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I didnt think XP could do anything else to shock me......until today

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TequilaMockinBird · 17/02/2009 21:42

I just need to rant, not expecting any replies as this is probably going to be long!

As some of you who may have read my other posts will know, my XP is the definition of 'twunt'. He pays me £12 a week in maintenance and is forever telling anyone who will listen about how skint he is because I take all of his money . He works full time in a good job, has no new family to support, lives in a bedsit paying £50 a week rent (including bills), goes out at least 3 or 4 times a week drinking/casino/bingo and goes on foreign holidays etc.. Even when DD goes to stay with him, I have to provide food for her or else she doesn't eat or drink because he's skint.

Anyway, DD (11) has been saving up money for ages now. She currently has just over £100 (combination of pocket money, birthday money and christmas money) and everybody knows about it because she is so proud of herself and how much she's managed to save (and rightly so!).

She was reading a magazine today, saw an advert for Butlins and asked me if we could go. I explained to her that things were hard at the moment and that I don't think I can afford Butlins but we would definitely go somewhere in the summer, even if it was just to stay with friends/relatives for a few days.

A couple of hours later she rang XP to see if she could see him tonight as he's off work today. He said he couldn't see her as he's 'got things to do' (which probably consists of bookies/pub/lying in bed all day). She then asked him if he would take her to Butlins sometime, he replied saying that he was always skint but that he would take her if she paid with her money and I would take them/pick them up in the car

DD has now gone to bed in a strop and crying because I told her that I wouldn't allow her to pay for her Dad's holiday and nor would I ferry him about!

Once again, Daddy is wonderful and it's me that's made out to be the bad guy. I'm really and , I wish he would just fark off out of our lives altogether, I really do.

Anyway thanks if you've got this far, like I said, I just needed to write it all down and rant.

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PottyCock · 17/02/2009 21:44

What an ARSE.

Tidey · 17/02/2009 21:45

As already stated, twunty arse.

Coldtits · 17/02/2009 21:46

She will remember this, when she is older, and wiser, and her vision is clearer, and she's not a hurt little girl any more, she will remember that you loved her enough to stop her blowing £100 on a cunt that doesn't deserve it. She will remember the words she said to you, and she will remember that as much as she tantrummed you STILL didn't let her blow her money on a cunt that doesn't deserve it. Not even for a quiet life. Because you love her.

Poor little girl. He needs the skin flaying off his back.

MrsMattie · 17/02/2009 21:46

Immature eejit! Sorry you're 9rightfully!) feling peed off, and sorry for your DD .

MrsMattie · 17/02/2009 21:46

...and sorry for my crappy typing!

LibrasJusticeLeagueofBiscuits · 17/02/2009 21:50

Good god, what type of man tries to get his £11 daughter to pay for his holiday? He is a cunt, you are the bad guy right now but she will grow up and realise you are the one who was there for her and looked after her.

LibrasJusticeLeagueofBiscuits · 17/02/2009 21:51

opps that should be 11 year old not £11. Sorry!

PottyCock · 17/02/2009 21:52

Yes - she will remember this and be horrified by him - and probably sooner than you think. Kids aren't idiots.

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TequilaMockinBird · 17/02/2009 21:55

Thanks for all your replies and support.

ColdTits your post actually made me cry . I know that she will eventually see through him and realise what he's like but getting to that point is really really draining and frustrating .

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SammyK · 17/02/2009 22:03

aw your poor DD Coldtits is right, it won't be long before she is thanking you for not going all with her dad's scheme of fiddling a holiday out of his 11yr olds savings!

Did you explain to her why you wouldn't go along with it?

Not sure price of Butlins but we do a M-F Haven break once a year for under £100 (a half price offer on platinum accomadation), maybe something to consider for next year?

You sound like a caring mum, your dd will look back and see this.

tigerlili · 17/02/2009 22:12

((((((tequilamockinbird))))))))))) love the user name by the way!

what complete twunt your ex is!!!!!!!!!!

Your lovely daughter will remember !In the best possible way!
You are a great mom!

