Ex mother in law

[thornrose]

I split from my partner 7 years ago when our dd was 12 months old. My ex did not have a great relationship with his mum when we were together so consequently neither did I. My ex and dd have contact and he takes her to see his mum about once a month.
The problem is she still rings me desperate to stay in touch, she guilt trips me about not seeing her granddaughter enough and just makes me feel really uncomfortable. She tries to persuade me to take dd to visit her without telling ex, which I wouldn't do.
She only has my mobile number and I want to just ignore her calls from now on,my sister agrees thats ok but I don't know if I'm being a total cow! Her son and I have been split up for 7 years, I don't want to speak to her, is that ok?

Arse is being kind..

I know exactly how you feel - I made huge efforts with my MIL when me and exh were together but they don't have a good relationship and I never really liked her - she used to say silly things to my DSs, like "If you shout out when Nana's babysitting, I'll go home and leave you on your own" (they're 4 and 2!!). She wanted to stay in contact with me and come round to "help" once me and exh had split but as I see it, it's up to my ex to arrange time for children to see her - afterall, he wouldn't want any contact with my parents - in fact, he hates them. So even though I sometimes feel bad, I know that the ex takes them to her house sometimes and that's enough for me. He left me afterall, so he can deal with the fallout from his side of the family. Harsh, perhaps but I spent so long in our marriage trying to please him and his awkward bunch, that I figure it's his turn now - I've got single motherhood to deal with!

Oh googoomama, I'd stopped checking this thread, thought it was done, glad I looked now.
Sounds like your situation is very similar to mine, nice to hear someone has similar feelings to me too. I've had some lovely responses on here but generally went away feeling a bit of a cow for not trying a bit harder!
And same here, ex wouldn't dream of staying in contact with my side of the family!