Does any one else have other single parent friends?

[SpinsterinScotland]

Hello

I;ve been lurking for a while.....

I am a single mum to DS who is 2. I left DS's dad as he was behaving like a complete tosser and I just could not continue to live with him for my sake and for DS's.

Literaly ALL my friends are married, and I feel so lonely and isolated as if I have nothing in common with them anymore.

It feels like everyone else is in a happy bubble and I am outside looking in. I owuld love to meet someone else and have a "proper family". I always wanted to get married and have a big family and yet here I am 34 and single, when it feels that everyone else is married and pregnant.

It is difficult being happy when friends are pregnant again when I long to be, but can't see it happening. I got a text from a friend asking to borrow my pregnancy books and that actually made me feel really sad. I know it is silly - I don;t need them, but it just got me as it reminded me that I would like to be the pregnant one right now and I am not and can;t see it happening!

I would like to make some other single mum friends who can understand what it is like!

Paddle - thats funny I have one single mum friend who I met through MN too

I have acouple of others but who live away now so we only really meet up occasionally.

I'm lucky because I have family locally who I see quite a lot of. No real solution that anyone hasn;t suggested but sympathy - I know weekends can be hard.

I do have marreid friends who are happy to meet at weekends too though - oftne if they have laregr families their DH will take the older kids off somewhere and we get together and do something toddler friendly.

It's also not that good a thing for anyone's DC (or anyone with a pulse) to get hte impression that the world is made up of nuclear families anyway. Depending on what your actual tastes and interests are, why not look out for activity groups clubs etc which are kid-friendly but not kid-focused (things that come immediately to my mind are folk festivals, rambling or hiking groups, maybe community theatre groups) because you will get a mix of single, married, adults, kids, parents and non parents and you'll havea common insterest to start with.

i I did have a single parent mum friend, but she really proved to be a total PITA, always begging for money and sending her ds1 up here knocking on my door for fags, and asking for gas money. l

Jeezo, that would piss me off as well.

I second Madamez that you have to keep trying, trying, trying and develop a thick skin. But it is hard - I relocated to Edinburgh too so didn't already have a group of friends around me.

Hi I am new to this site and have been meaning to join something like this for ages. I have mum friends but they are all attached and it's different being alone. You're never sure whether you're doing the right thing or if there's a better way... There's just no-one to run things by. And it's lonely at night when my son goes to bed.
I am 33 now and have been single all thru my pregnancy, my son is now 6 months old. I worry I might never be pregnant again and worry whether my son will be happy with no siblings (I was one of 4 kids!)
Maybe I worry too much

M x

LSM - try MN meet-up threads or MN local, I have made some good friends locally that way. Some areas are better than others. Where are you?

Another one who here who can empathise,

What really really really bugs me, is when my 'couple friends' go out for say dinner ect and I don't get invited,
the last time this happened I actually bit the bullet an asked a close friend why?
and she said everyone thought I would find it difficult

Hi Kewcumber. I'm Sheffield. All single parents out there, get in touch if you want to natter anytime. Also try out : www.netmums.com/h/n/SUPPORT/HOME/ALL/455//

They have a meet a mum local to you page :p