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Xp just had a go at me because I won't tell him if I am going out tonight

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IllegallyBrunette · 19/09/2008 17:03

Tosser

Took the kids to his and the convo went as follows...

HIM - Where have you been ?

ME - No where, what do you mean ?

HIM - You normally get here earlier

ME - We were looking for Ds's game

HIM - Oh, where you been today then ?

ME - (getting pissed off now) Out for lunch (only answered to shut him up).

HIM - Right. Are you going out tonight ?

ME - Might be

HIM - Well are you or not

ME - Why

HIM - Well if Dd (his elder dd) goes into labour, I am the only one who can take her.

ME - Right, well thats unlikely as she is 34 weeks, but if that should happen, ring me and I will either come collect them or you can drop them off. ( I live 2 min away from him)

HIM - Well which number do I ring if I don't know where you are ?

ME - My mobile

HIM - So you are going out then ?

ME - Might be, don't see why it matters

HIM - Cos if I know you are at home I can ringh the landline and save my minutes.

ME - I hardly think ringing and telling me you are bringing them back will cost loads, plus you could just txt me seeing as your txts are free.

HIM - Oh you always have to be fucking funny don't you, why can't you just say if you will be in or out. Tell me what you have planned

ME - No

I then walked off and came home. As I walked out of the block I heard him say to the kids that I weas being stupid and didn't care wether he could get hold of me or not because I was selfish.

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tiredemma · 19/09/2008 19:29

well done emma, you really deserve it.

you must have impressed them in the interview.

(had a look at your holiday pics, looks like you had a great time, im glad- you all needed it)

Tinkerbel6 · 20/09/2008 10:36

IB well done in getting the job, I saw a similar job advertised but it was full time not part time, it would have been a great job, hope you enjoy it.

As for your ex I think you should nip it in the bud him running you down in front of your children, how nasty of him to do that just because he cant control you

Majeika · 20/09/2008 10:43

ooh nutty - you are so pretty and your children are lovely looking.

Ignore ex-p - sounds like a pratt!

well done on the job.

Slouchy · 20/09/2008 10:45

Nutty - job?!
Yay! i am really pleased for you. Onwards and upwards.

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IllegallyBrunette · 20/09/2008 11:43

Thanks all, am really pleased about the job and glad that seems finally seem to be on the up.

I am not surprised that xp has started being funny with me again tbh. He hated me working when we were together and so I know that he will also be hating it now as he knows it will give me back my life.

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IllegallyBrunette · 20/09/2008 16:21

I am absolutly fucking furious with xp now.

1:30 and the kids arrived back, and instead of bringing them to the door, xp had stood at the end of the road and watched them walk up. How childish.

Then when they got in Dd1 and 2 both said that all he did all the time they were there was question them about me, any men they have seen me with or heard me speak about, and then he told them that I am a liar and that I have got a boyfriend but just haven't told them.

I am so angry with him. How dare he a)question the kids and b) tell them such utter crap.

I have told them that I do not have a boyfriend, and if I did, I would tell them, and that in future, if he asks them anything that they do not want to answer, to just say, I am not discussing it with you.

I never question them over his life, because for one I don't give a toss what he does, but secondly it's not fair on them.

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Rosasmum · 20/09/2008 18:28

(((((IB))))))

Your ex is being a complete t**er. Well done on keeping your cool when having to communicate with him. At least your kids let you know what he asks them. Could you send him a polite but firm letter saying that your personal life is no longer his business and interrogating your children is not acceptable. Or would it cause loads of unnecessary hassle for you? How fabulous would it be if he did ask your kids and they sad - I'm not discussing that with you. Bliddy marvellous.

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IllegallyBrunette · 20/09/2008 20:45

I rang him earlier to ask that he not question the kids about me, call me names in front of them or tell them things about me that were not true.

He said that I can't tell him what to do and say in his own flat and he will say what he likes to the kids and ask them what he likes.

I told him that it made both dd's uncomfortable and he said that both were lying about what he had said anyway.
I know neither dd is lying as they both told me about it seperatly and voluntarily.

I asked him why he told them that I have a boyfriend when it isn't true, and he called me a liar again and said that he has known for ages that I have one.
When asked to back up this info he couldn't.

