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How would a single Dad in West London find another single Dad to hang out with?

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peasoup · 17/09/2008 20:45

My brother is just going through a divorce, has a 10 yr old girl and an 8 yr old girl who he has care of 50% of the time. How would he find other single Dads with kids similar age to hang out with in his neighbourhood? He does lots with the girls, but it would be a lot more fun for him if he had another adult to have a laugh with while going out and about with the kids. He's VERY easy going, LOL. He has asked me to try and find out for him; I'm not just being an interferring old cow

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mogs0 · 20/09/2008 22:59

Well, I'm not sure about a pub crawl and ds, I might have to ditch one...........I have some very good friends right next to the river who ds loves, he'll have a great time!!!!

humanbean · 20/09/2008 23:04

Well if you're all going, I might as well drive up there too! In fact we could leave MY ds with my friend, and me, mogs, pea and pea's bro could go out..and mogs you could leave your ds with my friend....we could do all the pubs along chiswick mall...

Am really into this now (joking)

will cat you pea

mogs0 · 20/09/2008 23:09

humanbean - where are you driving from? Can I have a lift please because I can't actually drive!!! - and my family railcard ran out in August!!

mogs0 · 20/09/2008 23:10

oh - and I'm sure ds would love your friends too so would be more than happy to stay with them while his mum goes on a pub-crawl!!

peasoup · 21/09/2008 11:54

Morning! Wil phone bro later today. Have just posted on the lone parents camping/festival trip thread asking if there is anything similar for the dads or if I should just send him along camping with a hundred Mumsnetters and him the only lad

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Tinkerbel6 · 21/09/2008 12:18

send him camping, we will look after him

peasoup · 21/09/2008 12:24

Crikey, I think he's in for the time of his life this coming year! Be gentle with him

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unlikelyamazonian · 16/10/2008 21:12

peasoup....am going up to chiswick weekend of sat 25th of oct to see my lovely friend.....is your brother up for it?? we could all go for drink..

unlikelyamazonian · 16/10/2008 21:17

oops forgot to namechange

HB

DesperateHousewifeToo · 16/10/2008 21:43

Could your bro try posting on the w4 website forum?

here

It's not anonymous but at least lots of local people.

ps. there are other sites for Brentford, Ealing, Hammersmith, etc but Chiswick's is the most popular.

Have a good drink. Would come too but don't think you need a 'boring old married' there!

peasoup · 17/10/2008 00:25

UnlikelyA- I just stumbled back onto this thread. For some reason I don't get my "Threads I'm On" displayed once I've not posted on them for a while. Nearly missed your msg. That weekend I mite be able to do friday nite. Not sure about Sat. nite and deffo not Sun nite. What nite were you thinking of? I'll also check with my bro.

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peasoup · 18/10/2008 16:34

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poshtottie · 19/10/2008 07:57

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unlikelyamazonian · 19/10/2008 19:10

Hiya

I will be driving up on the friday afternoon. We could meet friday evening...in black bull or pisarros?? x

HB/UnlikelyA

unlikelyamazonian · 19/10/2008 22:12

Oh, and this is his most recent email to me. Notice he says 'don't show it to anyone or else you will have to come out here and find me.' Does he honestly think I would want to? I'd rather go to Swindon to buy socks.

And...does he think he's Al Capone?

And, from memory, I did not chuck him out, he stole our money and booked himself onto a plane.

The bottom line is: "Give me my Delia Smiths back or I won't pay you a penny". Scary. HIDE QUICKLY!

The asterisks are mine....

Happy reading everyone.

"Hmm. Bad call. Your source is not up to date, in any case. Don?t forget I
have nothing to lose, so changing up is never going to be much of an issue. You
must have been obsessing over this for months to get on to me like that. You
know what they say: ?trust no one?. Must really try to internalize that, know
what I mean?

I guess you always had too much integrity to be practical, didn?t you? It was
very bad timing to chuck me out like that. What with the global downturn and
all and me being the only breadwinner. Nice to hear you?re back on speaking,
and borrowing, terms with your family though. And you couldn?t bring yourself
to sell the . Hmm, they are good cars.

I?m sorry to hear of your troubles. No, genuinely, I am. Yet at least you have
some blessings to count. Try to look at the situation in a positive light,
that?s my advice. You?ve got lots going for you.

