Find myself envious of others

[RainyRainyRain]

Feel awful even saying this but does anyone else find themselves feeling jealous of single mums with involved exes? I follow a single mum on SM and her kids father is very involved, they share 50/50 so she gets lots of time to herself, goes on holiday, nights out, has a new partner. Meanwhile im sat in every night on my own feeling so lonely. I can’t help but envy her, that would have been my ideal set up. i love my kids dont get me wrong but I miss having a life other than just being “mum” does anyone else relate? I feel like I’ve completely lost my identity and don’t even recognise myself anymore.

I know jealousy is such a horrible trait and hate myself for feeling this way but just wondered if anyone felt the same and could relate

What 😂

You need to put the sherry down

Lots of time to myself sounds like it would have been wonderful. But I liked not having someone else insisting he had the right to make decisions just to annoy me.

Are you trying to shock us? How absolutely tragic for you.

OP remember online isn’t real life.

if it makes you feel better I am jealous of you. I have to deal with a bullying ex who does everything to make my life difficult. I would relish having my kids all the time instead of having to deal with him.

I dream about a time I can never have to think about him again but it will never happen. Even when the kids are adults they will have to choose who to see at Xmas and he will bully the to make it be him. I dream of your position, which I know doesn’t help you now but just to reframe it a bit

I haven’t a clue what you are on about.

Sorry @Temporaryname158 , my post isn’t aimed at you

Thanks but I will never feel that way ever.

If jealousy is driving you crazy, there are mp3 s such as Steve g jones hypnotherapist you can download.. also those kids will grow and you are the centre of their world.. try and treasure that.. it won’t last forever

This has turned very weird.

I’d kill for someone else to make the decisions for a change, I hate that everything falls to me. It’s draining never knowing if im doing the right thing or not.

Sorry op, it’s that time of night when all the pervy blokes appear.

The best thing you can do is stop following this woman @RainyRainyRain. The reality will be far from the truth and will just make you feel worse. She might not even be a single mum. Some people will do anything for clicks.

Are there any hobby groups locally that you can join with your children or any community centre activities? Your situation is unfortunately so common, you aren't alone. Some Women's Aid branches run enrichment days, might be worth emailing yours.

I am jealous of people that have good relationships with their exes who are good fathers sorry if that wasn’t clear of course i dont envy horrible or abusive exes.

They have split both have new partners i follow both of them.
thanks for the suggestion but my kids wouldnt come to any groups with me.

Reddit must be closed again..

OP, I used to be a single parent, so I recognise that feeling of envy. For me it was also friends who were with good partners. To a certain extent, I don’t think you can just switch it off. All you can really do is limit how much you’re exposed to other families on social media that seem to be having an easier or happier time than you. Comparing your reality to someone else’s will always leave you feeling like you’re falling short, even when you’re not.

Yep. Hopefully it reopens soon and takes all it’s creepy little losers back