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How would a single Dad in West London find another single Dad to hang out with?

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peasoup · 17/09/2008 20:45

My brother is just going through a divorce, has a 10 yr old girl and an 8 yr old girl who he has care of 50% of the time. How would he find other single Dads with kids similar age to hang out with in his neighbourhood? He does lots with the girls, but it would be a lot more fun for him if he had another adult to have a laugh with while going out and about with the kids. He's VERY easy going, LOL. He has asked me to try and find out for him; I'm not just being an interferring old cow

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shelleylou · 17/09/2008 22:38

If there is a sure start centre near him some do a dads session the one im my area is once a month on a saturday. Some may be single parents others not ut its a way to meet other men to do things with kids.

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peasoup · 17/09/2008 22:39

Thanks Shelley I'll ask him to look into it. I don't know but aren't Surestart for toddlers? His girls are 10 and 8 yrs old.

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SmugColditz · 17/09/2008 22:41

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shelleylou · 17/09/2008 22:42

mainly but something like that may be open to kids of all ages or they may be able to give ideas of something similar. Sorry posted too soon

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peasoup · 17/09/2008 22:46

Have Gingerbread got a Meet a Local Dad type notice board like we've sort of got on here? I hope so.

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gillybean2 · 18/09/2008 09:28

See if there's Fnf (families need father) group that meets nearby and contact them to find out when they meet and then go along. He will meet some other dad's there and then can see if any have children about the same age.

fnf.org.uk/

lostdad · 18/09/2008 09:33

peasoup - this is one of the many things FNF (Families Need Fathers) could help with. They'll give him practical help and suggestions and probably be able to point him in the right sort of direction (both mums and dads - a third of the members are women).

It's a charity that works closely with other charities and is a wealth of information

It's helped me in this way - I'm friends with several dads (and mums!) and I know lots of children who take part in activities and made friends in this way.

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peasoup · 18/09/2008 17:35

Thank you!I'm texting him all this info.

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humanbean · 19/09/2008 20:32

My best friend lives in west london and is single and bloody lovely. She's not a dad obviously but it would be adult conversation and she has loads of friends.

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peasoup · 19/09/2008 20:56

Wow, hello Humambean! Fancy seeing you here. Sorry I haven't got back to you on your thread, but TBH just thinking about the NPD bloke who I told you I used to know was giving me the Heebie-geebies!!! (sp?) So I kind of avoided the thread as, I'm sure you can imagine, I just didn't want to remember that part of my life!! Anyway I may trip back over there now and tell you not to F*ing email him back or something.
I wonder if my bro and your mate should hook up? His girls are 8 and 10 ish. Has she got ones around that age? They tend to hang around Chiswick, Kew, Brentford, that sort of area.

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humanbean · 19/09/2008 21:05

She lives in Chiswick! She has no children and isn't married. Not met the right bloke. She is 46. Intelligent, drinks like a fish, kind and from yorkshire. Originally. She is my ds's guardian (since h fecked off) so she must be ok!

Don't go back to my thread if it hurts. I posted on shiny's and it really cut me up (love to shiny).

My friend loves children and is gutted she hasn't had any....but I'm really not talking about romance here with your bro...just another grown up to talk to who is local and likes kids
(unless something took off )

He's not a shit is he?

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peasoup · 19/09/2008 21:13

No; he's not a shit! Without giving away stuff personal to him, his recent divorce was amicable; his ex doesn't hate his guts!
I'll ask him whether he's up for it. What stuff does she do? Does she go out down by the river in Chiswick? I think he does sometimes.

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humanbean · 19/09/2008 22:20

She lives by the river. They could meet in Pisarros. (pizaros? sp?) She is a journo. An editor not reporter. BBC. Go on - tell him to buy her a glass of chardonnay. x

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peasoup · 19/09/2008 23:00

Wow; I'm getting into the idea now! No harm in getting pissed with a complete stranger now is there? Do you think she'd be into it? He works in film; they could be all "media-ish" together. Though he isn't in the slightest bit media-ish.

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humanbean · 20/09/2008 08:00

Morning Pea. Well how old is he? A similar age? She'd be up for meeting for a drink I'm sure. No harm in it is there. Your bro might not want to on the other hand...?

I could CAT you with my email, and I can pass her on his tel no or email address...

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peasoup · 20/09/2008 14:50

He's 44; he could be her toyboy!! Just kidding; I don't think we should be thinking romance. I'll give him a call tomorrow and see if he's into it. I kind of told him I'd find single dads in his neck of the woods, so I'll be coming back to him with an entirely different proposition. Is she mad as a coot or anything? Maybe they could text each other or MSN or whatever these young folks do nowadays (he's my older brother, BTW

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humanbean · 20/09/2008 17:24

Last time I spoke to her she seemed quite sane and rational. But I suppose she may have gone bonkers in the last 24 hours

Yes speak to him - he may run screaming. She's solvent, independent, well travelled, well read, into world affairs and countryside walks, tons of wine, works full time, has good social life, has a heart of gold but is cautious about romance anyway. It might just be nice to have another mate to hook up with for river drinks.

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humanbean · 20/09/2008 19:04

Hoochie I am sure you and she would get on brilliantly too! I don't mean in romance way

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peasoup · 20/09/2008 19:34

So it's Peasoup's big Bro, Hoochiemamma and Humanbean's buddy all off for a pub crawl down the river!!! Might lurk behind a sapling and spy on the night's events. Unless it gets steamy in which case I'll have to be sick into a bag-he's my brother!!!
Big bro lives by the river too!! He's all them things your mate is BTW, except maybe tons of beer rather than wine.

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TheBlonde · 20/09/2008 19:42

www.singlewithkids.co.uk/ I saw an ad for this site in a mag this week

humanbean · 20/09/2008 21:51

Well shall I CAT you then? Are you cattable? Can't remember how to cat...>

mogs0 · 20/09/2008 22:32

Please can I come to the river for drinks too?!! Until the end of last year I lived just there and would love to just pop down the M4 for a visit!! I could even bring ds if that helps!! He's 6 though so would probably be a bit annoying to 8 and 10 yr old girls!!!

Hope your brother finds some other Dads to hang out with!

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peasoup · 20/09/2008 22:49

Yes CAT me. Ok so now it's three women and big brother and one ds age 6 all on a pub crawl. If I tell him I've set him up to go out for a drink with three women he'll undoubtably say yes!!!

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