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I have a hot date..... what do i do???

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charlotte121 · 10/07/2008 21:06

Its been so long since i have had a date that i dunno what to do.
What do i wear, what do i chat about.... aaaggggghhhhhhhh........ help me.

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prettyfly1 · 12/07/2008 18:54

damaged goods - pah. those are the marks of a woman who has carried children, borne children and is in her prime! we will have no more of that missy. good luck!

milfAKAmonkeymonkeymoomoo · 12/07/2008 19:00

IMHO I think anyone who is undertaking a degree whilst renovating a house with two children (one a new born) is worth getting to know He'll be in awe of your energy and projects... knock him dead...

piratecat · 12/07/2008 19:03

good luck charlotte121, I hope the evening goes well for you.

keep your faith, I hope it works out.x

littlewoman · 12/07/2008 19:05

Char, I recommend when you are getting ready for said hot date, you play songs like

'Yes (I do feel better)' by McAlmont & Butler (as a big 'up yours' to your ex-twunt)

'Irreplaceable' by Beyonce

'Search for the Hero Inside Yourself' by M-People.

And have 1 glass of wine (if you can). These things will really help put you in a feisty and playful mood. You will be irresistable (but don't forget to make him wait for Mayfair )

piratecat · 12/07/2008 19:13

i love that mcalmot and b utler track haven't heard it in ages. must go and you tube it!!!

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charlotte121 · 12/07/2008 22:45

thanks ladies..... i wasnt fishing for compliments but i sure got lots and you have made me feel a whole lot better.
I have plucked my eyebrows and i have a hair appointment booked for tomrrow. I'll upload a piccy of me with my new hair cut once its done and you can all give me your opinions on what you think.
Also am going to pop into primark or peaacocks and get a nice top for the occasion. thats all i can afford.

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PurpleOne · 13/07/2008 00:52

LOL I went to Primark today and got outfit for £16 incl shoes. *whispers go to primark, go to primark....

Just spotted your pic on your profile.

Damaged goods? even more with you. One pretty lady with 2 gorgeous kids. Bet you got a fantastic figure.
And renovating a house too? With a newborn? Man that takes some bollocks.

Go girl!

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charlotte121 · 13/07/2008 18:18

lol well hello ladies.... thought i would give you an update.... new hair cut.... i HATE it. I think it needs a bit of tweeking or perhaps i just need a few days to settle into it, its now sholder length but was nearly at my bum before it was cut.

I think trhe front could do with being feathered and the fringe could do with being shorter.

Got myself 2 nice tops from peacocks that came to £11 and a padded bra as my kids have eaten my boobs and left me with nothing.

All in all had a crap day.... had a row with ex because he critocized the fact that my friend watched dd whilst i got my hair cut. oooh well..... hope your all ok. x

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shelleylou · 13/07/2008 18:32

It will take a little while for you to get used to it. I went from your legnth to half way up m,y back to a bob when i was younger and that felt really weird.

Ignore him charlotte its not like he would have looked after dd whilst you got your hair cut and you certainly didnt leave her with someone you didnt know he just trying to control you dont let him.

davidtennantsmistress · 13/07/2008 18:34

agree with shelly char,

and fwiw, I think then u have such a lot chopped off your hair it takes a good few days for u to get used to it.

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charlotte121 · 13/07/2008 19:03

lol was quite funny.... ds just looked at me in dis-belief when he saw my new hair.... i dont think he understood. He actually looked shocked/frightened bless him. hes only 1.

exp just sent me a nice txt saying how horrible my hair looks.... how very kind of him.... hes such a knob.

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shelleylou · 13/07/2008 19:30

aww bless him. ye your ex is.

lou33 · 13/07/2008 19:37

he is saying that to make you feel crap, dont give him the pleasure

i bet you look great

have a lovely date

prettyfly1 · 13/07/2008 20:39

what a wxxxr. tell him it will grow back unlike his knob if he doesnt piss off.

on second thoughts just think that and ignore him - much more sensible. I am sure your hair looks lovely!

