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Any of you been on internet dating sites? Are they all weirdos?

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SparklePrincess · 29/06/2008 22:32

Title says it all really. Your internet dating stories please?

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prettyfly1 · 29/06/2008 23:05

dpends which ones your on. ill give you a tip. dont use the dirty ones like flirt4fun, passion.com etc. i made this mistake and was bombarded with filth. match.com is ok but dont expect to find a prince right away. that said my best mate got married earlier this year to a lovely kind funny man who she met online.

TheDuchessOfNorksBride · 29/06/2008 23:19

woome.com is fun.

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SparklePrincess · 29/06/2008 23:35

Thanks. What about freedating.co.uk anyone been on that?

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teafortwo · 29/06/2008 23:46

My sister is getting married to her online prince charming. He was so impressed by the system he has, since, as a little hobby made his own dating website called doodledating. It is only for people living in Liverpool and probability tells me you don't live there but the story might give you a little hope!

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SparklePrincess · 30/06/2008 00:03

Bless them. I hope they have many happy years together. No, im not in Liverpool unfortunately, but the story gives me hope.

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PurpleOne · 30/06/2008 02:05

No their not all weirdos. IMVHO

I met someone off freindreuniteddating a couple of years ago. Really lovely bloke couldnt fault him. He just had issues and his ex wife wrecked out first night together.

After ny OMG thread, I still have faith too. There must be another prince out there?
I wish you well and good luck in your prowl

gillybean2 · 30/06/2008 07:42

Well I always look at it that I'm not a weirdo and I'm on there. And I can't be the only one now can i?! Course you might be a weirdo so that wouldn't help ;)

GIlly

CantSleepWontSleep · 30/06/2008 07:44

One of my oldest friends is marrying a man she met online in a couple of weeks. Neither of them are weirdos.

bealcain · 30/06/2008 07:56

i met my now husband 3 years ago on the internet. we met, fell in love and now are expecting baby #3

poshtottie · 30/06/2008 08:24

I met my lovely dh on datingdirect.com. in 2005.

davidtennantsmistress · 30/06/2008 08:37

no, but I do find some men on there are either after on thing, or have real issues

the ones you pay for, you tend to get a nicer type of man thou i've found.

then again my brother met his GF on myspace.com, (apaprently she thought he was someone else but either way) they've now got a 3 month old n are getting married in 2010, (all in the space of a year!)

lostdad · 30/06/2008 08:46

Have to say, when it comes to woemn I have always been pretty clueless. After meeting, marrying, having a child with and being suddenly and unexpectedly being divorced by her kind of confirms things.

I'm on a couple of dating sites. From my POV, a lot of women (and I say women, because I don't tend to date men ) don't seem willing to give men a chance - I'm sure it's the same the other way round, too.

I've had relationships where it's been love and first sight and all that; I've had others where she's grown on me.

Are all men out for sex sex sex? Can't say I would say no, but (and I don't know if I'll come over gay or a wet blanket for saying this) but as much as anything else I want companionship with. Someone who I can slam the front door in the evening with when it gets dark and just be close to - a partner in crime and all that.

Maybe I would like to get married again - have more kids with and have the nice, settled family life which I thought I had with my ex. Not quite `pipe and slippers', but settled.

Saying that - the best thing a woman can do to make me drop her like a hot coal is for her to even hint that I need to `move on' from my son, forget him and start a new live.

Anyone who makes me choose between her and my son is only ever going to come second!

fairydust · 30/06/2008 08:48

I met dp on line last yr fromn smooch.com and it is defanitly working he's one of the best things to happen to me and dd

davidtennantsmistress · 30/06/2008 08:50

to be fair LD - I think some women are like that, n from some people (men) I've spoken to online women can be nutters as well/after a meal ticket etc so it's a fair statement it's not all men who are bad.

