Sleeping arrangements

[GrandadArthur]

My son has his (2 year old) son 2 days a week.

Until recently he was in a travel cot in my son's room, this was distracting as he was hard to settle and kept waking up.

We moved him downstairs at bedtime on to a futon, if he wakes for a drink or needs a nappies change one of us sit with him until ho goes back to sleep.

We find this arrangement good as he sleeps longer and seems happier.

However, his mother found out and says that this is neglect???

Anyone have thoughts on the age when children should have their own room as it seems she is using this as a device to stop visitation.

She wants my son to move his child back into his room where he sleeps with his partner which I personally feel inappropriate

She wants my son to move his child back into his room where he sleeps with his partner which I personally feel inappropriate

Why? Because they're having sex and disturbing the child?

They're the ones who need to go down to the futon (for sex) then they can go back upstairs so that the baby isn't alone.

And she's a new girlfriend, surely? Hardly a partner.

How old is your son @grandadarthur ?

She won't be back 😂

I'm not surprised - you can't leave a 2 yo sleeping downstairs when all the adults are up. If it's the girlfriend that's the issue then she doesn't stay when any is surely? Or adults sleep downstairs? Lots of options but def not baby downstairs on his own! 😳

I think it's a fella.

Is the room toddler is sleeping in completely childproofed? We didn’t use a cot for our 2yo, but her room was set up to be safe.

the father could be sleeping on the futon and giving his child the bedroom.

no, the child shouldn’t be sharing a room with the girlfriend or boyfriend. That person shouldn’t be there at all. The child is only 2 so the relationship can’t be very long established anyway. Date nights don’t need to happen during custody time.

@littleoldme3 dont want to derail thread but private nursery takes the kids to the school nursery on the same site after lunch. Kids lined up, mine was in the loo, they took the kids across, locked the door and the private staff went home. A dinner lady heard my child crying and alerted the senior school staff x

If its adults upstairs the dc downstairs on a futon- no, no no with bells on! My dc would not be staying over again ever until he could advocate for himself. Trust totally gone. This is so no okay.

@As476 How awful for your little one 😓 That’s really horrendous! I’m guessing (other than being very upset and scared) that your little one was ok?
I have a very nervous child who struggles with separation anxiety and I know I’d never get him back in the nursery door if that happened.

I hope the staff were disciplined afterwards? Imagine if that happened at a fire alarm or something! Thank goodness the dinner lady heard your child!

I’ve sent you a message x