anyone else’s kids get let down today? fathers day shambles

[Chattymum23]

hi just feelin proper sad tonight

boys made cards at school for their dads n not one of em showed up or even messaged. my 4yo kept askin when his daddy was comin n i didn’t know what to say 😔 the older 2 pretended they didn’t care but i know they do

i tried to make the day nice took em park n did a roast but it just hit me how much i’m doin it all on my own n no one even notices

feel like cryin tbh. just wanted them to feel special today not forgotten

anyone else feel like this day is just a kick in the teeth? x

What was their excuse? Have you heard from them at all?

Is it 3 dads? Do you have an amicable relationship with them? Did you invite them over?

Did they have plans to come? Father’s Day isn’t really about making the kids feel special.

Do the fathers see their DC regularly?

no plans really they just said “might pop round” but didn’t. no call no txt nothing

the older 3’s dad sees em now n then when it suits him. says he’s skint or busy but got time for pub 🤷‍♀️

4yo’s dad ain’t been round since before xmas. blocked me ages ago

i know fathers day ain’t about the kids but they still feel it. littlest don’t understand why no one came n the others just go quiet n shut off.

i’m used to doin it alone just wish they didn’t have to feel like this x

Father’s Day is about acknowledging great dads, if none of your kids dads are any cop then I wouldn’t bother making it a ‘thing’ in your household. Just take your children out for a good distraction on the day so that they aren’t dwelling on it. Bad dads don’t deserve any acknowledgement.

I wouldn’t have even made a thing of Father’s Day if this is what their fathers are like. If one hasn’t been round since Xmas, he wasn’t likely to pop round today.

This is the poster who is having another one with another father too?

If it's not normally a great family situation that's not going to change just because its fathers day, so you need to try not make it a big deal. If you do feel it needs acknowledged you could make it like Santa's letters and make up a postbox for them to put the cards in that get delivered to dads. Special dad mail.

As above. These so called 'dads' don't need celebrating.

She's having another one?

How is your relationship with your own Dad? You could make it more about your Dad / your DC Grandad instead?

This - validate it. Sit them down say….. I’m folks I think you went to a lot of effort and I’m going to say thanks for your effort but suggest for next year - we keep these things in a box if they turn up they get them in 2026 if not we go to 2027 but I'm telling you that you are thoughtful nice kids!!

yeah ur probly right tbh

just felt bad cos they was excited after makin them cards at school n thought someone would turn up. i didn’t big it up or owt they just had hope init

i just hate seein em gutted even if i knew it was comin

n yeah i’m preg again but don’t mean i planned it or went lookin for it. life’s messy sometimes don’t mean i don’t care

my own dad passed years ago n they don’t really have much family on that side so it’s just me really

will defo try n do somethin diff next year like that letter box idea x

As above, Father's Day is about acknowledging dads for what they do. If they don't warrant acknowledgement I wouldn't bother or definitely wouldn't make a big deal of it. If the kids made cards at school I'd stick them in the post to their dads but that's it. I definitely wouldn't even mention it being Father's Day on the day, I'd just do something with the kids.

I don't want to pile on or kick you when you're down but if you're the 5 kids poster (and I was supportive on that thread) pls stop having kids with shit men 😔

On this topic, I sympathise with you... Maybe I'd have a word with school if they're making fathers day cards to give the option of something more inclusive. Lots of kids have lost a father or don't have a father etc, especially in some areas.

Not one of my SC have wished their dad happy Father’s Day. I’m disgusted at their behaviour

The last bit is just how many people type, no need to be racist/classist.

It's not a good situation. Makes me quite sad and also angry that the OP is looking for sympathy.

My eldest son made a card for me instead of his dad. Next year, I would see if they could do something similar - you do both jobs anyway!
You sound like a lovely mum who genuinely cares about her children. I also chose a terrible father for my children and have to live with the consequences of that for many years to come so I know how you’re feeling. Sending a hug to you.

thanks to the ones bein kind it means a lot

i probs will say somethin to the school cos not all families look the same n it proper set my 4yo off askin why his daddy didn’t want him 😞 not the teachers fault but still hurts

and yeah i know i’ve made choices that ain’t great i’m not thick just got caught up n now dealin with it best i can. it’s not like i’m sittin here plannin more kids i’m just tryna get thru each day

i didn’t come on here for a grammar lesson either lol i talk how i talk

next year i’ll defo do somethin diff like let them make cards for anyone they love or just go out n do somethin fun. lesson learnt x

Please just take more care from now on. Seriously. Think about what you are doing and what your priorities are. And dont complain about the fathers.

I thought most schools offered the FUDGE option (fathers, uncles, dads, grandads, everyone else) - did your boys chose their dads specifically? If so you might want to guide them ahead of time to the "everyone else" option next time, maybe another nice adult they look up to.

Well if her kids' dads had been mowed down by a speeding car it'd be the same outcome. School should still be more inclusive. And her kids and her should still be allowed to be sad that they're left out on this day. Like just because she made dumb decisions (which I too hope she stops making) doesn't mean she forfeits her right to all emotions in parenting from now on.