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charlotte121 · 13/07/2008 21:03

lol he txt me a joke for some unknown reason earlier, it said

wife moaning to husband "you never take me anywhere expensive anymore"
Husband replied "get your coat"
"where are you taking me" she asked
"the petrol station"

So i text bk.... oooh sounds just like our relationship. lol thought that was a suitable comment to make

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littlewoman · 13/07/2008 22:14

Char, I HATE having my hair cut. I really loathe change. Soon as I get out of the salon, I want to drag my head in the nearest puddle

But even if it's the world's shittiest cuyt (which I doubt) you are still young and very pretty. And hair grows - that's the best thing about it. But give it a few days. Tweak it to your own liking, and I'm sure you'll be pleased with it.

I so, so wish you some happiness from this. I really do x

littlewoman · 13/07/2008 22:19

I'm you-tubing McAlmont & Butler right now.
Arseholes to ex-twunts!!

GREAT SONG

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charlotte121 · 13/07/2008 22:19

me and the new fella had a good chat on msn this evening. hes really nice and we seem to have a lot in common.... my mum told me the otherday (not knowing that me and him were planning on meeting up again) that when i was going out with him that she thought we were well suited and that she thought we would get married... kinda funny as we were only 15 at the time but still she wasnt aware of the new developments.

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littlewoman · 13/07/2008 22:27

Mums are never wrong Char. We should know

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charlotte121 · 13/07/2008 22:42

tee he he.... well i think it could be a good bet for a relationship. I dont want to rush into it, just wanna take things slow and enjoy getting to know him again.... AND I WILL BE IN CONTROL.... will have to get some supplies
handcuffs.... tick whip.... tick... he better not mess me about or he will pay for it.

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charlotte121 · 22/07/2008 00:44

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm (grinds teeth)
well the date hasnt happened.... god knows whats going on. We ended up spending the whole eveing chatting about his annoying ex tonight on msn, looks like perhaps im a sholder to cry on. Agggghhhh Im so angry! Im always the "mate" who guys confide in and whilst i like helping people with their problems its starting to get anoying.

He must know i like him but I dont want to be strung along, or be his re-bound. I dont want to seem desperate either. Though the fact that he liked my kids was too good to be true. moan moan moan...........im off to effing bed. jhn ewihnewihnw ihjwfrneiwrhnciuewn (thats was my russian swearing)

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ThatBigGermanPrison · 22/07/2008 00:56

Oh charlotte you need to be less available. DON'T let him moan - stop him in his tracks. Don't be a listening ear - be flirtatious. When he starts moaning about his ex, change the subject, say "Well, she's not here right now so let's have a good time!"

If he is not easily put off moaning, he's a bit of a pantywaister anyway - ditch him!

PurpleOne · 22/07/2008 01:06

Do your utmost to change the subject on MSN. Nothing wrong with a shoulder under certain circumstances - it shows you are caring
I agree with TBGP, do NOT let him moan about his ex.
If he is moaning and bringing things up about the past, it's obv he has issues? Put a stop to that and talk about something else in a jokey way.
Of course he knows you like him, so don't be strung along or be a rebound. Just take things as they are and change the bloody subject

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charlotte121 · 22/07/2008 10:01

I felt really sorry for him last night. He's normally is such a happy upbeat guy and showed something was wrong so his ex was obviously bothering him. im glad i could help him was just peed off last night for some reason.
hes a great guy so lets just hope yesterday was a 1 off. I think your right tho. Its never good to knwo too much about the ex so next time the conversation seems tp be going that way i'll change the subject.
I only have a couple more days worth of anti-biotics to take so ill be able to drink in a few days time which is good. we can go to the pub or something. thanks for listenig to me moan! x

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littlewoman · 22/07/2008 12:41

Hey Char, not good news if he's moaning about the ex. It can be a bit of a red flag you know.

Can you try to be a little bit unavailable on MSN for a couple of nights? Makes him think about you in your absence, rather than thinking about his ex in her absence?

I'm a lady without an ounce of self-control, so perhaps this will be too hard. Do stand well back and observe him though, okay?

Don't feel sorry for him, that's what he wants.

Is this man any good for you ? Think about your own wants and needs. You need someone to care for you, you've got enough people to look after already ((()))

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