Ex partner formally refused me taking my son on holiday.

[lockdownmummax]

Hi there,

just a but of a back story.

my ex is in prison for serious assault on my son, my son had 4 fractured ribs at 10 weeks old, my ex was convicted and is serving a custodial sentence.

myself and my son do not have any form of contact with him or any of his parental family at all. I am taking my son away on holiday to turkey, package holiday, and my solicitor advised me I would have to gain formal consent due to my ex partner being very controlling and she felt it was in my best interests so it didn’t cause me problems, he has formally declined this through his solicitor with no explanation as to why. I have a court hearing soon to get permission through the court, anyone have any insight into if I will be allowed via the court? what reason could he possibly give to say I can’t take my son on holiday.

due to what happened to my son I had to have a parenting assessment which all came back positive and I worked with social services to get my son safe, my son lives with me full time and I have residency for him and also a NHO with power of arrest against my ex partner, and a no contact order for my son for my ex partner.

a psychologist report was done on my ex and it clearly stated he was controlling and shouldn’t be around children, so I’m just hoping the court takes this into consideration.

the only thing I can think of is that my son had asthma, he is 2. However he is on a wheeze plan and I have managed that perfectly fine since birth, I have brought my son up alone since he was 10 weeks old with no reports or evidence to say I’m not capable, the reports say the opposite as a matter of fact. I am also going with my dad on holiday too so I won’t be alone, and I qualify as a nurse in less than a year so I’m more than capable of managing my sons asthma, I also paid extra to have a hotel with a dr’s inside the hotel for that reason,
any tips of advice ?. Similar stories, so devastated my sons been through an awful time in his short life and I’m trying to give him a better childhood with taking him on holiday for happy memories and this POS is still trying to destroy our lives

Good luck!

Keeping everything crossed 🤞

My ex has an indirect contact which is part of a child arrangements order. Part of this order I can take my daughter out of the country for 28 days without his permission. It was easy to obtain and from what you have said I doubt a judge would prevent this.

as for going without documentation, last year I forgot to bring the documents and literally realised at the airport (to lanazrote) was so incredibly stressed but even with different surnames we were not asked for documentation. We were lucky!

however, saying that in all the times she has been abroad (5 times in total) only once has I been asked for documents and that was in the uk airport coming home!

another note once you have the documents it might be worth getting them notarised. We are going to USA next year and I’m incredibly nervous about it. So have them specifically notarised for this occasion.

good luck but I think the judge will grant this, it’s not an unusual request.

We got the order !!!! Xxxx

Hooray! Well done, now have a great holiday!

Yay! So happy to hear this. Enjoy your holiday (and the rest of your life) in peace and quiet :)

Wonderful! I hope you have it for all future holidays too. Have a wonderful time OP.

Am sure you will get the result you need. Maybe take steps to change your sons surname if that’s at all possible in medium-long term? X

Congratulations! Hope you both have a wonderful holiday.

Brilliant news, have an amazing holiday and hopefully parental rights will be terminated soon.

Read all your posts OP and delighted to hear you got the order. I hope you, your Dad and your DS have a wonderful holiday.

Fantastic! Get those bags packed and have a lovely time! 🤗

I think the only proper response is Ya Boo Sucks to the ex

Wonderful! Have a lovely holiday.

Fabulous, I was slightly starting to panick thinking I was giving you my house.....that's how confident I was you'd get the order!

Did the judge say anything?

Fabulous!!
Have a wonderful holiday and don't give him anymore headspace.

Take a copy of his birth certificate with his passport. I hope you both have a wonderful holiday.

Yay! Well done. Have a lovely time.

Yes!!! You and your son deserve this OP. What an utter scumbag he is- I hope you get his parental rights terminated and never have to deal with him again.

Congratulations!!!!! Have a great holiday.

Hopefully you can put this controlling scumbag in the rear view mirror very soon.

Excellent! It's so good when controlling abusers find out that they no longer have control.

My DD had a controlling ex but because she is the resident parent she can take the DC abroad on holiday for 28 days

That’s the best news!!!!

Great! And did the judge say have a lovely holiday as I predicted? 🎉

Have a lovely holiday. Sounds like it’s just what you need xx