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How on earth do you meet someone new???

67 replies

mojoawol · 02/09/2008 21:48

I am 38, have 3yr old DS, been single for 2 yrs now, and really thought I might have met someone by now. But when/how can this happen? I work in a fairly small company, with no love prospects. Ex works nights most of the time, and have no-one else to collect DS from childminder/babysit if I want to go out, so nights out are rare and usually spent catching up with friends rather than trying to meet someone. I have childless friends the same age as me who have been single for ages, if they can't find someone when they have all the opportunities to go out - what chance do I have?
I have tried internet, but no joy. All I seem to get is odd-balls contacting me, any guys I like the profiles of say 'no kids already' in their profiles (what the hell is with that anyway - are we THAT monstrous??).
I think I have probably forgotten how to talk to a man, let alone be 'intimate' (see, I can't even say it without sounding awkward), but Jesus, I want a shag!

OP posts:
lou33 · 07/09/2008 15:51

i had a lovely time with he guy i met yesterday

he said he would like to see me again

so far so good

glitterfairy · 07/09/2008 17:24

Nope single dad I am up north but the north is also a big place!

undercovercat · 07/09/2008 18:40

singledad travels Glitterfairy you have pulled

glitterfairy · 07/09/2008 21:12

LOL poor man!

ChasingSquirrels · 07/09/2008 21:14

you sound ideal single dad - lol

undercovercat · 07/09/2008 21:17

Oh hes not fussy
Oh and did I mention he doesnt mind travelling.
I said I would advertise him on MN as being very available...will this do?

Hes gonna rattle me now, or thank me if it gets him the love of his life...

glitterfairy · 08/09/2008 17:18

Perhaps you should start a competition?

undercovercat · 08/09/2008 19:46

Great minds think alike. I said I could start an auction, and take bids Unique bidder wins, something like that..

singledadofthree · 08/09/2008 22:52

i'm not one for pouting...but 'unique' bidder? sounds like you dont expect there to be a stampede....

are you gonna show any interest from under your covers?

undercovercat · 08/09/2008 23:05

ha ha, you never know, or I might just fall asleep..

glitterfairy · 09/09/2008 10:25

Perhaps it requires a proper thread not an undercover one?

fransmom · 10/09/2008 17:56

lol at unique bids

fransmom · 10/09/2008 18:12

i think he should add a profile pic, what do you think ladies??????

FlightofhteGiantHardon · 10/09/2008 18:19

I would love an arranged marriage! Most of my friends live a way away so can't set me up...I did get introduced to a bloke one day with a family we know, he was Ok, a bit like Jarvis Cocker, very pale...I am not sure why bt I felt I might eat him alive. Me and the children that is.
I would like to meet him again but someone who is in their early forties and has never been married, well you wonder why don't you?

I got the impression that maybe he just wasn't interested in having a family.

My other lovely bloke I fancy, is still with his long distance girlfriend and I feel really odd even going round to say hello, because he knows I like him, he told me he likes me too, but he is with her and I guess that means he likes her more! I feel all wrong staying friends after that...like I am intruding. I can't muster much desire for someone committed.

One friend wrote me a lovely profil;e on My singel friend, but they kept refusing my photo as i wasn't pretty enough I think so gave up. I have several 'fans' on the guardian site, but nobody who looks amazing and I am too tight to buy a sub so I can't talk to them anwyay!!!

Original poster
mojoawol · 10/09/2008 20:27

Jarvis Cocker! Snap that one up asap (how odd, just been listening to him n'all)
And, if I'm pushing 40 and never married, wouldn't assume anyone else of same age and never married necessary nutter - that way the type of madness where Jennifer Aniston is considered odd lies!
Sheesh, really ought to log in more than once a week - seem to have started a dating site and missed out on the whole thing!
BTW - am a southerner, but always had a 'thing' for northern (pref Scots!) accents.
Know what you mean about the photo thing Flight, I don't think I'm hideous, but not photogenic, so wonder if that's what lets me down on internet.

OP posts:
undercovercat · 10/09/2008 22:43

wiki explaination of unique bids...somehow SD03 thought I was being insulting:(
Yes, profile pic would be perfect, tho I have hassled before and had no joy.
I have an ickle pic of him, shall I?

fransmom · 11/09/2008 14:46

go on ucc, i dare you!!!!!!

double double dare

mybumpsaboy · 13/09/2008 14:05

Hi hun,

like most of the others on here I'd say never underestimate the power of Internet dating sites...it just takes time, patience & a bit of luck!!!

I know I'm VERY picky with men (they have to be really intelligent and a bit quirky!) esp now I have the little one. It does get a bit disheartening because for every 50 replies you get, there might be one that you really "get" something from, & then when you meet in person often it's just friendship...

BUT I've made some fab male friends online, & think I may have just found a potential bf too. The kind of guys who are genuinely OK with you having kids tend to be the genuine types anyway...to avoid the paedos etc I never tell anyone at first, then ease it into convo...if you carefully explain why you were cautious, I've not had a single guy yet run screaming when I've told them - & I'm actually pregnant which is surely even harder to handle!!!

Try POF - it's a great site & free, I've also had some brilliant responses by posting an ad on gumtree dot com (take the time to write a long ad....you get a better quality of men replying!)...

& a tip = don't narrow yourself down TOO much by distance...a lot of Netdating guys are prepared to travel to you, on your terms. If you find someone special enough, a bit of distance won't matter to begin with & actually gives you the space to still focus on your kids

xx

Original poster
mojoawol · 15/09/2008 10:56

What's POF?

OP posts:
kdk · 15/09/2008 15:11

plentyoffish.com

hth

fransmom · 15/09/2008 16:59

ucc...........she's gone quiet lol

undercovercat · 15/09/2008 19:19

Just asking permission now...bet he says no

undercovercat · 15/09/2008 19:33

Oh its sooooo smalll but its the only one ive got!

memoo · 15/09/2008 19:45

I was a single parent with 2 DC for 3 years.

2 years ago I decided to give internet dating a chance and dated a few real numpty's. I was ready to give up on internet dating but then I met my now DP.

Fast forward 2 years and he now lives with me and is a wonderful dad to my DC, at weekends we often have his DC from his first marriage. The best thing is that we got engaged a few weeks ago and are planning to marry next year.

At 31 I was beginning to think I would spend the rest of my life alone but I can honestly say I have never been happier. My DP is the most wondeful man I have ever met and I really do believe he is my soul mate.

so please don't give up. I remember crying to my married friend that I didn't want to spend the rest of my life on my own, but now here I am, about to get married again.

fransmom · 16/09/2008 13:32

memoo first of all, CONGRATULATIONS xxxxxx
2nd i hope i didn't balst your eardrums there

i have just been thinking that i wouldn't find anyone an dyour post has given me the hope i needed (i think). i made the decsiion to leave xp almost a year to the day (26th) and whilst i am proud of myself for sucha landmark, i sometimes feel so really lonely. so thanks again xxx

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