How long before i'm able to stop spending every waking minute thinking about whats happened?

[ambercat]

I wake up in the morning and my brain starts and will not stop ALL day and then i can't sleep at night.

H left me 2 months ago for another woman and it turns out he's been shagging around for the whole of our marriage.

I spend hours thinking about what i want to say to him and her, plotting my revenge, crying for what hes done to my children and how hes destroyed my and their future.

My brain actually hurts from obsessing about it all. I so scared about the future. I don't want to be alone. How can i move on from this?

Hi guys, thought i was doing ok but have just had an email from h after nearly 2 weeks silence and feel like it has set me back to how i was at the start of all this.

He doesn't even say much in it but has set my mind racing again.

I'm so sick of all this mess, i want my life back. he will be back here seeing the kids from next week for 2 weeks,i am going to try and stay out of his way as nmuch as possible, am going away for a long weekend and will try and work a couple of nights but will still see him. Its too hard but i have made a big deal of him seeing the kids so i can't not let him.In a way just wish he would just fuck off out of all our lives but my kids would be devastated.

I feel like if i talk normally to him i am in some way condoning his behaviour but we need to talk about finances/contact with the kids and xmas. I hate this and him.