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god, one of those days where I just don't feel like I can be bothered to go through it all again tomorrow

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MascaraOHara · 11/06/2008 21:48

need a change

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MascaraOHara · 11/06/2008 21:50

thanks. it's just the constant unbreaking monotony

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charliecat · 11/06/2008 21:50

dont do it all again tommorow then how old are your kids? Got any money (or a credit card!) go shopping in primark or somewhere, have a pub lunch...
Sympathy...my head feels like its going to explode, loads of shit to sort, not enough time in day, etc etc

MascaraOHara · 11/06/2008 21:51

I have to go to work.

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charliecat · 11/06/2008 21:53

Oh NO I had visions of you being a SAHM, with the neverending dishes and nappies etc. How much of tommorow are you working? (all day I bet)

MascaraOHara · 11/06/2008 21:55

yes I'm FT WOHM..

so basically my life consists of..

rushing in morning, take dd to CM rush to work.. slog my guts out in a miserable environment.. rush home, collect dd.. read school book, get supper, put dd to bed, make tea.. sit on own all night, bed, sleep

repeat

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ChasingSquirrels · 11/06/2008 21:57

can you plan something nice for the weekend?

charliecat · 11/06/2008 21:57

Fark. (will still be up at midnight working from home but mercifully can MN at same time) You have GOT to make the most of your weekend then.
Its nearly there, only couple of days to go...
Start making blissful plans. What time do you finish work? Is there time to do anything other than rush straight home?
Mcdonalds, or something? Park, after Tescos for a sarny or something?

MascaraOHara · 11/06/2008 22:13

yeah need to do something but dd soo tired at the moment, feel guilty keeping her up too late.

CM finishes at 6 so I leave work at 5:30 to get her for 6.

dd (5) goes to be between 7 and 8.

Saturday's are taken up with dd's activities, food shop etc

Sunday's are spent catching up with people I should have seen weeks before lol.

just feel like I am always fulfilling an obligation to someone other than myself

thanks for the comments and ideas.. will try and shake it up a bit next week

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ChasingSquirrels · 11/06/2008 22:15

online shop, will save time on Saturday.
talk to dd and find something that you would BOTH like to do - and plan it in, if not this weekend then next weekend.
movie night? - ds1 and I have started having a movie after I have got ds2 to bed, on the weekend night they aren't with their dad. ds1 LOVES it. I sometimes make popcorn aswell .

ChasingSquirrels · 11/06/2008 22:17

picnic in the garden/park on the way home from CM? means a bit of planning, but could be nice - probably even better if you could rope in a friend & dc to share it with. Maybe to late with a 6pm pick-up though.

alice30 · 11/06/2008 22:19

How about a naughty sickie tomorrow?! DD to CM as normal then home to watch a dvd, eat chocolate all day, bath, face mask, general pampering, taking your time, please yourself, etc. Or a day at the shops (away from your work of course!)

MascaraOHara · 12/06/2008 09:54

In the office.

I could quite happily just rest my forehead on my desk and not move ALL day

I am so completely uninspired buy life at the moment

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IllegallyBrunette · 12/06/2008 09:57

Oh, you have my total and utter sympathy, am having a similar day here.

If one more person says 'but you never know whats around the conrer' (wrt to jobs, blokes etc), I will thump them, because I do know whats round the corner, more of the bloody same.

MascaraOHara · 12/06/2008 10:11

lol.. ikwym.. sometimes you just feel like saying "would you just fark off"

Did you hear about that job you had the interview for, the school hours one?

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charliecat · 12/06/2008 10:15

I think you should have this sunday to yourself...so that you rent constantly on the go. RELAX, if you can and take the lid off the pressure cooker.

IllegallyBrunette · 12/06/2008 10:47

Didn't get the job no, and got another rejection letter today, without even getting to interview.
There is an official 'I have given up' thread somewhere.

MascaraOHara · 12/06/2008 11:00

Oh sorry to hear that. what a shit. it's so crap

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gillybean2 · 12/06/2008 11:29

Having one of those days/weeks too. My birthday tomorrow and lost my rag at ds last night because he prefered to play on his nintendo than make a card for me. Given his lots of oportunities to make a card but he's been too busy playing and he's out at scouts tonight so won't have time now.

I know it's not his fault, but my birthday is always so crappy, no-one makes the effort to help him get/make me a card so I have to do it myself as ever.

So tomorrow I have a day at work followed by an evening out at the supermarket food shopping to look forward too. Thrilling as ever. Plus I only have £40 shopping money to last from now until 10th July so it's going to be a pretty dire shopping 'spree'.

My only two friends won't be around either. One is getting married (quiet ceremony for their kids and parents only, party is in Aug for everyone else to celebrate - happy for her really, but just drives it home again for me how on my own I am), and the other is off to visit her ill mother in Newcastle. Will get a text from them both no doubt.

Keep remembering how horrible it was last year. Least the people at work have learnt not to ask me if i'm doing anything fun. Two years ago one well meaning lady asked if my new man was taking me out for dinner, I said we werent seeing each other any more so no, she then said I guess you'll be going to your parents for dinner then. I almost laughed out loud. My parents live two mins down the road and inviting me over for dinner wouldn't even enter their heads!

And ex bf is hanging around again trying to convince me how fun it would be to be f* buddies. Reminding me that while he might like the sex making the effort to spend time with me or have a relationship isn't worth his time. Am I just not good enough for anyone?! I could quite happily go without the sex to be honest, I just want someone to hug and hold and love me.

I know i'm feeling sorry for myself and need to snap out of it, but yes all the well meaning people who say 'stay positive', and 'Mr right might be just round the corner', really get on my nerves too. Mr right might just be round the corner, but with no money to go out, no me time, and no babysitter how am i ever going to get out of the house to meet him!?

Really wonder why I bother carrying on with it all sometimes. At least I'm feeling slightly better than i was a couple of months ago, but 9.5 years of being a single parent are really taking their toll. When is it ever going to get better?!

Sorry for hijacking

fawkeoff · 12/06/2008 11:37

(((((((((hugs)))))))))

feelin sooper shit myself today...just feel so deflated with life, sick of the shit it is throwing at me....it's just plain rude really

need to tidy my house and i cant be arsed....was on my lonesome last night and it felt shit...just curled up on the sofa and went to sleep there.

MascaraOHara · 12/06/2008 11:53

I know exactly how you feel wrt me GB..

and fawkeoff.. sounds like we are feeling exactly the same at the minute.. wonder if it's time of year ?

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fawkeoff · 12/06/2008 12:25

it must be lol....everyone i come in contact with is splitting up its just utter shit...

littlewoman · 12/06/2008 14:21

I truly believe it is the time of year. most break ups occur in summer, far as I can see. Sad.

I bet if someone chucked me in somebody else's house, someone else's situation, I would find it quite a challenge to sort things out and work things over. Why is it that I can't be bothered with my own problems and chores? Is it really just total boredom, I wonder.

MascaraOHara · 12/06/2008 14:28

we should have a non-wife swap lol sort out each others houses LOL

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fawkeoff · 12/06/2008 14:53

to top the shit day off.......wait for it......i have lost my mums fucking cat!!!!!! she only went on her hols this morning....she is gonna go spare at me i dont deserve this shit....really i dont