Okay, here?s the deal (and it?s one of those ?take it or leave it? kinda
things,
you know?) You can have some money, sure. I?d be only too happy to do
everything I can to support (Ds). Of course, I?ll need your bank?s IBAN
number and the other international stuff to transfer cash from here.

And I will do so. As soon as I have word from my brother that all my stuff, my
paperwork, my personal and
tax files, my photographs, hi fi, books and prints, my bicycle and cookery
books, are all safe in storage. I?ll arrange it with him and let you know the
date he is going to be in (town I live in). You can get one of your many many friends and allies to be in the house instead of you, if you like. Or, you can use a courier service to get the stuff to him.

Just one other thing. Don?t play games with someone who has nothing to lose
(because they?ve lost it all already). And don?t ever mention the words ?duty
of care? again. In choosing to communicate with me in the manner that you did
you failed in that, signally. You were my wife, after all. Oh, and puhlease
don?t threaten me. Amusing though it is.

Choices determine life courses. What sequence of events would have resulted in
me and you, being together, enjoying (baby) living in (where we live), me half way through an Autumn term, having a barbecue (and starting it at the right
time!!!!) I think you?ll find that it would only have taken a minor tweak.

I?m sending all this via (his old email), by the way, because I?ve marked you as ?unsafe? on (his new email). You can get back to me via *(old email).

There was something else. If I find out you have shown this email to anyone,
and I mean anyone, the only way you?ll have of communicating with me is if you come
out here personally and find me. Capisce?

***

Minor tweak??
ME Unsafe??
You 'were' my wife?? I still am!
Utter twat?
Yes

unlikelyamazonian · 19/10/2008 22:15

have copied and pasted that all onto other thread...where I meant to write it. Glad it's reached a wider audience on this thread though.

poshtottie · 20/10/2008 07:10

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poshtottie · 20/10/2008 07:17

sorry unlikelyamazonian,

Must remind myself to read whole thread again before posting.

Thefearlessfreak · 20/10/2008 07:33

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peasoup · 23/10/2008 18:09

Unlikey Oh no! My bro's got the kids tomorrow night so can't venture out! I also am pretty full of flu, so might be too pathetic to get over there. CAT me your mob no., and I'll hook up with you if I get a sudden burst of well-ness. Want to talk to you sometime anyhow about this freaking weirdo that sent that freaking weird email. Shudder!

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unlikelyamazonian · 23/10/2008 23:03

God you are hopeless. I have hiccups for chriss sake and I am going to be able to do a million hour drive all the way up there to lunnon. Come o.. half a cider at a pub. I will have my baby so surely bro can bring his babies and you can bring Mr Flu. ...

I won't even get to chisw til about 7. We will be in pisarros from 8. I will be obvious. Gorgeous ds in his buggy...me (and hijm) with blonde hair...me (not him) holding large glass of wine...friend has blonde hair..we will be outside by the railings as I have a lovely small dog and I have to take him with me...

unlikelyamazonian · 24/10/2008 08:41

Peasoup I have catted (??) you with my mobile number...

peasoup · 24/10/2008 10:55

Sorry for being hopeless! Bro's kids are big not babies, but will ask him today. I just checked my emails and haven't had a CAT but maybe Mumsnet HQ takes a while to forward them on?? I'm not in Chiswick but I'll google Pissaros

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Rozzer39 · 25/10/2008 23:20

Hi Peasoup,

Wow - this thread has gone bonkers! Sounds like half of London is lining up to meet your brother!

Did you get my message about my ex, who's a single dad in similar situation (but our kids are younger...)? Not sure whether that message went straight to you or on to the site. Am new to this, therefore easily confused!

peasoup · 27/10/2008 11:53

Hi Rozzer yes I replied to your message on the other thread under "Dadsnet" on Oct 17th saying
"Hi Rozzer he's not far from Ealing. I'm going to ask him if he's feeling brave enough to get together with another single Dad and see what he says-you know what they're like! What does your ex do with the kids? My bro seems to be at Kew Gardens or Brentford Leisure Centre swimming baths or Syon House alot. "

We haven't actually found him any single dads to hang out with yet. The only meet up was potentially a Mumsnetter (UnlikelyAmazonian) who had a friend in West London who he could go for a drink with, but it's not another Dad. So I might be getting him some blind dates out of this thread, but no Dads so far!

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