I just give up I really do, I am so sick of him thinking he is still allowed to have any say in my life.

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IllegallyBrunette · 20/09/2008 20:55

I am pretty sure that he will try and ruin this job for me by dropping me in the shit when he is meant to have the kids, so I think I am going to have to find a plan B.

Fucking shitye that I will now have to pay for childcare when their dad is sat at home on his ass all day every day.

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mamachat · 21/09/2008 17:19

Hi I know exactly how you feel, i broke up with ex p over a month ago and got a text last night saying 'keep your dirty f*ing men away from my little girl u can be dirty if you like but dd dont need tramps around her. don't think i'm a push over i think u are trying to push me.'

this is after him calling me last night and me not answering...

i dont have a clue whee all this comes from as I have not had 1 night out scince i broke up with him and had 2 nights out from the birth of dd who is 14months old... lol

crazy man maybe he is thinking of how dirty he is....

mamachat · 21/09/2008 17:19

Hi I know exactly how you feel, i broke up with ex p over a month ago and got a text last night saying 'keep your dirty f*ing men away from my little girl u can be dirty if you like but dd dont need tramps around her. don't think i'm a push over i think u are trying to push me.'

this is after him calling me last night and me not answering...

i dont have a clue whee all this comes from as I have not had 1 night out scince i broke up with him and had 2 nights out from the birth of dd who is 14months old... lol

crazy man maybe he is thinking of how dirty he is....

ladytophamhatt · 21/09/2008 17:24

Oh Nutty, its bloody marvelous about the job.

My laptop died (temporarily) and I was thinking baout you.

How was the holiday?

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IllegallyBrunette · 21/09/2008 17:25

I think they are just bloody delusional.

I am even more pissed off with him now, as dd1 stayed with my mum last night and apparently told her that xp was actually shouting at them when questioning them, and shouting 'tell me who he is' 'whats his name', 'what does he look like'.

I need to decide exactly what to do about this, but am that full of cold today that I can't think straight.

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IllegallyBrunette · 21/09/2008 17:26

Holiday was absolutly wonderful, kids had a fab time, as did I, and we hope to gon back there again, probably not next year but maybe the year after.

Am thrilled about the job too

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lou33 · 21/09/2008 17:33

he is such a nob nutty, sounds like my exh, they should get a flat together

mamachat · 21/09/2008 17:36

well done on your job, he just wants you to be a sado with no job and friends so you might need him to come back and look after you... men are so foolish and think we cannot see their stupid games..

how old are your dd's??

mamachat · 21/09/2008 17:39

if he carrys on this way your dd's will not want to spend time with him, while he is obsessing over you he is neglecting them. my ex does obess over me but cannot question dd as she is too young...

CarGirl · 21/09/2008 17:41

I wouldn't lower yourself to even discuss it with him tbh it just add fuel the fire! I wouldn't ring him/write anything. Just drop the kids off say good bye let him drop them off at the bottom of the path etc etc etc Honestly all but sevre contact with him any conversation you have with him just gives him some power in your life.

What a nightmare though, your poor dds

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IllegallyBrunette · 21/09/2008 17:43

They'd be great company for each other Lou.

My dd's are 10 and 8 mamachat, and I also have a ds who is 5 .

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lou33 · 21/09/2008 17:43

they need to be put into a huge cannon and shot into hyperspace

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IllegallyBrunette · 21/09/2008 17:45

It wouldn't be so bad if i did actually have a boyfriend, but I haven't even come close in getting one since the split.

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CarGirl · 21/09/2008 17:48

You could of course fictionalise one?

He's called Gerrard works is an accountant and has a 3 bed house in a desirable area. Let the girls in on the joke!

Your ex so needs to get a life.

lou33 · 21/09/2008 17:49

its just none of his business anyway

i have refused to discuss my personal life with exh from the moment we split, however much he has tried

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IllegallyBrunette · 21/09/2008 17:50

Then he'd just go on about how he knew he was right all along though.

He said last night that he has known about this boyfriend for ages, but when asked to back it up with details he couldn't.

I just wish he would piss right off the face of the earth tbh.

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CarGirl · 21/09/2008 17:56

That's why I think you should fictionalise a boyfriend, with really over the top details so it is clear you are making it up to make the point to him it's none of his business!

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