Does anyone else NOT find it easier as a single parent?

[Lifelife]

I feel like the only single parent that doesn’t find it easier being on their own. Everyone says how great and wonderful it is and how much easier it is on your own. Does anyone else find it harder as a single parent or is it really just me?

Depends on why you split and how involved your ex was. If your ex was a dead weight making more work and doing nothing, or more abusive then it might be easier. If your ex contributed to family life then it could be harder.

I chose to have kids by myself and it’s definitely tough - but I do feel grateful not to have the emotional baggage so many of my friends have in what look like very healthy marriages. They are always struggling with the shared decision making and lack of equal contribution from their partner - and even more so the associated resentment - and it’s the latter that would drag me down. I don’t have anyone to resent - I made my choices and I’m happy with them. That is freeing.

I found it easier not worrying about exdh needs/moods. Being able to do what I want. Less pots and laundry.
i found it hard not having someone to tag in if I needed a break. Having to deal with my car/diy myself

But I preferred being single to married.

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Asking if anyone doesn’t find it easier, I know lots say they do that’s why I asked if anyone doesn’t

Sorry didn’t mean to sound so abrupt it’s just I read lots of people saying it’s easier and I understand the reasons, abuse etc but that doesn’t apply here so wondered if anyone doesn’t actually find it easier on their own.

I find it difficult for certain things like I’ve recently applied for a job and I realised how little time I actually have to sit down and research, plan and be comfortable and calm about the application. My ex only has my DD for 8.5 hours pw and in that time, I’m looking after my mum so I literally have zero time to do anything for me, not even anything fun but just job apps, smear, dentist etc.

Everything else, I find much better and easier. Like pp said though, it’s easier but only if it’s a crap ex!

@StarDolphins I normally let a pile of home admin type of things grow and then try to get an alone evening to sort it all out. It’s super difficult concentrating with your children constantly needing something, I felt like I was constantly behind on life.

It has never seemed easier to me

I am only month in but it’s extremely hard. It’s lonely, relentless and even when the kids are with their Dad it doesn’t feel right. My alone time doesn’t feel right anymore and the drop offs and pick ups are depressing and upsetting. I feel like so many on here say how much easier it is doing it alone and not answering to anyone or the relief of not being in a toxic relationship anymore but I just feel gutted. 😞