anyone else’s kids get let down today? fathers day shambles

[Chattymum23]

hi just feelin proper sad tonight

boys made cards at school for their dads n not one of em showed up or even messaged. my 4yo kept askin when his daddy was comin n i didn’t know what to say 😔 the older 2 pretended they didn’t care but i know they do

i tried to make the day nice took em park n did a roast but it just hit me how much i’m doin it all on my own n no one even notices

feel like cryin tbh. just wanted them to feel special today not forgotten

anyone else feel like this day is just a kick in the teeth? x

i hear u i do

i am thinkin more now n tryin to sort myself out best i can. i don’t want to be complainin all the time i just needed to vent cos it was a hard day

they did pick their dads yeah cos they still hope deep down. breaks my heart tbh cos i can’t make them stop wantin that. next time i’ll try guide em more gentle like u said, maybe help them choose someone else or even just say thank u to each other or me lol

i know it’s not perfect but i’m learnin as i go x

Good to hear!

That would be nice if you could guide them to do it to each other in a circle, thanks for being a great brother etc

Maybe think about getting them in an activity with male leaders (football? Cubs?) So they have male role models to look up to, im sure these guys have many cards this weekend.

yeah that’s a lovely idea actully 💙 think they’d like doin cards for each other n might take the sting out of it a bit

i’ve looked at cubs n that before but it was full n a bit pricey. gonna try again tho or maybe footie like u said cos they’ve got energy to burn 😅 would be good for them to have someone to look up to that sticks around

thanks for bein kind x

I dont think the op is looking for sympathy, yeah it is shit for her, she feels sad for her kids, its a shame, its not the weans fault there dad isn't there for them. My son from my first marriage regards my now husband as his dad, calls him dad and changed his name at school to his second name, but then son was let down time and time again by birth dad. These things stick in there little minds, its a shame, its really not nice to see a wee child with a crestfallen face when daddy doesn't appear, or mummy to put it both ways. Makes me sad 😔

Yes it is sad for the kids. Not sure what the father situation is for the latest one but hopefully its better than previous. Although she describes herself as alone and doing it all alone so doesnt sound great.

Next year get yourself a gift from your kids because you are both mum and dad rolled into one. You deserve it! Xx

Of course it is sad for the kids but its also sad for op too because she is obviously feeling sadness for the wee ones, we dont know the situation and how she feels herself, it must be awful, fathers day is everywhere, so can you imagine the wee ones in the likes of homebargins and seeing all the stuff and wondering why they aren't getting stuff for dad 😢 xx

Sometimes you don't know they are a dickhead til after you've had kids with them. Or they are great, until they meet someone else...and they drop you and the kids.

Then people judge mum who stuck around and raised the children , not dad who buggered off. What about his choices?