I really dislike New Years Day - anyone else?

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It is the most dull boring day, especially when you are stuck in with no adult company.
I had a nice NYE with DP, but he has gone home now & NYD always seems such a come down. Am I just a miserable old bint or do others hate it too?!

I am searching for things we can take DS to so that we don't all grow roots and sprout king edwards.

Cold, grey day, tired, hungover.....

Glad you had a good NYE, though.

Yes it is just a nuisance day really as everything is closed and for no particularly good reason.

Hi Blu - did you have a good Christmas?

Cold, grey, tired, hungover sums it up pretty well! I know I am lucky in that I had a good NYE though. Did you do anything?

Christmas was hard work, tbh. Was v tired, can't do much out and about in the countryside with DS's leg, I was on chief cook, bottlewasher and emergency repairs duty as Mum has broken arm, DP and I got cabin fever and sniped at each other...but I knew it would all be like that!
Had a good night last night with two other families in our road, drinking, playing some PlayStaion quiz games,letting the boys stay up to see in the NY - was fun. DS woke up at 11 am - unheard of. But that's another thng about NYD - it's half used up with sleeping in, before you know it. Were your boys at home with you? or elswwhere?

Actually, this had better be the start of a better year - I was sick to death of 2008!

yes lets hope 2009 will be a better year for you all, Blu!

Your Christmas sounds exhausting. There is so much hype in the lead up, but the actual day itself can be a total let down. My Christmas day was awful & I have made a promise to myself that next year I am doing my own thing & not trying to keep the family happy as it doesn't work & I am the one unhappy. Had a nice Boxing day with DP though.

Sounds like you had a good night last night.
I was going to stay in with DP & boys, but my friend mailed me yesterday morning & offered to have boys overnight, so we went out & had one too many! Was a good evening though.

Electra - I agree that it is just a nuisence waste of a day!

How is DS now, Blu?

Well I like it.

Off for a run later (when lunch has gone down a bit)

Then I'm going to watch the whole of Lost Series 4 on dvd, back to back, with wine.

I like it. Ww walked mile and a half to the seafront to watch the nye swimmers. Then we had chips then walked home! I don't like NYE though.

sorry, new years DAY swimmers I mean.

Sorry about your Christmas day, PC - was it family shenanigans and your exH having been invited? family christmases can be v hard work in the best of set ups!

DS is OK...we spent all yesterday a.m at hospital, prt of his fixator frame was dismantled f x rays and it was extremely painful for him and v distressing. We have a date fr the removal of the fram - Mid march - but it could be brought forward if bone growth has been v good. I think the light at the end of the tunel has illuminated just how tired of it we all are, iyswim.

Did the boys enjoy christmas? I just gritted my teeth and got on with it an took comfort on DS's complete excitement and enjoyment.

Maybe it is worse because I am stuck in with no adult company & going out of my mind. There is nothing decent on telly & nobody we can visit as they will all be doing family things today. Seems a long day already!

Ahh, your DS has really been through it, bless him. Glad the bone growth is good & that you can now see the light at the end of the tunnel. He is such a little superstar & I am glad he had a lovely Christmas.

Can you get them out for a walk before it gets too dark, PC?

Best take a couple of paracetamol before you go.

I had to go round my parents Christmas day & ex H was there the whole day (he was also there when I went round Christmas Eve & he went to my sister's with my parents on Boxing day), but that aside, my family spent the whole day getting at me. BIL's classic (joke apparently) comment was "Being married to you has probably been enough to turn ex H gay!"
He kept referring to DP as a Chris Martin lookalike with big hands (best he could come up with), just a day after DP (who has only met them twice in the 16 months we have been together) bought a nice bottle of champagne for him & my sister to celebrate their news. He didn't even tell me to thank him.

Boys were tired & grumpy, and ex H heard DS1 being rude to me, so came in & took his ds from him. DS went crying to my mum, who hugged him & started having a go at me because he was upset & it was Christmas, and I must have been stirring things up as ex H was trying to sleep! I had done nothing at all, but they couldn't point a finger at ex H! At this point I lost it...badly, and got a cab home. I am now in shame for causing a scene on Christmas day!

Might do that later, Bauble, if I can pull them away from the transformer game they are playing in their room! DS1 is such a lazy one though, and often turns his nose up when I suggest a walk!

There was more to Christmas day than that, but that is just a brief description of events. Think it was a build up of things that led me to finally lose the plot!

Bloody hell!

Your BIL is a complete....well, I don't normally use that sort of language, so won't complete, but he really is horrible, isn' he? At times, anyway. And typical exh to wade in with heavy-handed ds confiscation. Bastard.

You poor thing.

Good for you for bailing out, tbh. What does it matter what they think about your departure?

I father of one of DS's friends was talking the other day about how he is trying to bolster his v laid back DS up for 'male culture' in which piss-taking and insults pass for almost every other form of communication. Your BIL sounds as if he has never grown out of that stage.

Your lovely DP, being so considerate and generous!

It must be a good feeling, seeing your DPs behaviour and kindness contrasting with some members of your family, and knowing that there is an alternative out there. that your DP sets the standard. Well done, PC. Enjoy another good year with your good man, you deserve it.

DP is lovely and generous, and that is why I was so angry with BIL's attitude. I thought it was really sweet of him to go out & buy them some champagne, he didn't have to, and there was no thanks from BIL.

I can't have another year like that, Blu. I can't spend Christmas with my ex & not my DP - it felt wrong & I know it gets to DP. I was trying to keep the peace with the family, but that didn't work as I still felt the target. Boxing day was really nice with DP's family though, and it totally made my mind up that from now on things will be different. We will do what is right for us, not what my family expect from me.

Ex H stayed at my parents Christmas Eve night, christmas day night & then at my sister's on Boxing night. How wrong is that?! We have been separated over 2 and a half years now! I can't see it getting any better anytime soon.

It is a good feeling, Blu. As soon as I text to say I had had an awful day, he was straight on the phone to check I was ok. He is the only person that keeps me sane at times like that!

Here's to next christmas, then - however you manage to work it! But you're right - the days of falling in with exh and his sad desparate inability to separate him from your family can't go on. It's a wonder he doesn't recognise how ridiculous and demeaning it is for him - though doubtless he sees himself as king bee. Pathetic.

Still can't believe your BILs comments. What a git and a bastard.

And a toast to your DP, too!

I've told DP you have posted a toast to him, Blu, and he said "that's good of Blu!" I've told him all about you!

Toasts to all of you. Sorry your christmasses were such hard work, blu and pc but really really hope 2009 will be great for you and your dps and your sons.