(oh n not all women don't give men a chance - I give all a chance n will talk to anyone - if they're polite n respectful. )

hmm.... wonders if I've come across u on POF! lol.

agree with the kids thing thou - also any man who doesn't understand/appreciate my child takes up most of my day so I can't sit n natter for hours during the day etc is also binned off.

moopymoo · 30/06/2008 08:50

nother one here - met my dh 5 years ago on dating direct. only the second date i went on! first was ok too.

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SparklePrincess · 30/06/2008 12:34

Glad to hear all these positive stories. Have chatted to a few nice people & one wants to meet up. He seems ok, if a little pushy. I suppose you dont know until you try do you?

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prettyfly1 · 30/06/2008 12:58

although it should also be said, one of the reasons i split from ds dad was i found him on literally every dating site in the country and his profile was a pack of utter lies. apparently he is an accountant on nearly 75 k a year with one son. in actual reality he is unemployed with a mental illness and two kids - he just likes to pretend mine doesnt exist. in other words be careful and dont trust everything you read. its a shame we cant name and shame caught out liars cause i pity the women who fall for that spiel!

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SparklePrincess · 30/06/2008 13:28

Its a a bit of a minefield. Some men are such liars. Id love to know the cr@p my ex has spouted to his ow about me.

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prettyfly1 · 30/06/2008 14:41

dont even get me started. it was verging on compulsive with my ex!

memoo · 30/06/2008 14:47

Sparkle,

I am divorced with two DC. Two years ago I joined 'love at lycos' and to be honest there were some idiots on there but after a fewn months I met a wonderful man who lived just 1 mile from me. He was a single dad with 2 dd.

Fast forward nearly two years and I can honestly say he is the best thing that ever happened to me. We live together now and next year we are getting married. he is a wonderful dad to my children and my two get on fab with his 2, we're like a big, happy family now.

I can't recommended online dating enough, true there are some idiots but then its the same in real life, you have to weed out all the pricks to get to the good ones

madamez · 30/06/2008 14:54

There are just as many wierdos and even potentially dangerous people if you go to bars, clubs, etc looking for a new partner. But there are plenty of nice people too. And yes, some people are looking for sex rather than 'commitment' but there is nothign wrong with that if you are clear about your intentions.
I knoew a few people who have met nice partners through online dating agencies, some who have married, some who have, if not become coupled-up, had lots of fun and made some nice new friends. As long as you don't expect instant Twue Luv (and FGS don't lay out your desperation need for a Proper Relationship on the first date, that really puts people off) it's fun and worth a try.

Though I have to say I would personally rather stick pins in my eyes, but then I have never been into dating, don't want a partner, and know where and how to get sex when I am in the mood for it.

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SparklePrincess · 30/06/2008 15:04

Thanks memoo, what a lovely story.

Quote madamez "Though I have to say I would personally rather stick pins in my eyes, but then I have never been into dating, don't want a partner, and know where and how to get sex when I am in the mood for it."

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ManhattanMama · 30/06/2008 15:26

I met my DH on an internet dating site - before meeting him I had 2 other relationships with people I met online, both lasting 3-4 months. DH and I have been together for 4 years and are very happy!

Along with them, I went on a number of dates, some good and some bad, but no worse than dates you'd have with someone you met in a bar or through a friend!

Go for it! Just be safe, make sure that someone knows where you're going the first time you meet up with someone, and be prepared for the fact that some people LIE on their profiles

prettyfly1 · 30/06/2008 18:43

madamez - lol. i think the trick is to not expect too much and always always let someone know where you are going!!!failing that check him out on www.dontdatehimgirl.com - i discovered this this afernoon - its a us site but oh how i laughed

greeneyedgirl · 01/07/2008 18:51

I think that you can meet really nice guys online (we all dabble in online dating now anyway and we can't ALL be weirdos). Most of the guys I have dated (even married one) I met online.

The only thing I would say is try to join up to a paid site if you can afford it, the free sites are full of guys looking for "cyber" fun or a quick lay.

The best site I have been on so far was Dating Direct (.com) there are loads of people on it (more than on Match.com I found) and there is a good variety too, by that I mean ages, backgrounds, interests etc.

I say go for it, have fun, but be safe when meeting people.

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