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TequilaMockinBird · 17/02/2009 22:13

Tbh I haven't really explained why I won't let her use her savings, no. I was just in complete shock when she told me and also seething that he could do such a thing!

I'll explain to her tomorrow once we've both calmed down - her from her crying 'I hate you' strop, and me from wanting to tell her straight that her dad is a useless, good-for-nothing cunt who doesn't even deserve her

I did think about ringing or texting him to tell him what I think about him but tbh he's not worth it. It'll only cause an argument and I'm not going to give him the satisfaction of slamming the phone down on me. I shall ignore

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TequilaMockinBird · 17/02/2009 23:00

SammyK thanks for the note re Haven - do you have to have a special offer code or something for those prices or is it just hit and miss with the website?

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sb6699 · 17/02/2009 23:04

Your ex could be my dad. I have posted about this before and it is true that you probably feel like the bad guy just now, when your dd is older she will see right through him and realise that you loved her enough not to let her blow her savings on them.

Just an aside, have you checked how much it is for a long weekend break. We got one last year the week the summer holidays started to ds only missed friday of school and it was only £70 (and that was after linen and gas charges). Didn't cost us too much while we were there either cos dc's were happy to spend all day in the pool, we ate in the caravan rather than the restaurant and then just went to the family club for a couple of hours to see the childrens show.

sb6699 · 17/02/2009 23:06

X-posted Tequila!. We just went around the websites tbh. I think this is the time of year to do it though - wouldn't leave it until last minute.

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TequilaMockinBird · 17/02/2009 23:09

sb6699 thanks for that, I'll have a look around online tomorrow and see if I can find anything.

She has her SATs in a couple of months and is expected to do really well so if I can find something cheap enough, I'd love to book it but not tell her until after her SATs as a surprise/reward

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sb6699 · 18/02/2009 01:05

That would be lovely. Does The Sun not do another one of those promotions later on in the year. Have done one of those as well although you need to bear in mind to add on the cost of linen, gas, entertainment passes to the £9.50 it still works out pretty well.

SammyK · 18/02/2009 08:21

They usually offer half price for early booking (don't have to pay it all at once), and also late booking I think as I have just booked my BIL the same deal and price to holiday end of april/begininng of May. Go on their website and subscribe to email offers and they will inform you when they have offers on. We always go to this park they do vary in terms of what each park offers so ask around. Like sb669 we hardly spend anyting whilst there, it's just a lovely break for the kids with beach, pool, entertainment etc.

Sun holidays end up dearer than getting it direct at half price (have done sun hol in the past).

inthemistsoftime · 18/02/2009 08:27

oh my god, I can't believe that a father would do that to his own child!!!!!

a twunt of the highest order

PersephoneSnape · 18/02/2009 08:42

haven have an offer on at the mo as well - not quite butlins, but the same general idea. I'll try and find teh code for you - it's 50% off.

and your ex is an arse. your DD would have much more fun on a long weekend with her caring, lovely mum than her 'dad'.

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TequilaMockinBird · 18/02/2009 18:18

Sorry, just got back online.

PersephoneSnape, is Haven more or less the same as Butlins then? I'm not entirely sure why she has her heart set on Butlins mind!

SammyK thanks, that park is not far from me really as I'm in the North East. Will have a look at the end of the month when I get paid.

And thanks for the general support and agreement that my XP is indeed a twunt (sometimes I think it might just be me )

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nkf · 18/02/2009 18:20

Unbelievable. I almost laughed then I just felt cross.

PersephoneSnape · 18/02/2009 18:45

i think haven is more static caravan and butlins is chalets. not much to choose between them i think, but they do have some cheap breaks on the haven website at the mo ( can't find the code!) and i did find this which might get you a weekend for £49 (?)

good luck with a bargain and chin up - you sound like a really grounded mum, your DD is really luckyto have you to make up for the twunt-factor. ;)

onlywantsone · 18/02/2009 18:54

very twunty like action.

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TequilaMockinBird · 18/02/2009 22:15

Thanks Persephone, have saved that link until I get paid.

I will take DD away this summer and we will have a much better time than she would have with her fuckwit dad

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