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I am a new mumsnetter looking for other single mum friends!

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girliefriend · 14/05/2008 20:29

Hello is there anyone out there! Feel like the only single parent on the planet! All my mum friends are married or have a partner and am starting to feel really 'single'! Plus all the marrieds are now having more children and I am starting to get pitying looks of the 'I'm sure you will meet someone before it is too late' variety!

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PurpleOne · 14/05/2008 20:51

Hi, am a single mum too, and have been for 6 years.

Welcome to our club.

Janos · 14/05/2008 21:33

Another singlie here too. Good to meet you girliefriend

NoLongerMyFirstPost · 14/05/2008 21:43

Hi there, another single mum here (4 years and counting) and also a new mumsnetter!

I posted my first post tonight on another thread so I feel I am on a roll now!

I look forward to chatting and getting to know you all over the coming days/weeks/months/years!!

tortoise · 14/05/2008 21:46

Single mum of 4 here. have been single for nearly 3 years.
Welcome to MN.

chocabloc · 15/05/2008 00:24

me too woo hoo!! think the graetest thing is having the place a complete shithole.. and putting it off for days because u can i love it.. even though im very tidy!! can be stressfull, just makes it great when ur out though appreciate things a little more!!

PurpleOne · 15/05/2008 01:06

chocabloc, thats what I love the most.

I can come home, dd's back from school and the place looks like an absolute tip.

But who cares?

DD's will help out and empty - refill dishwasher, put hoover around while I'm doing ironing or putting stuff away...

Noone complains, and I love that

mashedup · 15/05/2008 08:21

Hi

I've been a single parent for 10 years and wouldn't change a thing. We are independent, and although it can be hard at times, our confidence grows, and we cope, (we have to).

Tippychick · 15/05/2008 09:14

Hello

Fairly newly single and newly parent ( about 9 months and 20 months respectively) here, hello and welcome

sillybillybee · 15/05/2008 09:17

Hi welcome to MN, I've been a single mum for 6 yrs now and I hadn't quite realised it was that long so I must be enjoying it most of the time .

wooga · 15/05/2008 09:56

Hi,I've been single for 7 months now,it's so nice not having football/computer games dominate family life anymore!

I always called them his 'computer games' because it really annoyed him!

Welcome-I love MN, such a life-saver!

LonelySingleMummy · 15/05/2008 21:26

Hi I am new to this site and have been meaning to join something like this for ages. I have mum friends but they are all attached and it's different being alone. You're never sure whether you're doing the right thing or if there's a better way... There's just no-one to run things by. And it's lonely at night when my son goes to bed.
I am 33 now and have been single all thru my pregnancy, my son is now 6 months old. I worry I might never be pregnant again and worry whether my son will be happy with no siblings (I was one of 4 kids!)
Maybe I worry too much

Anyway welcome to a fellow newby!

M x

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girliefriend · 19/05/2008 20:33

yay I have friends sorry for the slow response still working my way round this site! It is good to know that I am not the only single mum and today I have been thinking of the good things about being a single mum 1) I don't have to live with some smelly bloke and pretend to be interested in sex when I would rather read my book and go to bed!!! 2) I get my daughter all to myself - I don't have to share her with anyone! I can make my own decisions and don't have anyone else to worry about. 3) hmm I have hope that I will meet mr fantastic one day (how many marrieds can honestly say that!) XxX

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taken4granted · 19/05/2008 21:10

Another single mum dd aged 7 going through awfull time with exp but love dd to bits and at the end of the day I can always be there for her and not have to share those fab moments of happiness when they do say something lovely its all down to me!!! -most people on here are great so welcome (grin)

SparklePrincess · 19/05/2008 21:45

Im a recently single mum too. I have 2 lovely dd`s who I adore & are my world, but Im starting to enjoy the "me time" I get when they go to f**kwits house now too.

Prettyjen · 19/05/2008 22:03

Hi all, I'm a new mumsnetter (first post tonight) and I've been a single mum for exactly 1 year yesterday and I'm still getting used to it. Some days good,some days lonely! Nice to know I'm not alone

Katiekins83 · 20/05/2008 20:25

Another single mum here too! im with prettyjen on the lonely thing thou...especially when my DS in tucked up in bed... and now that i live all alone! although good points of this majorly outway the bad!

Katiekins83 · 20/05/2008 20:28

oh and girliefriend i know where you are coming from with everyone pairing up and getting pregnant...there must be something in the water where i live...6 of my girlfriend have told me that they are preg in the last week...2 today!
just to remind you that you are the only single one left! lol! and yes one day we will all find mr right!

mummyeme · 20/05/2008 20:54

Single mum too.
Hello everyone! I'm single mummy to my dd 3. I totally second what you said girlifriend

maltesers · 20/05/2008 21:04

i am single and have 2 teenagers, and a 7 yr old ds. Have met someone special but i know exactly what its like being lonely and single and wonder if you will ever meet anyone again. It can get quite lonely and depressing..... and you just live in hope things will get better. Well, they can. I have met a new man and things have brightened up a lot. He is lovely and very caring, great body, kind, passionate and conciderate. Sitting here though tonite alone , one teenagers out at work and 7 yr old in bed. Peaceful, but can get lonely and boring.
You are not alone, and being single is better than putting up with some awful , aggressive, selfish arrogant man who does cares too hoots. Hang on in there and take care, hugs. xx

fransmom · 21/05/2008 17:12

hi allxxx i'm single mom too, of nearly 8 mths standing. dd is 3.

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girliefriend · 21/05/2008 22:33

Hello all, I don't find it that depressing being single and although it is hard work being a single mum (and a financial nightmare) I think sometimes making your own decsions makes life simpler. I have hope of meeting someone nice one day but i definately don't feel sorry for myself and I know a lot of very lonely and miserable marrieds. It is good to know there are other single mums out there xXxXx

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mogs0 · 21/05/2008 23:18

So far, I've brought ds (5yrs) up alone and often think that I'm in a much better place than if ds' Dad were around.

Until I moved house (5 months ago) I didn't really mind being on my own with ds (except for having to go to the odd wedding on my own!). However, since the move I'm miserable. I find it really hard to start conversations with people. Once the conversation is started you can't shut me up but that initial ice-breaker is torture for me.

It's great to have support here from fellow single-parents. Would also be nice to have some RL ones to hang-out at the park with on the weekend!!

fransmom · 22/05/2008 11:03

how about we arrange some regional meet-ups?

solo · 22/05/2008 11:05

fransmom, I was just going to say the same thing!

fransmom · 22/05/2008 11:08

righty-oh!

i am in sw, near bristol but not close enough iyswim