I know I should be happy to have a childless period, but i'm strugglaing to get my head around it.
I have to take DS to XH's workplace on the thurs afternoon (60 miles from me) XH will drop me at the train station and I have to get the train back and XH will take my car to his parents in the north. (this has annoyed me somewhat - why can't he come to me but either way, i'll go there as can see friends there at the same time).
So XH will drive the 4 hours north with DS on the thurs afternoon & stop with his parents until the monday morning and travel back to my house & I have to then drive him back to his work place. (am I being unreasonable in not wanting to do all of this driving about - prob am but I seem to be very accomodating of him at the mo apparently??)
anyhow, my main concerns are MIL has 2 yorkshire terriers which shouldn't beother me as I have 2 dogs - GSD being one so much bigger, on the other hand while ds is used to dogs her two are very very snappy & i'm not at all happy about DS being around them. they to pinch/nip.
PIL also live opposite their local - I know that as the inlaws and it's the first time any of XH's small family will have seen DS so naturally MIL will want to show DS off to everyone, but on the other hand, I don't want DS to be sat in a pub/running around the pub from midday until he falls asleep there at 8pm (or later on) - as to me that's not on.
I don't expect XH to actually be with DS for a lot of it - MIL is obv going to want to show DS off - as she hasn't had the chance to yet. i'm just struggling to get my head around it all. They all smoke in the house (another thing which annoys me) as apparently as long as a window's open it's fine while XH was here week before last with DS - I was popping in and out every day to make sure he was OK. (DS is only 2 and I know he'll be with his dad & will love the extra attention from the inlaws), but if anything does happen i'll be so far away. not to mention it's the longest stretch i'll have spent away from him iycwim. I'm looking forward toa few days on my own but also dreading it. I can't be there in 10 mins if DS is unhappy, not to mention he's only 2 so can't tell me really if he didn't like it/anything happened to him.
I know i'm being completely irrational, & unreasonable in my worries, so someone slap me now and tell me he'll be OK, everything will be fine etc. this will be a 1 chance thing for PIL at the minute to prove that I can trust them both as MIL & I have a long history of her being well, to put it bluntly her and XH are both manipulative & controlling, FIL is can also be violent when drunk, as can BIL towards FIL, the whole house hold is very volatile when alcohol is around (which is every day - XH openly admits they're alcoholics) and basically I don't want MIL to mess my boy up like she has hers. even thou I know it's only 5 days.