uncle was in his seventies when he lost his wife to lung cancer although she had never smoked (nor has he).

He is now in a wonderful relationship with the daughter of a German sailor he helped pull from the sea during WWII after they sank a German battleship. He's so happy - it's taken years off him.

I so hope you meet a lovely man. They are out there.

I feel like that too.... I really want to move on from exp. Im lonely and would like someone to enjoy my life with.

Im only 21 so still have plenty of time to meet someone but I would like to find someone nice soon...... im seriously bored of being single.